When did you tell work/your boss?

[glitzy07]

How far along were you when you told your boss and/or coworkers about your pregnancy?

I can't decide when I want to tell. I'm currently 12 weeks, and was thinking of telling my boss next week at 13 weeks when we have an already scheduled meeting. However, I have another appointment the following week at 14 weeks and was considering waiting until after that appointment just to verify that everything is still ok.

We have heard a heartbeat, and I have no reason to believe that anything would be wrong at this point. I'm not really in a rush to tell work, and I know some people wait until much later or when they're showing. Mostly I have a small group of good friends at work that I'd love to tell, but I feel like I should tell my boss first in case any of the three of my friends slip up.

Just wondering what other people did!

[Deleted]

I told at 12 weeks because we had the NT scan and DH was itching to go public on Facebook. I knew once we did that my boss would find out so I figured it was better to hear it from the horse's mouth.

[lindyanne]

I told earlier that I would have bc of the lifting restrictions. I think I was about 7 weeks. I don't normally have to lift a lot but we had a large group training coming up - cases of water, soda, manuals, etc etc and long hours. I had to get extra help and didn't want her to think that I was slacking.

[CloudBee]

I told my boss at 9 weeks because I started bleeding and needed to leave work unexpectedly for an ultrasound. I knew if I had a miscarriage that I would have wanted a day or so off from work, and decided I would rather tell her what was going on than run out the door and then be out another day. She was very understanding and thankful that I told her. My plans were originally to wait and tell her at 12 weeks.

I didn't tell my colleagues until I was 12 weeks until I had my NT scan.

I'm very comfortable with how things panned out for me.

[moonstone523]

I told my boss at 20 weeks. I also work from home, though I saw my bosses at 16 weeks.

[speckledfrog]

I told at 16 weeks. They suspected but no one asked me anything until I was ready to share.

[zarapipe]

I told at 11 weeks, no reason other than I was ready. That was my previous job. I worked mostly by myself and didn't have a lot of contact with coworkers.

The next time I think it will be harder because I work with a lot of women now and do more team work so I think people will catch on quicker. Also I am already getting a million "when is your next one?" questions

[ssmjlm]

I told at 14 weeks. I was holding out waiting to see the results of a re-org and didn't want my PG to affect where I was placed b/c of when my ML falls. Unfortunately I still ended up with a shitty 2nd tier boss, so it didn't matter.

We didn't even finish telling some family until 13 weeks, so I waited for that to finish, then told work, then told everyone.

[ijack]

With my first at about 8 weeks because my boss asked me if I had cancer (I'd had a lot of appts due to bleeding). With my 2nd at 11w because it was my annual review and if felt wrong to talk about my goals for the year without telling him.

[Deleted]

Jan 2, 2013 10:58:04 GMT -5 ijack said:

With my first at about 8 weeks because my boss asked me if I had cancer (I'd had a lot of appts due to bleeding). With my 2nd at 11w because it was my annual review and if felt wrong to talk about my goals for the year without telling him.

Wow, your old boss really sucked, ijack.

[baconlettucetomato]

I didn't. Ha! My team was traveling for work when I was about 6 weeks and they put 2+2 together when I didn't drink and was constantly on the verge of hurling. I told my site manager(bosses boss) when we got back from said trip and I had an ultrasound.

ETA - We later told all of our coworkers when we had our annual meeting and everyone was together. I was 10 weeks and we had just heard the HB again.

[jenjen]

I told my work BFF at 7 w because we were traveling together. I did get sick while we were at conference and had a horrible flight home. Also I avoided alcohol at our required dinners when I'd usually have a drink.

I planned to tell my boss after she came back from her Xmas break but during our last meeting before her vacation she asked me "are you planning on having kids in 2013?" And I was like uhhh yeah. I was about 13 w maybe.

[galaxy8227]

I told my bosses around 6 weeks (was out sick a few times due to bad MS and 2 scares) but I was very close to them and wanted to share the news. I waited until 13 weeks (NT scan) to share the news with the rest of the office. I don't work there anymore but I probably will do the same in my new job (when we have another).

