Regift - MM or rude or skip it

[explorer2001]

So my brother's girlfriend is coming to visit a few days after Christmas. I don't really know her well. We met once. They live on the other side of the country. I sort of feel like I should have something for her but I'm don't know what to get her beyond a random gift card.

I have an Itunes gift card that I apparently will never use for $25. I don't even remember where it came from. I also was recently gifted a $15 Starbucks card. I only drink Starbucks once a quarter, since work provides pretty nice coffee for free.

So here are my questions, so I regift her one of the gift cards? If so, which one? Is it rude? Should I just skip it entirely since she isn't here for the actual holiday?

I don't know what she is planning if anything. I don't know what she likes. She seems like a nice person. I hope my brother is good to her. But I really have no clue.

Also my mom made some comment about me being over generous and how if I get her something mom will have to get her something too. Ugh.

[bleubook]

Starbucks. Done and done.

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I think the $15 starbucks gc would be really nice!

[dexteroni]

It doesn't really matter which one you give, since it doesn't sound like you'll ever use either. Do you have a gift for your brother? If not, iTunes for him, Starbucks for her. Easiest gift shopping ever!

One word of warning - unless you're 100% positive you've never used either card, you might want to double check the balances online real quick so you aren't giving a cards for like $23.92 or $11.50. lol.

[jennistarr1]

is there a gift opening occasion where she'll be left out...if so, your mom should consider getting her something then too...

I would do the starbucks GC maybe packaged with something physical, a mug, hand lotion, gloves

[limey]

Either re-gift is fine. (Actually, GC are the only time I think a re-gift is a great idea.)

[explorer2001]

I already got my brother what he had on his amazon wishlist. He's coming in a few days before she does.

I am 100% certain I've never used the cards, but it's a good idea to check anyway.

My brother and I don't really speak. It's a long story. He's done some things I refuse to forget and because of those things and knowing what he is capable of doing and then expecting me to just get over, I don't trust him or enjoy his company. So I won't expose myself to dealing with him unless and until I have to. So I won't ask him. It's not worth it.

[explorer2001]

Dec 19, 2012 23:27:17 GMT -5 RockNVoll said:

Dec 19, 2012 23:10:00 GMT -5 BirdGirl said:

Or you give her one gift card and give your mom the other one to give to her.

I like this idea.

It's a nice idea, but no. You would have to understand the dynamic but mom is already getting demanding about things I own that she NEEDS to borrow so I MUST loan them to her, regardless of my own uses for them during that time. I'm not enabling this any more. Plus if I get MM approval for regifting gift cards, I have other people I'd rather give them to.

[mokes]

I think it's nice of you to give her something. I like the Starbucks gc.

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[UnderProtest]

I think the Starbucks gift card would be great. It's easy for her to travel with and most people like Starbucks. I would double check the amount, but wouldn't pay attention to the purchase date or whatever. A gift is a gift. She should accept graciously and your mom should stfu.

[juliahenry]

Grinch here.

I would not give her anything. She's not there for Christmas/present opening time, you've met her once, and you barely have a relationship with your brother. And even your mom is saying not to do it.

Save the GCs and use them for others who might enjoy them like your hairdresser or coworker's cousin or something. No need to gift random people just because they are somehow attached to family members you don't enjoy and barely see.

[Deleted]

When I had to buy a gift for my brothers girlfriend that I only met once, I called brother and made him help me that.

That said I think either of those GCs would be fine just make double sure they have never been used. I would hate to give someone an iTunes GC only to remember that I hd purchased 2 songs on in 3 years ago and $25 GC was actually only for $23.

[explorer2001]

Dec 20, 2012 0:12:47 GMT -5 @sbonkers said:

I'd write a christmas card to her and put the SB GC in it. Pop it in your purse.

If she has something for you - BAM - oh lookie here I have a gift for you too. If not - BAM - SB GC for someone else later in the year.

That's actually a great idea. Thanks.

[ECB]

Dec 20, 2012 0:12:47 GMT -5 @sbonkers said:

I'd write a christmas card to her and put the SB GC in it. Pop it in your purse.

If she has something for you - BAM - oh lookie here I have a gift for you too. If not - BAM - SB GC for someone else later in the year.

This is what I was thinking!

[takeonyou]

I actually keep a few blank note cards and random 'I will never use these' gift cards in my truck just for this type of thing. I have had far too many incidents where someone hands me a gift and I have NOTHING for them.

[hz80408]

Usually gift cards have a code/pin that you have to scratch off on the card to redeem online/call for the balance. Is that scratched off already?

If it is, I wouldn't regift because to me it's an obvious regift or sign that the card has been used. If not, then I would regift either and it's same to assume they've never been used.