Wills..

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Who has a will?

We need to make one ASAP. We just have no clue where to go to get one besides a lawyer, which is hella expensive. Some of my friends posted on my FB about Dave Ramsey and Suze Orman and I was looking into LegalZoom...I just KNOW we need one.

Any suggestions?

[glw]

We made ours with Legal Zoom.

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Was it easy? I've never had to do this shit :\. Its scary lol

[glw]

Yup, super easy. If you don't own a business or have tons of real estate, etc. it's really simple.

[blondemoment123]

We'll be doing ours on Legal Zoom soon. I actually asked an attorney how pricey it would be and they recommended Legal Zoom since it would be cheaper.

[OrangePixyStix]

We don't have one!

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Well, we figured out what goes where-- If I die, he gets it all, vice versa. If we both die, SIL/BIL get it all since we are their son's godparents..that way they can keep/sell our stuff for him.

[OrangePixyStix]

I don't even care so much about the "who gets what" part of the will but we need to make one if only to specify what each of us would prefer in a DNR situation. When my uncle was in a "vegetative state" with the help of machines, it was a fight between family members about what he would want since he didn't have a will and he didn't tell anybody beforehand what he would prefer.

That Terry Scaivo case should have taught me that but it wasn't until my Uncle was suffering before his death that I realized how much turmoil it can cause within the family if you don't have in writing what the person would want under those circumstances.

[conradtn]

OPS that is a Living Will. That is where you determine if you want to be DNR or not. Its' different from a Last Will & Testament which doesn't come into play until you die.

[blondemoment123]

May 29, 2012 15:21:00 GMT -5 OrangePixyStix said:

I don't even care so much about the "who gets what" part of the will but we need to make one if only to specify what each of us would prefer in a DNR situation. When my uncle was in a "vegetative state" with the help of machines, it was a fight between family members about what he would want since he didn't have a will and he didn't tell anybody beforehand what he would prefer.

That Terry Scaivo case should have taught me that but it wasn't until my Uncle was suffering before his death that I realized how much turmoil it can cause within the family if you don't have in writing what the person would want under those circumstances.

This reminds me that I need a living will as well. My H is refusing to "pull the plug" if something were to happen. Right now, I have it written in the Bible and told everyone I know that's what I want. I realize that writing it in the Bible will do me no good haha.

[OrangePixyStix]

Oh, gotcha. You can see how unprepared for death we seem to be. Can you do them combined into one document, or do you have to pay separately for each to be drawn up?

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I have an advanced directive/Living Will already (we did it for a class project). H and I both will not allow the other to live in a vegetative state.

My FIL not having a will really complicates the whole situation..Mom always thought they had enough time. H and I decided we need one. Now.

[conradtn]

May 29, 2012 15:28:37 GMT -5 OrangePixyStix said:

Oh, gotcha. You can see how unprepared for death we seem to be. Can you do them combined into one document, or do you have to pay separately for each to be drawn up?

I would think separately because your Will doesn't take effect until you die. Personally I haven't seen the two together in one document. Clients usually bring us a Living Will, Will, and Power of Attorney.

[duff]

Ugh, after all this bullshit with my grandma's husband, I need to get on this too.

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::Hugs duff and pats the couch next to her:: Come cuddle. Seems like we both have shitty extended family.

[wineenthusiast]

I bought Quicken Willmaker on amazon but never printed it out. My friends husband is a lawyer and told me that was a great program to use. He said to make sure we have two people sign in as witnesses who are not included in the will. I will probably have one of my family members (a cousin I'm close to) and one of H's (an aunt we are close to) so IF anything ever went down, there would not be any finger pointing either way. Although H's fam would be the only one to finger point if they felt "wronged". Which they probably would.

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We don't have much and my parents don't want my shit. My brother can have anything sentimental to him. Anything else, sell it. I don't care.


Now in a will, can you designate where you want your body to go? I don't want to be cremated or buried...I wanna go to the Body Farm.

[sapphire bou]

No will for us yet.

But I sure am learning a lot from you today, Skip! I learned about Essure and about the Body Farm.

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haha! I heard about the body farm in one of my Anthropology classes and ever since then, I've wanted my dead body to go there.

[ILikeSloths]

I'm glad you posted this because it reminds me that we need to get on this also.

We've been married almost 2 years and the only thing we've done so far is fill out paper work to determine who gets the government money and benefits if H was ever killed in the line of duty. God, I hate even thinking about that, but I know it's important just in case.

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Sloths, I never thought of it until last week. It sucks but we learn stuff late sometimes. I know H is the sole beneficiary of my life insurance, and the only debts I have will be forgiven when I die if not paid in full.

I dunno. I've been fairy upset about all this lately.

[ILikeSloths]

May 29, 2012 17:40:04 GMT -5 skippingstones said:

Sloths, I never thought of it until last week. It sucks but we learn stuff late sometimes. I know H is the sole beneficiary of my life insurance, and the only debts I have will be forgiven when I die if not paid in full.

I dunno. I've been fairy upset about all this lately.

You just made me giggle. Definitely not because you're upset but because of the word "fairy." Hehe.

You have good reasons to be upset. You've lost someone and now you're forced to think about these things and worry even more. It's so sad when things like this happen but it's good that you're learning something from it (and reminding the rest of us!). *hug*

[conradtn]

Body Farm is in my neck of the woods

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May 29, 2012 17:48:37 GMT -5 ILikeSloths said:

May 29, 2012 17:40:04 GMT -5 skippingstones said:

Sloths, I never thought of it until last week. It sucks but we learn stuff late sometimes. I know H is the sole beneficiary of my life insurance, and the only debts I have will be forgiven when I die if not paid in full.

I dunno. I've been fairy upset about all this lately.

You just made me giggle. Definitely not because you're upset but because of the word "fairy." Hehe.

You have good reasons to be upset. You've lost someone and now you're forced to think about these things and worry even more. It's so sad when things like this happen but it's good that you're learning something from it (and reminding the rest of us!). *hug*

It SHOULD be fairly lol

[lizo11]

We haven't done this yet, but it is a good reminder that we need to. We have the house together (which will be paid off if I die by my life insurance--of which H is the primary beneficiary and my mom is the secondary, in case we go at the same time). Other than that, we need to take care of the rest of the "stuff" and assets, and do a living will because neither of us wants to live in a vegetative state.

It was a tough thing when my parent's did there and I was involved in the finer points of it, because they didn't want me to have any surprises if anything happened to them both. Definitely necessary, but really eye opening.

And it is definitely understandable that you are upset about all this!

[shorty20]

We just went to a local lawyer and had one drawn up.

[sitnspin]

Jer is an attorney, so doing our wills was NBD. We have had them for a few years.

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May 30, 2012 9:21:19 GMT -5 sitnspin said:

Jer is an attorney, so doing our wills was NBD. We have had them for a few years.

SO lucky.