[thedash]

I ended up telling at 9 weeks last time - after I had seen the heartbeat at the 8 week appointment. I worked in an environment where people had already started to notice I was acting differently and I was close friends with several of them.

[jackie011]

I told around 8 weeks because I had just come back from my first appointment and my boss called me into her office. She was talking about something completely unrelated and then said "So, did you have a nice morning off?" just to make conversation. I couldn't BS my way through it! She jumped up and hugged me and told me she was going to try not to cry. It felt great! We are keeping things quiet for another week or so, until I have my next appointment.

[pugz]

Pretty early, like 7-ish weeks? We'd seen the heartbeat at that point. She suspected because I'd missed a lot of work for fertility treatments the month before, plus our department is all women, many of whom have little kids, so she knows the signs!

I was glad I told early because I ended up having some bleeding around 10-11 weeks when I was tapering off the progesterone and had to go home on bedrest for a couple of days. I was able to just text her and leave without a big explanation, which was good because I was freaking out.

[birdmom]

I told my boss the day after I tested at the doctor's office. DH and I are very close with our boss and people at work (small company, DH and I work together), and I was excited. In the event that something happened or we lost the baby, my work family would have been a support to me, so I didn't see any reason not to tell them.

[HoneySpider]

13.5 weeks....we're going to a conference in Hawaii and I wanted to her & my coworkers to know before that.

[h]

DS1 -- 13 weeks because we were going to a weekend firm retreat that I knew would involve a lot of drinking and didn't want to deal with making excuses.

DS2 -- 11 weeks because I was asked to be involved in a big case and the timing of the baby would have interferred.

DS3 -- 14 weeks because I was starting to show and questions were being raised (as in my assistant flat out asked if I was pregnant).

[Deleted]

I told at 7.5 weeks because my constant morning sickness was becoming an issue.

[glitzy07]

Ok, you guys are making me feel better. I feel like I've seen so many posts where people haven't told until 16-20 weeks, and I didn't think I was going to be patient enough to wait that long.

My work BFF already knows, and has for a few weeks to help me cover up at a work happy hour.

I'm thinking I might tell at the end of this week or beginning of next week. I just realized we're doing health assessments for insurance at work on Wednesday and I will likely have to tell the tech that I'm pregnant. I'd rather my boss know before someone else in the room overhears it, especially since the assessments are done in a conference room environment with several people at a time.

[ladygrey]

I still haven't told work yet, even though we've had our NT scan and everything looks great. I don't know why I'm being so reluctant to share the news - maybe because I just don't want to open myself up to unsolicited pregnancy advice from overbearing coworkers for the next six months?

I am finally starting to get a little bump, though, and I suspect that I won't be able to hold out much longer. If all goes well at our appointment next Wednesday, I'll probably spill the beans then.

[countthestars]

13 weeks. I usually WFH but I was in the office and had just come from an ultrasound.

[dcn]

I told my immediate supervisor around 12 weeks, and it was announced at our department staff meeting the following week. I had been out a lot with various appointments, so my supervisor suspected, she was really excited and happy for me - she was pg too at the time, so it was nice to commiserate!

[raylongivens]

I told at almost 12 weeks at a regularly scheduled meeting. I knew he'd be happy, but I can tell he's getting worried about my leave. He's also very concerned that I won't come back, but barring any catastrophic issues, I'm planning to return after 12 weeks.

[Deleted]

DD - I told at ~24wks

Baby #2 - Will wait as long as possible. LOL. Shooting for past 24wks. I just applied for a job in our group and prefer not to say anything until I get a rejection or I get an offer.

[rikki]

My boss (who is insane) flat out asked me if I was pregnant. I guess my frequent trips to the bathroom (awful morning sickness) coupled with the fact that "I looked not well" were her clues. I wish she would have kept her mouth shut because she forced me in an awkward situation where I didn't want to lie to her. She has now been going on about how I need a custody agreement.

[hski2349]

I told my boss around 13 weeks. And then the next day I told the owner of the company (I work for a small company)

[Deleted]

6 weeks or so.

I had horrible morning sickness. It was so bad.

I told everyone else at 12 weeks.