People ask me all.the.time if my boys are twins. They have different color hair (blonde vs. brown), different color eyes (blue vs. brown), and the big one is a full head taller than the little one. Nevermind if they are actually speaking, one is clearly older than the other.
People are weird and just want to say something about your kids...so they'll say anything!
We went to a wedding in July and DS has been up for 12 hours without a nap by the time the reception started. It was soooo loud and he was so unhappy. We spent about an hour trying to get him happy before we gave up and left.
Two weeks ago DH's aunt called about something (it was her kid's wedding in July) and asked if DS was "still crabby"
Post by DarcyLongfellow on Dec 19, 2012 10:06:17 GMT -5
People say weird things about young kids (especially newborns) because they feel like they need to say something, bit they don't know what to say.
I used to laugh because when DD was younger I regularly got both, "oh, she's so small for her age" AND "oh wow, she's big for her age, isn't she?" People just don't have a clue!
Now she mostly just gets comments about how pretty she is. Which is sweet, but because I read too much about raising little girls, I really wish people would comment on something other than her looks. Again, I think people just want to say something, and they're not sure what else to say to a little kid.
Two weeks ago DH's aunt called about something (it was her kid's wedding in July) and asked if DS was "still crabby"
Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. Older relatives just forget what having young kids is like.
My own grandmother talked for -- literally -- 20 years about how I was so selfish as a child. All because the summer I was 3 we took a long car ride in the summer in the South in a car without air-conditioning and I apparently complained about being hot. She actually wrote me a birthday card one year when in was in law school which said, "You've turned out so well. I never would have expected it since you were such a brat as a child."
People always say that she is darker than me and H.
No shit. Black folk come in a wide range of colors.
Everyone says. Oh wow he is so much lighter than you. I go well up he hasn't had 30 yrs in the sun like we have ... WTF. Black people and this light vs dark crap always pisses me off. I also get comments about how nice his hair is. 8-D
Two weeks ago DH's aunt called about something (it was her kid's wedding in July) and asked if DS was "still crabby"
Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. Older relatives just forget what having young kids is like.
My own grandmother talked for -- literally -- 20 years about how I was so selfish as a child. All because the summer I was 3 we took a long car ride in the summer in the South in a car without air-conditioning and I apparently complained about being hot. She actually wrote me a birthday card one year when in was in law school which said, "You've turned out so well. I never would have expected it since you were such a brat as a child."
Eeek! That's terrible! Was she all around nasty? My grandmother lacks a filter. At xmas one time she told me not to stop eating potatoes because "you want to fit into your wedding dress" and I couldn't believe she said it out loud at the restaurant.
Eeek! That's terrible! Was she all around nasty? My grandmother lacks a filter. At xmas one time she told me not to stop eating potatoes because "you want to fit into your wedding dress" and I couldn't believe she said it out loud at the restaurant.
No, not really nasty, just not a warm and cuddly grandmother! She also sort of resented me because my mother was her favorite child and could do no wrong, so any normal toddler or teenager conflict between me and my mom was evidence of my brattiness and my mom's sainthood :-)
In her later years, she went on antidepressants, and she became a new person. So much more fun to be around!
People ask me all.the.time if my boys are twins. They have different color hair (blonde vs. brown), different color eyes (blue vs. brown), and the big one is a full head taller than the little one. Nevermind if they are actually speaking, one is clearly older than the other.
People are weird and just want to say something about your kids...so they'll say anything!
Ha! I get asked all the time if my girls are twins, too!
I mean, they do look similar but there's quite a large height difference. It's pretty obvious that they're not the same age.
Post by sewpinkgal on Dec 19, 2012 10:45:46 GMT -5
He is So Alert! has turned into He is So Serious! recently.
My latest odd comment is "he's too prett to be a boy!" I just made some odd noise in my throat and kept walking. I mean, how do you even respond to that?!
I get this comment every time I walk into any store anywhere. I can't imagine that I could have had kids even 9 months apart that would look so similar in age.
I've figured out that people assume twins fall into one of two categories:
Identical, same sex or Fraternal, opposite sex
People seem to be surprised that same-sex fraternals exist. My boys look different (different hair and eye colors, one is bigger than the other), but you can definitely tell they are sibling and the same age.
DS1 got "he is so alert" constantly when he was a baby--from nurses, doctors, strangers on the street, etc. I think it is because he was always awake and looking around. He was never a sleepy newborn.
People always say that she is darker than me and H.
No shit. Black folk come in a wide range of colors.
Lol this is DS when he was first born, you wouldn't believe the comments I got. Including "is that your husband's kid?"
Yes some black kids are born light with straight hair. It's like white babies and blue eyes.
And we used to get the "he's so alert!" all the time.
Ditto, I go to a mostly white church and when the church members came to visit me in the hospital they kept asking why my sons hair was straight. It looked just like your LO's pic.
Yesterday, I brought DD to our school holiday reception. Bold move considering it was just about nap time, so she was a ticking time bomb basically and I warned everyone that got all up in her face. After a wimper, a co-worker (who has a reputation for being SUPER negative) said "why would you put her in jeans? No wonder she's whining. She shouldn't be in jeans until she's out of diapers. Those cloth diapers make the jeans soooo tight. She looks uncomfortable." BLAH BLAH BLAH she just kept going on and on about the damn "jeans". They were cotton jeggings for goodness sake!
C always gets "he has a beautifully shaped head," particularly if they ask how my L&D was and I tell them he was stuck and I pushed for 3.5 hours to get him out.
"He has fantastic eyelashes" and people comment on his brown eyes a lot. Which is actually a pretty good thing to comment on, as he clearly gets them from me.
I've had a good run of "he's so big!" for a kid that's been 10th percentile since 6 months. People really haven't got a clue.
I get are they twins a lot w/ my little two. They are identical twins. They look basically exactly alike and are the same height/weight. I'm not sure what else they would be. But older daughter is 2 years older and a good head taller and just looks older but we get are they triplets as well.
I get "He is so beautiful"... Great, except she's not a he.
I've also been asked if she was 3 months old when she was 10 (!!) months old. Yes, she's small, but come on.
I got "it's a boy, right?" when she was in a bright pink sleeper one day.
I also got asked if she was 6 months old when she was 8 weeks. Umm, she was only like 10 lbs, so...no.
Are that many people colorblind because DD usually has at least SOMETHING pink on. The funniest (worst?) was when she was in a pink sleeper with a pink blanket and someone said that.
Another exchange was: Employee: What a beautiful baby! My H: Thanks! Employee: What's his name? Me (in ragey tone): Abigail Employee: Ohh... heeer name.
Post by ilikedonuts on Dec 19, 2012 12:22:55 GMT -5
People always go, "are you sure she's your child?." We both have brown hair and brown or hazel eyes. While DD has extremely blonde hair and bright blue eyes. I'm always like "hm.... shit, I hope she wasn't switched at the hospital!"