why does this annoy me?

[CloudBee]

When someone posts the sex of their baby on Facebook, and a friend of theirs responses in the comment thread below with "boys/girls are the BEST!!". Like they won a card draw and got lucky...?

Really, one sex is not better than the other.

Funny, responses such as "boys are fun" or "I've really enjoyed being a mom to my little girl!" never get to me. But stating that one is better than the other really annoys me.

How about just a simple congrats, as the parent is clearly excited to have a healthy baby and know the sex?

Sensitive much? lol

[karinothing]

Hmm, I just say it because I have a boy and I like him. It doesn't really mean anything.

[Ashley&Scott]

Dec 19, 2012 13:06:38 GMT -5 karinothing said:

Hmm, I just say it because I have a boy and I like him. It doesn't really mean anything.

Me too.

I don't mean any offense to parents of girls, they're awesome too.

[ECB]

Dec 19, 2012 13:06:38 GMT -5 karinothing said:

Hmm, I just say it because I have a boy and I like him. It doesn't really mean anything.

This. But to me, I'm not saying "boys are BETTER". I'm just saying "they are the best"- just because that's what I know and I couldn't imagine NOT having a little boy.

It's not meant as a comparison.

[Deleted]

I think you're reading too much into it. I don't mean that girls are literally the best sex, better than boys, I mean it in the same way I would say "Oh that grilled cheese sandwich I had was the best!" It is a figure of speech.

[sewpinkgal]

Ditto the others - I say it as a figure of speech. I think you're reading too much into it.

[CloudBee]

Okay, I know what the issue is for me.

I only have a sister. My mom always wanted girls, and ended up with 2. She told me many times growing up that "girls are wonderful, I don't know why anyone would want a boy".

Then my sister had 2 little girls of her own. My mom again kept stressing out of the blue "I don't know why anyone would wish for a boy, girls are so wonderful".

Then I find out I'm having a boy and am perfectly content. When I told her I found out I was having a boy she said "I figured that's what you would be wishing for". Um, no, I hadn't been wishing for either. I was pretty neutral on that.

So comments about sex tend to annoy me. It's not something you can't plan on, and really not something that should be wished for. Both are great.

I just analyzed myself!

[Ashley&Scott]

Your backstory makes more sense with your reaction. Your mom is being a little jerkish IMO. Don't let her get you down, most people don't mean it the way she implies.

[CloudBee]

Thanks. This post helped me realize why I felt that way.

[pugz]

the one that gets me is "little boys love their mamas!" Don't all kids love mom AND dad? I dunno, it just makes me feel bad, like DD is going to prefer her dad and I'm SOL unless we have a boy. Rationally I know it's not true, but it still bugs.

[Deleted]

Not the same thing, but I feel like everyone expects me to want a boy this time around. I don't know where this idea came about that one of each is the ideal we should all strive for. I really don't care what I have this time. I see some advantages to having another girl just because it'd be less stuff to buy... but who cares really?

The doctor told us at the NT scan that he thinks it's another girl (amount of confidence I have in this call: 0%, we are not assuming anything) and when I told my mom the news she acted clearly disappointed. She was also disappointed last time when I had a 16w scan that wrongly told me I was having a boy.

You cannot win with some people.

[Deleted]

I have both and I love having both. There are pros to each gender which is probably what they're trying to get across. I think you're being a little sensitive.

Eta: Your backstory makes sense. My mom was like that too a little bit. It's not that she didn't love my sons but she REALLY wanted to have a granddaughter. It used to irk me a little because I was completely satisfied with my boys. And now that she has one granddaughter, she's totally thrilled and is kind of subtley pushing me to have another baby in the future and I know it's because she wants another granddaughter (as if I could somehow ensure that it would turn out to be a girl, lol).

[MamaMaui24]

I think it's annoying too. I usually say something like "boys are so fun!" but I'm pretty sure I'd be saying the same thing if I had a girl.

I also don't like "ALL boy" comments, but maybe I'm also too sensitive. Having a quiet, calm, chill kid is somehow not all boy. But if he's covered in dirt, running in circles, etc. he's ALL boy? Again, I'm overthinking it.

[Saudade]

My mom was pretty upset that the a/s revealed a boy. She wanted a girl. She kept talking about how the girl clothes are better and "too bad you're not having a girl" and other comments. She'll still point out "super cute" girl clothes and no boy clothes. She loves DS but I'm sure she still wishes he were a girl. I don't get it. She isn't girly. We're not close. I don't know.