Being THAT Chick

[soveryexcited]

I met a guy who was 21 when I was 15. I started dating him when I was 17 and he was 23. We officially started ''dating'' the next year. I left college to marry him when I was 20 and he was 26. I got pregnant at 23, again at 24 and we just had #3 in February 2012. We don't own a house. We have some credit card debt. Neither of us have a bachelor's degree.

That is the bad picture. :-) The good picture is that I met my wonderful amazing husband and married him when I was twenty. I had to snap him up before someone else realized how awesome he is. We have been married eight years this past August. We have three awesome kids (all planned). I love that when my kids are all grown and out of the nest, DH and I will still be young enough to travel the world and be awesome. :-) I left college before I finished my degree but I'm planning on going to nursing school once my youngest goes to kindergarten. I have a successful small business. DH makes mid 100k's as a software engineer and is great at what he does. We have some debt but we have a wonderful full life and I wouldn't change it.

[ondaflipside]

Dec 29, 2012 12:04:42 GMT -5 @libgrl said:

My husband and I were talking about this last night. As much as I try to have a "to each their own" attitude, I still judge what I think are bad/stupid decisions. In reality, I have made some of those decisions myself. What have you done that's judgement worthy? I'll start:

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I too, had a starter marriage.

I too judge a gf who keeps getting involved in a one-sided, emotionally abusive relationship. I keep telling her there's better fish in the sea, but I know it's easier said than done. I've been there myself. See asshole reference below.

I also complain that I can't afford X (ex: replace our 8yo couch), but I do not hesitate spending money on Y (ex: frequent travel, high car payments). So like those I secretly judged, I too have messed up financial priorities.

Like others, I did have a guy move across the country for me, and then I dumped him the next year. Not my finest moment.

I've broken with, and reconnected with guys in my relationships. There's something about letting them go and then missing their familiarity that's hard for me to explain, but made sense at the time. I kept holding on to one who became an asshole towards the end. Love hurts, yo.

I had an FB. Keeping him that way was hard, since previously being in a LT relationship, I get easily emotionally attached. I don't know how guys do it. If not for FT school and FT work, I would have been crazy in love with him or the idea of being in a relationship with him. Obviously, I tend to romanticize something that is not. It was what it was.

I used change jobs frequently that now bit me in the butt because no one can trust that I'm reliable/dependable. This is by far one of the worst moves I've made, since I'm reminded of it each time I go for job interviews.

I had to shortsale on a Townhouse after my divorce. That was rough. It taught me however, to not over-leverage.

I did FHA 3.5% down on our current house.

[crashgizmo]

As a lurker, I wouldn't reply to this except I have so many side worthy's you girls would appreciate I felt the need.

- I was a high school dropout (I now have a master's degree)
- I dated and got "engaged" to a 38 year old when I was 23
- I had a starter marriage (not the 38 year old)
- I moved to a completely new state I had never been to and met a guy 3 weeks later. I let him moved in with me 6 weeks later, since his lease was up and all. 2 months later he bought a house, which I moved into. We got married this year.

[everam01]

Bought a house without putting $ down.

Bought a house with DH before we were married.

Lived off credit cards in college.

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Dec 29, 2012 22:55:48 GMT -5 @msstarry said:

Followed my high school boyfriend to college despite having a full tuition scholarship at a much more prestigious school

I did this too except not the scholarship part. There is no way my parents would have let me, lol. And of course we broke up like five minutes after arriving

I also jumped into a serious relationship with a guy on my floor freshman year. I made a lot of typical college mistakes.

Oh and I guess I was a baby bride too. Although at the time I didn't think 24 was too young at all to be getting married.

[froggy76]

Married my prom date
Gave him an ultimatum... engagement ring by x date or I was moving on
Married a guy who didn't graduate college and makes a small fraction of what I make
Bought a house at the height of the market with very little down
Never moved out of my home state

[annael415]

I've had many it seems (all related to the same guy)
-married my first boyfriend
-when we met he was 20, i was 16
-slept with him the night we met
-bought a house with him before we were married
-had a starter marriage

[mrssavy42112]

Hmm, this is interesting. DH & I had a 9 mo engagement (some acted like we were nuts for not waiting longer). I quit college after 2 years, took 2 years off, then finished. I’m working on building my direct sales business so I can quit my FT desk job.