This is all such great advice, I've found it all to be true!
AS we say in our house, cover the boy's weapon and point it down during diaper changes! I think you kind of learn that one the hard way real quick, haha.
Don't be hard on yourself in regards to household chores. The dishes will wait, the laundry can be folded later. This is something I've stressed about and it just isn't worth it.
Accept help when it is offered! WE are so far from family and friends, when my Mom was here it was amazing to just have someone bring me a glass of water even. Don't turn help away!
On tough hard days take it one hour at a time if you need to. This too shall pass!
Do whatever you have to do to survive the first few months (which can last longer than you thought possibly)
It's ok to not like your baby. Everyone around me was soooo in love with their babies and everything was perfect and I felt like a loser. Then my SIL and BIL said they didn't like their first kid for like 3-6 months. I immediately felt better. It's normal.
If you're BFing don't quit on a bad day. This got me through so many bad days.
I try so hard to go with the flow because he is a baby and it will change. It's helped because I knwo it won't last long.
Don't feel afraid to deny help too. My mom was over every single day until DS was 3 months old. It sucked.
It's ok to *not* go out. When you have a super fussy baby it becomes a lot easier to stay in the house to deal with it where no one can hear or cluck or help. It will end.
On an opposite note, (I wish I had the balls to do this) it's ok to tell people No! I was able to tell my dad not to come visit in the hospital before 10 or 11 am (DS was born just before 4 am and we went to the hospital at 1 am) because we needed a nap.
However, me telling him we didn't need help when we left the hospital didn't sink in. I should have told him we did not want visitors right after coming home. We got released from the hospital, came home, DH helped me take a shower and then I was BFing DS and my dad showed up. He didn't hold or visit with the baby but just wanted to tell us about his trip to walmart to get pics of DS printed for my grandparents. I was so annoyed/overwhelmed/tired and didn't want him there (we aren't close). Next time I or DH will be firm with the"NO".