I don't recall but why can't you look into a daycare center situation in the mean time?? why must it be a nanny RIGHT NOW?
Shit- after that nanny murdered those 2 kids in Manhattan this fall - the idea of leaving my child alone with anyone who isn't 100% sane when dealing with her just makes me shiver ---- she's insane enough to treat you like that... she's insane enough to have a 'broken phone' b/c she doesn't want to work.... i'm not saying she's a murderer but I'm saying I could not leave my child alone with someone like that and function at all in any job.
daycare centers here take kids from 6weeks and up --- you are in the US right?
No one will take my son until he's two. I am *deeply* familar with the daycares around here. I've toured all of them and have selected for when my son turns 2. We never planning on having a nanny, but it was the only option other than long subway ride into the city with dad and >$4000 bill for two kids, which is more than our current costs. Most places have wait lists of 6 months or higher near my husband so even that is not a option. My boss has been trying to get his son into daycare for several months is still waiting to get a spot. I think he's expecting about 6-8 months.
I certainly agree that the situation should change but daycare isn't going to be a quick fix for us. I know in other parts of the country that would be true, but not around here.
Keep in mind that I am HOME during all this. My older child is in a program part time. I am not worried about the safey of my kids. I simply don't feel like me and my nanny are an effective team. No one works well under this sort of constant stress and anger. I don't think my nanny would intentionally take it out on the kids, but I sure for example she talks smack about us to the other nannies in front of my 17 month old son and is perhapes a bit less patient overall.
ETA: I am in the US. I just happen to live in an area that doesn't have good childcare under 2 within walking distance. Either DH or I drive to work. I would guess that there maybe an option a car ride away -- perhapes in Long Island, but I dont' think that is a great solution.
Post by vanillacourage on Jan 2, 2013 14:13:58 GMT -5
If you live in an area where nannies are common, do you have friends who use a nanny too and who would be open to a nanny-share for a month or so while you find someone new? It would be a way for them to save some money for that month.
If you live in an area where nannies are common, do you have friends who use a nanny too and who would be open to a nanny-share for a month or so while you find someone new? It would be a way for them to save some money for that month.
This isnt' a bad idea but I honestly can't think of anyone. In general the folks we know have their sole kid transitioned into daycare (because they're over 2) or they have two or more kids.
We've asked our casual sitter (ideal option since she knows us already). I've reached out to the one mom I know who is looking place her nanny and we'll see if that might be a fit for us.
If it all explodes my son could go to my inlaws for a week and I could probably manage my older child around my work shedual since she's in school and sleeps 2-3 hours a day but this would really suck big time.
Post by raylongivens on Jan 2, 2013 14:29:17 GMT -5
I just wanted to wish you luck. I know how stressful this is. I'm having an issue with our nanny right now... 3rd one in 3 years. I don't want to put DD through another change since this one was so rough, but I'm thinking we might have to.
I hope this works out for you, and that it's resolved quickly.
I think she said centers in her area only take kids 2 and up?
yeah- i just don't get that... hence, asking if she's in the US> I mean- how can an entire area of the country not have child care other than nannies avail to people with babies?
She's in NYC and this is a very common problem here, especially if you don't want to go with a home based center
Hocus, does your neighborhood have a parents' listserve or FB group where you could ask for recommendations? Maybe you could start the search process now and fire her when you find someone you like. Are you looking for full time?
Hocus, does your neighborhood have a parents' listserve or FB group where you could ask for recommendations? Maybe you could start the search process now and fire her when you find someone you like. Are you looking for full time?
We do have a list serve, which is active (`1000 families). For now DH doesn't want to use it because all in all this is a small community and we don't want our nanny to know we're replacing her until we've got our ducks all lined up.
We'll see. Our casual sitter might agree to say fill-in for 2 weeks (or take the job for 9 months) while we get someone new which would be an option that allows us to move quickly. We're waiting to hear back from her if she can come in on Friday for a chat.