I hate being logical & emotional.

[bullygirl979]

Aww....hugs, mp. Huge, huge hugs. If it makes you feel better, I am the same way and am totally in the same place. I wish we lived near each other. I would bring over stupid movies and liquor.

[BlueBayou]

Oh MP I know what you mean. I have to dissect everything and know why, why, why. Big big hugs your way. Find a good book about this and hole up in bed but make yourself go out in a couple days and reach out to ur friends. This will pass!!

[jade28]

({) (}) Hugs! I understand how you feel and I have been there time and again. I also obsess with relationships and try to understand every.little.thing until I exhaust myself. I am also a combination of logical and emotional so things can get hard when I lose someone I care about.

I have learned that no amount of thinking or worrying changes anything and it only drives me nuts so why torture myself? You can choose to think and think about it knowing it won't change anything or you can choose to let it go. Looking back, I always roll my eyes at the way I obsessed over people who were not worth it and gave up so much of my time and energy to trying to understand them - no one fits into nice, perfect boxes that always make sense. It is as it is.

This quote inspires me when I feel overwhelmed and upset and unable to let things go that are upsetting me:

[jojoandleo]

Overanalyzer checking in. I hate that part. It's liking torturing yourself slowly with no results.

Why didn't it work out: because he wasn't willing to put in the WORK-the very easy simple job of including you in his life. You deserve someone who won't just budget time for you, but will INCLUDE you.

[missbetty1]

I wouldn't tell you to not cry...I think that it comes along with healing. Sorry you are feeling down, I was there for weeks I'm finally starting to feel better...but I'm still going to invite myself to the little party you and bullygirl are having I'll bring something with alot of calories that tastes really realy good

[lookingup]

No, don't knock off your crying. Have a good cry and get it all out. Then, when you're finished blubbering and your mouth is dry, take a shower, put on some lipstick, and get your shit together.

But seriously. I'm sorry you're having such a rough day. I would give you a huge (((hug))) if I could. I hope tomorrow is better for you.

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(HUGS)

[turtle1120]

MP - hugs!!! I'm sorry.

Jade - that quote is exactly what I needed right now.

[spindle92]

({) mp (})

[cam13]

I am the same way, I over-anaylze and have to know why all the time. Drives me crazy.

huge hugs to you, I hope tomorrow is a better day.

[usedtobebear]

I'm sorry hun, I've been m.i.a from the board and behind in your story but it sounds like you're having a rough time, be kind to yourself, ((HUGS)) :drink:

[udscoobychick]

*hugs*

[blackkitty]

I'm sorry mp
(((Hugs)))

[Deleted]

BIG HUGS. I can relate to the way you're feeling. I over analyze too. And FWIW, I think the holidays are especially rough to be alone. I feel down lately because I'm alone. But I try to realize that I'm lucky for so many things and there are many people going through horrific things in life and my stuff is trivial compared to that.

[doriswe]

Dec 18, 2012 14:38:26 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Aww....hugs, mp. Huge, huge hugs. If it makes you feel better, I am the same way and am totally in the same place. I wish we lived near each other. I would bring over stupid movies and liquor.

This is totally me too....and Bully and I have had this conversation more times than I can count this year.

Huge hugs coming from me tonight!!

[glitzyglow]

Oh, sweet mp, I know it's hard. I remember getting so upset because my job is to make sense of things and to explain why they happened they way they did, yet I couldn't tell anyone why my exH was cheating on me. It just didn't make sense and I desperately wanted it to.

One of the best quotes anyone said to me was, "You can't make sense of nonsense." I still repeat that to myself when I get choked up thinking about everything.

I'll be thinking about you and I send you big hugs. Just be gentle with yourself.