Post by Ashley&Scott on Dec 20, 2012 7:00:39 GMT -5
Hugs Becca. I'm glad you have awesome family & friends available to help. Don't feel bad about venting, this is happening to you too & it's normal to had a variety of emotions about it. We're here whenever/however you need us. Best wishes to you & your family.
I'm glad things went well and I hope the 'zombie' spells go away soon. I'm also glad DD is doing well and that you have such a good support system. I'm sorry your mom is not being helpful; if she really won't back off, maybe some family members can be tasked with running interference so you don't have to deal with her. Absolutely vent here anytime, and I ditto the suggestion for a counselor. A good one can help alleviate some of the stress or at least let you blow off some steam. Hang in there.
Oh Becca. I have been thinking of you a lot -thank you for updating. I am glad you have a good support system but we are here too any time you want to vent or talk through things.
Post by karinothing on Dec 20, 2012 7:43:33 GMT -5
Oh Becca. I am so sorry you are going through this. Your family has been through so much already. It just isn't fair. I really hope this is the last surgery your husband has to have and he fully recovers. The brain is amazing. I am glad you have people that can help you out.
I don't remember where you live, but if it is the DC area please let us DC ladies know how we can help.
You commented that you feel it is your husband's business to share. Maybe the details of the diagnosis/treatment, but don't feel you have to keep the effect on you bottled up. His illness, but it does affect you, too. You need support, especially with the trying to juggle that and the kids. There is a really good reason they have caregiver support groups (which could help if you can find one with younger folks - H tried to go to one once and it was all retirees and just didn't work). You need an outlet, too, because your life has been turned upside down, too. ((((hugs))))
Becca, I'm glad to hear that surgery was a success. I'm am amazed by your strength and composure. Thinking of you and your family and sending lots of prayers and good thoughts your way.
There is a really good reason they have caregiver support groups (which could help if you can find one with younger folks - H tried to go to one once and it was all retirees and just didn't work). You need an outlet, too, because your life has been turned upside down, too. ((((hugs))))
Yeah, I sought out some support groups last time, but as you said, they were just full of people my mom's age and grandma's age. They don't "make" a support group for pregnant moms whose husbands have brain cancer.
I am in an infant loss group though. I haven't been able to go lately because of everything else going on, but the people in that group have been amazing too, so at least I do have some outlet with people who at least have an inkling of understanding.
You commented that you feel it is your husband's business to share. Maybe the details of the diagnosis/treatment, but don't feel you have to keep the effect on you bottled up.
A couple people commented on this, but this is part of what I struggle with.
So much of what is frustrating to me is the effect on the brain... Cognitive abilities and 'zombie moments'. It just feels like bashing my husband to go around saying, "guess what he did now?!?!?!" kwim?
I talk to a couple people at work (when I am there) that don't really know my husband, but I could never tell the stories to mutual friends or his co-workers or anything.
Oh Becca, thanks for sharing. Life has surely thrown a lot at you. You and you family are in my thoughts and I think you are handling this with so much grace. I am so happy to hear you have a big support system. We're here for you too.
Becca, I hope that his treatment doesn't make him too uncomfortable/tired, and that it kicks his cancer's butt.
A friend at work had a brain aneurysm this summer, and she was in that zombie state off and on for just a couple weeks after surgery. Once her body started to heal, she was back to her old self and her personality is the same as it was. I hope your husband experiences the same, and soon.