Post by liveintheville on Jan 2, 2013 20:12:54 GMT -5
I was bitching to my H, on IM, about Kid 1's non stop talking (I swear to god he will not shut up and it's a freaking monolog, not a conversation) and his response was, "well you'll look back on this and miss it someday." WTF? If I wanted that kind of response I'd have called my mom. So much for spousal sympathy :@
Grr! Sometimes, a "that is annoying" expression of sympathy is all that's needed. Not words of wisdom or suggestions to fix the "problem." A lot of people don't understand that.
Grr! Sometimes, a "that is annoying" expression of sympathy is all that's needed. Not words of wisdom or suggestions to fix the "problem." A lot of people don't understand that.
That's exactly something my mother would say! You just need someone to say, "I know, I wish that MFing kid would STFU!"
If it helps at all...DH and I have had many, many arguments about this type of thing. He's a "problem-solver" too. We agreed that I will try to tell him what I need (e.g., I need for you to just listen, I need for you to bitch about this with me, etc.) or he asks what I need (e.g., what are you looking for from me?).
Post by liveintheville on Jan 2, 2013 20:49:39 GMT -5
See?! These are all wonderful responses! Thank you!
I think the kicker was it's his first day back at work after having a week off, and he's probably thrilled to be away from crazy. One day of peace does not allow him to wax philosophically about parenting.
That's exactly something my mother would say! You just need someone to say, "I know, I wish that MFing kid would STFU!"
If it helps at all...DH and I have had many, many arguments about this type of thing. He's a "problem-solver" too. We agreed that I will try to tell him what I need (e.g., I need for you to just listen, I need for you to bitch about this with me, etc.) or he asks what I need (e.g., what are you looking for from me?).
Oh god. I have a problem-solver on my hands too. It makes me ragey and then he gets ragey and then it's a full-blown fight before we know it. I've gotten better about asking myself if I'm up for hearing advice or criticism before I open my mouth to bitch, but sometimes I slip up. And he is getting better about keeping his trap shut when he can sense I just need someone to agree with me. But it's an ongoing struggle.
Grr! Sometimes, a "that is annoying" expression of sympathy is all that's needed. Not words of wisdom or suggestions to fix the "problem." A lot of people don't understand that.
Grr! Sometimes, a "that is annoying" expression of sympathy is all that's needed. Not words of wisdom or suggestions to fix the "problem." A lot of people don't understand that.
Yes! Exactly!
Ugh sorry OP, it's been a rough day over here too!
Post by DarcyLongfellow on Jan 2, 2013 23:04:28 GMT -5
I'm sorry! I think most guys can be like that :-)
I will straight up tell DH, "I just want you to say, 'I'm so sorry, honey, that sucks.' not solve my problem." Then I make him say exactly that back to me :-)
My DH will often do that, and I hate it. What drives me nuts is especially when he tries to organise my day as in I make a comment about what a busy day I'm having or what things need to be done and he goes "well, but if you go first to x and then you do x and later you pick up x, etc." It makes me irrationally angry...