Would this be confusing? Sleep related.

[satsuma]

We currently bedshare. I go to bed when DS does because he A) will not sleep unless I'm next to him and B) he's getting really mobile. I've tried putting him into his crib dead asleep and he wakes up immediately. Could we do cry it out at bedtime and then bring him into bed later on in the night or would that be really confusing to him? I want my evenings back, but enjoy the snuggles and I don't know how strong my resolve would be in the middle of the night to listen to him cry.

[Deleted]

We started DS in his crib around 6 months. I kept sleeping with him later in the night until about 9 months. I don't think it's that confusing. There were some tears when he had to go to sleep on his own, but it was only a few nights. Nothing terrible.

[pamela]

If you're CIO in the crib, why would you bring him into the bed later that night? Once you get him on the routine of sleeping on his own, even if he wakes up in the middle of the night, you won't be dealing with full on CIO except for at the beginning when he's learning the new normal of being in his own crib.

[Deleted]

My kid would cry for over an hour at night. That's why we got him to go to bed on his own but didn't really push the issue later in the night. The whole "once he learns to go to sleep on his own it's totally easy to deal with the rest of the night" was total, utter bullshit for my kid.

[knitty]

Have you read the Jay Gordon nightweaning article

[satsuma]

Jan 1, 2013 17:44:20 GMT -5 @tokenhoser said:

My kid would cry for over an hour at night. That's why we got him to go to bed on his own but didn't really push the issue later in the night. The whole "once he learns to go to sleep on his own it's totally easy to deal with the rest of the night" was total, utter bullshit for my kid.

That's my fear. I have a friend with a baby around the same age (7 mos) and he can put himself to sleep just fine, but still wakes up 4-5x a night despite attempts to space out feedings. I'd rather just lie in bed and nurse than walk to his nursery. Token - was the crib in your room or his bedroom? I guess that's something else to think about.

I skimmed the Jay Gordon article. He recommends it for >1 year, but if I'm thinking about CIO anyway, then this could be a compromise perhaps.

[gibbinator]

Ds sleeps in his crib at night but I almost always bring him to bed when he wakes up after dh gets up for work. It's never caused any conflict with his crib sleep.

Mostly I nurse to sleep and he sets down easily enough. But when that doesn't work, I pick him up and soothe him, set him back down until he cries, repeat 3-4 times and he goes to sleep on his own.

[nonsenseabound]

Try having your husband do bedtime. When we wean we always switch to daddy doing bedtime.

[Deleted]

DS's crib is in his own room, but there is also a bed in there. I've always coslept in his room (DH snores, and in the beginning I wanted DH to get sleep to go to work). Really, you do what works. Going to bed at baby bed time isn't working, so that's what you change. You aren't obligated to change the part that is still working for you (cosleeping and nursing later in the night).

[satsuma]

Jan 2, 2013 11:49:09 GMT -5 @tokenhoser said:

DS's crib is in his own room, but there is also a bed in there. I've always coslept in his room (DH snores, and in the beginning I wanted DH to get sleep to go to work). Really, you do what works. Going to bed at baby bed time isn't working, so that's what you change. You aren't obligated to change the part that is still working for you (cosleeping and nursing later in the night).

That's been my philosophy toward parenting. I just don't want there to be unnecessary tears during the process. Ferber warns not to bring them back into bed with you later in the night so I was wondering how bad of an idea it was to go this route.