Anyone have to murder their family yet?

[Doc_Lobster]

Day 3 of my mom's visit and I am starting to twitch a little.

She is having a great time, but she is just so messy. So messy. It drives me insane.

[nadasteph]

I just about went ape shit last night on h's aunt after she set my kid down all by himself next to an open stair case and walked away. Wtf? He is ten months old. She could have given us the heads up.

[amberatkins]

This makes me so thankful that we are home alone today, just me, DH and the kids. Of course, ILs come on Friday so I'm sure by Saturday I'm going to want to cry, yell at someone and run away.

[joenali]

My family doesn't bother me that much, in fact I like spending time with them. I don't get the "My family is here, I want to kill them." talk.

[Doc_Lobster]

I like my family too, I just have a hard time sharing a house with my mom.

[Doc_Lobster]

I think it is a lot easier to enjoy a visit when you can do it in neutral territory.

The thing about my mom is that she is very messy and a borderline hoarder (not bad enough to be on the show, but her house is not very pleasant to visit). Having grown up in that environment I just can't stand it. Then, when she comes here, she just trashes the place without even realizing it. It just stresses me out.

[limey]

Actually, I'm spending the holiday without my family, for just this reason.

I feel your pain.

[Mrs.Beagle]

No yet, but we spent last night at SIL's house and there was a lot of people, so easy to avoid people/topics you find irritating.

Off today to MIL's for dinner. Her fiance is one of those people that knows EVERYTHING ABOUT EVERYTHING and will tell you why you don't know as much as him. Plus he drinks a lot of vodka and then gets very..... affectionate.

[Doc_Lobster]

It is a lot better when we are out of the house doing stuff. I have made a lot of plans for this visit.

And my cousin has recently become all born again and weird. Looking forward to THAT.

[joenali]

Neither side of m family is a practicing Christian. Perhaps that is why they are all so awesome??

[limey]

Dec 25, 2012 11:43:04 GMT -5 joenali said:

My family doesn't bother me that much, in fact I like spending time with them. I don't get the "My family is here, I want to kill them." talk.

Want to swap families?

[candreco]

Dec 25, 2012 12:02:56 GMT -5 joenali said:

Neither side of m family is a practicing Christian. Perhaps that is why they are all so awesome??

8-D

You haven't met my ILs. And you really can't imagine that people have relatives that annoy them?

[eb777888]

Dec 25, 2012 11:53:06 GMT -5 Doc_Lobster said:

I think it is a lot easier to enjoy a visit when you can do it in neutral territory.

The thing about my mom is that she is very messy and a borderline hoarder (not bad enough to be on the show, but her house is not very pleasant to visit). Having grown up in that environment I just can't stand it. Then, when she comes here, she just trashes the place without even realizing it. It just stresses me out.

Oh, this would most definitely stress me out and drive me crazy. I don't like house guests to begin with but this would drive me insane.

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Dec 25, 2012 11:43:04 GMT -5 joenali said:

My family doesn't bother me that much, in fact I like spending time with them. I don't get the "My family is here, I want to kill them." talk.

it must be so awesome to be you.

ffs, i regularly have sex with my husband i like him so much, and sometimes i want to kill him.

[Marle]

I already yelled at my BILs who started cursing at each other in front of Logan. I actually yelled MOUTH!! Three times. *sigh* I am now fully part of the family.

[winnied]

Dec 25, 2012 11:53:06 GMT -5 Doc_Lobster said:

I think it is a lot easier to enjoy a visit when you can do it in neutral territory.

Exactly. I like my family and I like H's family when we're not in a confined space for days. H and I can handle about 4 days in close proximity with our families before we are clambering to get out. Fortunately, we're here for a week...

[Doc_Lobster]

Frankly, it's hard for me to be around my H nonstop for days. And I like him a lot.

I need breaks to be alone.

[nicanmatt]

My mom leaves her shit all over the center island of my kitchen. You know, the spot that is usually polished clean and the focal point of the room? Yup, giant purse, a couple cups, her medicine that my 2 year old started to play with, cell phone, a book and a tissue. Right where I need to cook.

She was here for 2 days and read an entire novel, said she'd cook, and played a little bit with her grandson. Oh, she did vacuum! I then had to put my son in his crib so I could take a shower and get everything ready to leave for Christmas Eve. I guess I'm used to getting everyone/everything prepped for going out, but I could have used her help much more than a vacuum job.

I'm an ungrateful wench. LOL. Worst yet, I'm still sad I didn't get more time with her!

[lola]

Joenali- when did you become so bitchy?

I am on day day four of a five day trip to my ILs and I am pretty much ready to kill everybody. Lol.

[nsl]

My parents came down for a week at Thanksgiving and offered to stay for two more after that to give me some help with the kids while H was out of town for work and I was trying to finish up the semester. I love them dearly, but declined on the basis of not wanting to feel like murdering them. They're wonderful people, but three weeks is waaaaaay too long for any houseguest.

[Doc_Lobster]

Dec 25, 2012 13:26:34 GMT -5 heybetch said:

My husbands crazy cousin is a horse lover. And not in that "oh great, she has a passionate hobby" way- more like a totally obsessed horse stalker kind of way. Torture. Pure torture.

lol

[scotty]

Yes and they're not even here. They just toss drama over, to keep me involved.

[fuckyourcouch]

Luckily no. We get along great with my parents, and we don't do any other family members at Christmas. We were actually just discussing how glad we are we don't have to do that every year (while watching Christmas Vacation, lol).

[themysteriouswife]

Just my H. He is driving me fucking crazy.

[scotty]

Dec 25, 2012 12:02:56 GMT -5 joenali said:

Neither side of m family is a practicing Christian. Perhaps that is why they are all so awesome??

Okay, normally I am all-aboard the let's bash religion train, but you have sounded kind of weird lately. Not sure how you don't 'get' the difficult family thing. As an educator, perhaps you should try harder to put yourself in someone else's shoes. Might help.

[joenali]

Dec 25, 2012 13:04:35 GMT -5 lola said:

Joenali- when did you become so bitchy?

I am on day day four of a five day trip to my ILs and I am pretty much ready to kill everybody. Lol.

i like my family. How is that being a bitch???

[joenali]

Dec 25, 2012 14:45:25 GMT -5 scotty said:

Dec 25, 2012 12:02:56 GMT -5 joenali said:

Neither side of m family is a practicing Christian. Perhaps that is why they are all so awesome??

Okay, normally I am all-aboard the let's bash religion train, but you have sounded kind of weird lately. Not sure how you don't 'get' the difficult family thing. As an educator, perhaps you should try harder to put yourself in someone else's shoes. Might help.

I just find it sad, that people dislike their their families so much.

[limey]

Well, no one WANTS to dislike their family. But, fuck, the dysfunction and abuse makes it hard to love them.

Honest question for you Ali - what did you and Joe decide to do about the "fake it" thing regarding your marriage and appearances in front of your family?

[sporky]

Last night, both of my parents tried to insist that racism no longer exists in our country and they really wish that black people, especially Barack Obama, would quit "pulling that card."

Sweet Jesus. Thank god for wine!

[joenali]

We are doing well.