Sitting Here In Shock

[mscatra]

A close friend of mine just texted me (and her other close girlfriends, in case we started to hear rumors) that her DH just told her out of the blue that he wants to be single again and that she would be better off that way ^o) :@ . They have one LO who will be two this month and she is due with #2 in June. Two days after telling her this he said he wants a divorce and is already talking about selling their house. I'm literally shaking I'm so upset for her and mad at her DH. FYI, #2 was planned.

[Dorothy Zbornak]

Sent from the future.

[Deleted]

Oh my goodness. Such a shocker to your friend. Wow.

[TrudyCampbell]

That's really sad

[bebeetmoi]

That's just awful. Really awful. Your poor girlfriend.

[Regina Philange]

I feel terrible for your friend. But remember there are most likely two sides of the story. Unless her H is just a complete fucktart.

[laurack]

Jan 4, 2013 10:49:04 GMT -5 mscatra said:

that she would be better off that way

oh how nice of him to consider her :@

just really bizarre. I know this sort of thing happens, but it doesn't happen that fast. So he must have known when they were deciding to have #2?

anyway this sucks.

[orriskitten]

That is so hard to hear! I can't imagine how things like this just show up out of the blue!

So sad for her and her LOs

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[dojo]

That's awful, but I always think that the other person is better off without such an asshole.

[Deleted]

That sucks. Sounds like her husband (won't call him a DH) is going through some sort of personal crisis. Thankfully it sounds like she has some good friends to help her through.

I do know that DH's ex-wife was TTC with him at the same time she was starting to get squirrley and planning ot leave - she thought a baby would make her want to stay married. Some people TTC when they obviously shouldn't.

[lauranicole91]

Wow. That's terrible. I mean in any splitting situation it's going to suck or someone no matter what unfortunately. As heartbreaking and upsetting as it is for her. Staying together obviously wasn't making him happy so either way. But still

[The Foozzler]

Was this out of the blue? Were they having any relationship problems before?

If this was out of nowhere, he is a dickface.

[jfh]

That is so horrible. What a douche.

[kdrake8]

He is an Absolute asshole. Who does this??? Your poor friend.

[mscatra]

He works 2nd shift type hours and has always been rather stuck in pre-kid world where he works, comes home late, plays video games or whatever all night, spends some time with the kid in the mornings, before sleeping all day until he has to go to work again. So, from the sounds of it, she started calling him on it and asking him for more of a parnership (she's a SAHM), they argued, he came out with this. In fair terms, my DH and I have always thought they did not have the healthiest relationship and wondered what happened when someone grew up and shit got real. I just didn't think he was this immature. He has said he doesn't want counseling, he needs more time for himself, and has been out partying every night since. My DH is saying he's always been like this, where he keeps everything inside until he just makes a move and then he's just done. So, theoretically, he probably was bottling things up when he agreed to try for #2, but didn't want to "hurt her" by saying no. 'Cause this way is of course not painful at all. <eyeroll> Some people will never grow up and face their own issues. We ALL have issues.

[Deleted]

Jan 4, 2013 10:57:24 GMT -5 laurack said:

Jan 4, 2013 10:49:04 GMT -5 mscatra said:

that she would be better off that way

oh how nice of him to consider her

just really bizarre. I know this sort of thing happens, but it doesn't happen that fast. So he must have known when they were deciding to have #2?

anyway this sucks.

This.

[Deleted]

He's a douchecanoe...she is better off without his dumb ass.

[mscatra]

I'm meeting up with her tomorrow for lunch, so I'll hear more of the story then. My DH hasn't heard anything from her H (you're right, softskate, DH isn't appropriate here) yet. But my friend actually tends to sugar coat everything and does not talk bad about people EVER, so it's not like her to paint him in a bad light when there is actually much more to the story.

[Deleted]

Not that that helps her feeling any, but eventually, she'll see that it was all worth it.

[mscatra]

Jan 4, 2013 11:36:09 GMT -5 dragonflybelle said:

Not that that helps her feeling any, but eventually, she'll see that it was all worth it.

I hope either this, or he'll grow the fuck up and get some counseling with her. I'm just so mad for her right now.

[charlielove]

I can't imagine.

[cat19]

that sucks. wow.

[thedahliharpa]

What a loser.

[Deleted]

I'm so sorry. I hope that she has a great support system around her.

[hass2001]

Jan 4, 2013 13:12:31 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

What a loser.

This!! I'm sorry for your friend.

[ashleydl83]

That's awful. I feel so bad for your friend. I just couldn't imagine.

[tuck]

That's awful. What an ass.