Do you give money to your siblings?

[chessie]

No, I have helped though for things their kids needed though. My brother lost his job and can't afford to do anything for his two girls..I always buy items for the girls, but i really cant trust him with $ since they were never good with it.

[apelila]

We have sent my sister and BIL several hundreds of dollars this year. They just bought a house and had a baby in the past year, and we can afford to help them out.

[mrshabious]

I help my sister when I can. She has had a string of unbelievably bad luck of late.

[Deleted]

I have not given cash but I did buy other things (like groceries) when one of my family members was having a hard time.

[Deleted]

My brother is a gambling addict, and we are not sure if/where he is in his recovery journey, so no, I do not. I will give him gift cards to grocery or clothing stores, but nobody in our family gives him money.

[Deleted]

My mom supports my sister, and bil makes more than we do, so not at the moment. We would not be opposed to giving them money in the future if it became necessary.

[Deleted]

we kind of did earlier this year.

my brother is in college and works as a campus rep for Apple. when we bought my macbook this summer we went through him for his 15% f&f discount. my brother informed us that he gets $500 off his first purchase (as a broke college kid he obviously wouldn't be making any Apple purchases for himself). we paid him for the cost of the computer - 15% and told him to go ahead and keep the $500.

he only just turned 21 but has totally moved out, doesn't get any help from my parents, and works really hard to do well in school. we felt good about it.

[heygrey]

Only for weddings.

I have no siblings and h is the second youngest in his family so we've never been in the position to have more than anyone else. I wouldn't hesitate to offer if any of them needed it now that we're (assuming h gets a job again soon!) stable.

[lindyanne]

No, both of my sisters are stable. My oldest sister is divorced and things have been a tiny bit tighter especially now that my nephews are older and eating a lot more and want more expensive things so we spoil them a bit more than we would have before.

[SJ]

I help my brother out sometimes but not on a regular basis. I gave him $250 before Christmas when I got my bonus. He has struggled to settle into a career but just got a job offer that we are all thrilled about.

BIL/SIL- we never give them money but we help in other ways- providing them with work and shelter, etc.

[Deleted]

We contributed $5k toward a fund that would pay my SIL's rent for a year after my BIL died suddenly a few years ago.

[Deleted]

Only in the form of holiday/occasion gifts. I have let siblings live with us free/cheaply for long periods of time & gotten them jobs but that's not the same as cash.

[CloudBee]

Not cash, but have given many generous gifts over the years when she has been in need. Computer, camera, and travel expenses, over the past few years. Then in college I spent a lot of money on buying sneakers/shoes for her kids when they grew and she couldn't afford to replace them, clothes for the kids, and random clothing items for her like bras off of the Gap Body sale rack when I found a good deal. I was constantly scouring the Gap Kids sale racks and sending boxes of clothes up. My parents helped her with groceries, bills, oil for the furnace, etc., and I often "sponsored" clothing. She had her first two children really young, did not work, and had an ex who was very irresponsible with money.

[Deleted]

No, but it has never been needed. I'm sure we would if it was needed and we had it to give. At this point in all our lives we're doing just fine but don't have extra/need extra. Also my youngest sister lives with my parents so if she needed anything they'd take care of it and I probably wouldn't even know.

[M]

My sister is 12...we give her money all the time. We actually have a deal to match whatever money she saves by 16 or when she wants to buy a car. She has the same deal with my brother and my parents so her $100 is really worth $400 haha. It's really a way to get her to learn to save her money.

My brother is 2 years younger than me but we make significantly more than him so we pay for stuff by picking up the bill when we go out to dinner, etc. But he makes $$$ so we don't give him cash money since he's not hurting for it.

[flygirl22]

Some yes, others no. BIL has asked for money, but he is terrible with it and asks us for help on things we would never even purchase for ourselves. He's older and has had every chance in the world to get on his feet but continues to make poor decisions.

We have loaned money to my younger brother to get a new computer he needed for school (some weird requirements in the architecture program).

If any of my siblings ever gave me money I would feel really weird about it, but who knows.

[rikki]

My sisters are much younger. One is in high school and the other is in college. I send them cash for their birthdays and holidays and buy them stuff when I'm home. They're not hurting for things or money though.

[RandZB]

No, and we've never been asked. We don't mix family and money. Others in the family do and it never ends well.

[GailGoldie]

i have never had a need - my siblings are all doing OK. My brother once gave me a few hundred dollars to get a plane ticket home - it was sort of a gift - b/c he felt bad that i missed my family so much my first thanksgiving away from home in college.

DH's brother always needs money - he used to give him money all the time until i put my foot down --- made him realize that he wasn't helping anything - he was enabling - and he stopped... and magically his brother gets by without money from him.

[mskitkat]

One sister makes way more and doesn't need it. The sister that does need it already owes me over a grand. She's very irresponsible with her money. No more until she gets her act together.

[bugandbibs]

Absolutely! I give my sister money whenever she needs it. Her pay has been cut, and she barely makes it most months. If she asks, I give. She always tries to pay me back, but I refuse. We can afford it and she isn't abusing our generosity.

Recently my GMIL has fallen on hard times and may need to sell her house. Instead, MH and I offered to help her pay her mortgage until things improve. I see know reason for a 70 year old to sell her house and up end with little security and a shaky future.

[h]

We haven't, but I suppose we would if they were in need and our parents couldn't help. At this point my parents and ILs are still significantly better off than us or any of our siblings, so they have always been the ones to give money when one of our sibs falls on hard times.

We do tend to pick up the check when we go out with our sibs (DH and I are both oldests), and we help them out through gifts and things when possible (we paid for my brother and SIL's honeymoon accommodations as a wedding gift, for example).

[IrishBelle]

We haven't with my siblings but they are just as well off as us if not better off. We have lent money to BIL and did get it back from him. We don't give money to DH' s siblings but we would help out if they needed it.

[whitepicketfence]

No. For the most part, all of our siblings are financially secure.

[Deleted]

My siblings don't need my money, but I sent my cousin a fairly big Walmart gift card when she had a kid at 19. I didn't trust her BF with money.

[Deleted]

No, but they are all fairly responsible, so we would be happy to if the need arose.

[winnied]

No. If they really, really needed it I would give it to them but both H and I's parents are well enough off that they could (and perhaps should) give it first.

[ssmjlm]

I've sent my sister gift cards for things like groceries and gas. But not outright cash.

She's the only one we're ok helping out.

[zeewifeandmama]

I help out both of my sisters as needed. They are both broke but hardworking college students. Their dad gave away parental rights and our mom is a mess...so really there is only me to fall back on. I am 10 years older than them.

[czarcasm]

My sister is almost 4 years younger than me and is far behind where I was at her age. Outside of birthdays, graduations, etc. I don't randomly give her money. I may buy her random gifts that I think she would like, but don't regularly give her money.