Just Made an Appointment with Embassy

[singingpilgrim]

So I just made an appointment with the embassy. I have to get my "single status affidavit" notarized.

Right now Ryan's family is using connections to find us the best place/representative to use to get our marriage on track. We have to present paperwork and then they publish some info for a month so that if people want to object they can.

Then a month from then, we get married. So hopefully the first or second week of February.

Eep! So please pray it all goes well! And that it's done by my birthday in mid-Feb, because I'm a couple months older than Ryan and want to be the same age when we marry. (Silly maybe, but I am hoping...)

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GL!

[cupcakes]

What does that single status thing mean? You are saying you are single and free to marry?

In the UK you have to give notice to marry as well, your name goes on a noticeboard so people can say if they object for a civil marriage, for a church wedding they read the Bannas (sp) for 3 weeks, I think, at the church, same thing. Someone can say Actually singingpilgrim is already married to my cousin up in Scotland so she can't marry this new guy.

It's funny how it's different. We went to a wedding in the Bahamas and the bride had to sign a thing that called her a spinster 6 or 7 times, she LOVED that.

[crimsonandclover]

Yeah, in Germany I also had to turn in an official document of my single status. Since no such thing exists in the States, a notarized affidavit from someone who knows you saying that you are not married (and never have been, if that applies, so that you don't have to present any divorce papers) is enough.

Cupcakes, I think the spinster thing is great. Is it only used if the bride is over a certain age?

[allibally]

Jan 2, 2013 13:47:47 GMT -5 cupcakes said:

What does that single status thing mean? You are saying you are single and free to marry?

Basically. I did mine at the Zurich consulate. It's was a terribly photo copied sheet that I signed saying I've never been married. Then the grouchy lady notarized it. haha

[clogged]

The Dutch do the same thing, and get all butt hurt because the Americans don't and they have to make an exception and allow a notarized letter from mom (aka the government) saying "yeah, we cool. she's clear for marriage."

[cupcakes]

So who does the letter come from in the in the case of the Dutch?

I don't know if it's a age thing or what Clover. I'll have to ask the bride. She said the groom was known as a bachelor and she was a spinster, kick in the teeth. She was 30 at the wedding.

[singingpilgrim]

It's actually an affidavit from ME, bizarre as that sounds, saying yep, I'm single. Then they notarize it and it says on it 'the embassy in no way verifies this document'. Huh?

But I can't get married without it and it's costing me 50 bucks (US)

Since it's just me declaring myself single in a legal way, I totally think India should just make it part of the marriage. "I, Pamela, swear I have never been married and now take Ryan..." lol

[mrsukyankee]

I wouldn't worry about the age thing - I'm 4 years older than my DH and he thinks it's awesome! But best of luck with everything!

[bail229]

Jan 3, 2013 3:22:29 GMT -5 mrsukyankee said:

I wouldn't worry about the age thing - I'm 4 years older than my DH and he thinks it's awesome! But best of luck with everything!

I am also older than my DH and he often reminds me of this as well!

I got married in the US so we didn't have to do that.

[irish]

We had a church wedding and had to say we'd never been married before in church. You are supposed to get a letter from each parish you lived in since you turned 18 but they have now realised that it isn't always feasible to do that (I wouldn't even know what parish I lived in when in Lux!) so they have a form that your mammy can sign to say you have never been married.

Yes, my mother signed it and dh's mother signed his...

[pittpurple]

Good luck! I'm a month older than my DH and the only time it mattered was when we turned 21!

[Cheesecake]

Good luck.

And re the question about the Dutch. No one writes a letter, we actually have our citizens and residents <gasp> registered. And marriages and divorces are registered in the same system. So they can just check the computer and see what's up. (And if you need the info for another country, you go to city hall and they just do a print out on official city paper and no notaries are needed.) It's kind of a nifty system Napoleon introduced, works quite well.

[aMrsin09]

I needed it for Australia too.

I just had to write a letter stating that I had had never been married. BUT, since Australia has "Domestic Partners" (common law marriages) and I had lived with a guy for 5 years, I also had to prove that the state we lived in was NOT one o the eleven states that have common law marriages.

I'm also 3.5 years older than H.

[echo]

I also thought the affidavit from 'myself' that the embassy stated they could not 'verify' was kind of strange.

[clogged]

Jan 3, 2013 4:36:52 GMT -5 Cheesecake said:

Good luck.

And re the question about the Dutch. No one writes a letter, we actually have our citizens and residents <gasp> registered. And marriages and divorces are registered in the same system. So they can just check the computer and see what's up. (And if you need the info for another country, you go to city hall and they just do a print out on official city paper and no notaries are needed.) It's kind of a nifty system Napoleon introduced, works quite well.

But if you are not a citizen, you have to jerry rig a form together, have it notarized at your embassy, and submit that. Then wait up to 6 months for them to verify it is accurate (I ended up waiting 2 weeks, so I am suorised they said it takes so long).

[Cheesecake]

Oh, yeah, that's a pain. I thought the question referred to how/where Dutch people get their own letter, so I tried to say Dutch people don't need one.

Sent from my phone, please disregard typos!