I just went on FB and almost started crying from the first 2 pictures. The first was from my friend who just had baby #2- a picture of both her kids, and the second was of my PG cousin's baby bump. I'm so sick of this.
I've had to hide a few pregnant friends on facebook because I just can't take it right now. The charting, OPKing, weird diet additions, etc. consume enough of my thoughts, and I try to do whatever I can to keep the rest of my thoughts pregnancy free.
Just to make you feel a little better, I'll admit a bitchy response I had to a friend last week.....My husband and I went over to see them and their new baby. This couple got pregnant on their first month of trying, announced at 5 weeks, had a perfect pregnancy, etc. They spent most of the visit bragplaining about how hard their life is now, with a dog AND a baby, grandma's fighting over baby time, and having to always wake up early (even on the weekend! gasp). They know about our fertility issues and our loss. The girl finally asked us what we've been doing, and I said "Sleeping." LOL. Of course, this is also the girl who told me that she was planning to be a SAHM because she'd never let anyone else raise her child, after I said that I plan to continue working.
When a bunch of people on MMMs got BFPs around the same time, I ugly cried at every announcement. It fucking sucks. Hugs.
When is your next appointment w/ your RE (I think you said you may be able to do one more IUI)?
I know just what you mean, Kara. I had a dream last night that I was PG and was so bummd when I woke up and realized it was just a dream. Our RE consult is Jan 9. DH is coming with me, but if the doctor is running late than H may have to leave early to get our daughter from school. I am really nervous about the appt b/c I don't know what he'll say and we don't want to pay 15K OOP for IVF so we may be out of luck.
IF is just so unfair. I know life isn't fair blah, blah, blah, but it sucks so badly.
Our estimate for IVF was between 15k and 23k. We are saving right now, but I don't know if we will even go that route because there are no guarantees and what if it doesn't work?
It frustrates me that insurance coverage varies so much and money plays such a huge factor in these decisions.
Good luck in your appointment. I am really pulling for you!
Post by statlerwaldorf on Jan 2, 2013 2:14:38 GMT -5
I've stayed off Facebook since Christmas. Too many people wait until after Christmas to announce and my heart can't take it. Actually that's one of my new years resolutions. To not spend so much time on Facebook.
Facebook has been hard lately....literally 3 people announced on FB the week of my chemical pregnancy.
Jewel....you handled that situation a lot better than I would have. I probably would have started crying or worn the " WTF" face that she would have noticed without a doubt. It's so hard because I want to be happy for my friends....but it usually takes me a while.
Post by changedname on Jan 3, 2013 10:46:53 GMT -5
I'm the same as you guys. I actually dread going on FB now in case there is another pg annoucement. I had a really hard time when MMM was having all the BFPs too, and now the check in has hardly anyone in it, I feel like part of the "Left Behind" series. lol.
I think we are going to start ivf next cycle all going well. I have my consult on Monday with the RE. My insurance covers the meds only so we are looking at around $8000 oop I think.
Maybe there will be a wave of ivf bfps soon from us!
We had friends announce the gender of their second child - same day as my HSG and MH's blood work results. Some days I'm okay and others I am sad. IF sucks donkey balls. I have never cried so much in my life. I've just never been one to cry and now I do all the freaking time!