If your kids have step siblings..

[thebamker]

butting in where I don't belong...

I think this is like the ILs. Your H SHOULD do it, but if he is an asshole, you're probably going to be shouldered with it.

[hisno1girl]

Do you mean like the children buying each other gifts?

We never did that. All of the gifts to children were from us.

Now that they are all old enough they take care of that themselves but I don't think they exchange gifts since they're spread out all over the country.

[ElizabethBennet]

I don't have step parents but h does and his step mom puts in as much effort as his dad. She views h and his sister as her kids and she puts in the same effort that she does for her bio kids.

[CurlyQ284]

Wait you're saying SILs ex has other kids and she is buying gifts for the ex's kids? Yes that's ex's job, unless she really wants to. If she is a step mom and she has stepkids, then it is SIL or her husbands job. We don't do gifts from the kids, but if we did I wouldnt mind doing it if DH couldn't. I am the one that does most of the gift shopping for SDs, DH is clueless.

[cc]

My DD has a steps-sister with her dad and his wife. I do not buy presents for her step-sister from DD. I feel that her dad and step-mom should handle that.

[balletofangels]

My daughter is almost 2, but my step son is 12. DH and I both buy thinks for SS. Nobody in the family, including DH, gets anything from SS.

[ElizabethBennet]

Ignore me. I misunderstood the question.

[karmasabiotch]

We made sure my SS always had something to give to his Mom but once he was older we stopped doing that and left it up to him to take care of it. She used to buy something for my H from my SS until we got married and then I took over. It just seemed to make the most sense.

[CurlyQ284]

Yeah that's crazy. No she shouldn't spend her money on his kids with his new wife. I mean I would never expect DHs ex to get gifts for LO from my SDs but if they wanted to make something I would hope she would send it. Like a card etc.

[WOT?*]

He should be buying the presents for his house. His wife's kids, his obligation. Not hers.