And I just made the assumption...

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That M is invited to dinner. At a friends house, no time given yet, they have young children. Because of you ladies, I just realized I should ask if their kids will be home and if M is invited.

Thanks for changing my lyfe.

Eta: M is invited.

[Regina Philange]

I just always assume Lou is invited everywhere! Except i am glad i checked before a bridal shower because he was not.

[dojo]

The last time I checked on one of these things, I was told Hank was not invited to a baby shower and even though I had no right to feel crabby about it, I felt that way anyway!

I've been invited to another baby shower and Hank's name was not on the invite. It's to my cousin's shower and she's pretty AW so she might think another baby will over shadow her. I'm not going to ask for clarification if Hank is invited, I'm just playing ignorant and bringing him along.

BOOYAH!

[erniebufflo]

Meh. I wouldn't be friends with people who require me to get a sitter to come over. If you wanna hang, the babies are coming or you can come here, period.

[mscatra]

Jan 4, 2013 16:19:51 GMT -5 dojo said:

The last time I checked on one of these things, I was told Hank was not invited to a baby shower and even though I had no right to feel crabby about it, I felt that way anyway!

I've been invited to another baby shower and Hank's name was not on the invite. It's to my cousin's shower and she's pretty AW so she might think another baby will over shadow her. I'm not going to ask for clarification if Hank is invited, I'm just playing ignorant and bringing him along.

BOOYAH!

But it's her shower, shouldn't she be the center of attention?

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If I made plans with friends, it would be discussed from the get-go that this was a sitter night or the kids were invited.

[dojo]

Jan 4, 2013 16:25:00 GMT -5 mscatra said:

Jan 4, 2013 16:19:51 GMT -5 dojo said:

The last time I checked on one of these things, I was told Hank was not invited to a baby shower and even though I had no right to feel crabby about it, I felt that way anyway!

I've been invited to another baby shower and Hank's name was not on the invite. It's to my cousin's shower and she's pretty AW so she might think another baby will over shadow her. I'm not going to ask for clarification if Hank is invited, I'm just playing ignorant and bringing him along.

BOOYAH!

But it's her shower, shouldn't she be the center of attention?

Yeah and I'm pretty sure Hank isn't going to steal her spotlight.

[Deleted]

She has a less than 4 month old, so I think my assumption that kids are welcome was ok. But after the debate here, I felt like I should ask. Don't want to be the asshole parent making others hang out with M if they got a sitter

[Deleted]

Jan 4, 2013 16:29:49 GMT -5 dojo said:

Jan 4, 2013 16:25:00 GMT -5 mscatra said:

But it's her shower, shouldn't she be the center of attention?

Yeah and I'm pretty sure Hank isn't going to steal her spotlight.

She may not want babies, or males, at her shower though? Some showers only female babies are invited, I have no clue why.

I would seriously probably ask though, she really may not want him there, and if she doesn't then you can decline if you have to.

[mscatra]

Jan 4, 2013 16:29:49 GMT -5 dojo said:

Jan 4, 2013 16:25:00 GMT -5 mscatra said:

But it's her shower, shouldn't she be the center of attention?

Yeah and I'm pretty sure Hank isn't going to steal her spotlight.

Well, why make the point that she's an AW and potentially will be an AW at her shower, but you're bringing Hank anyway, if you didn't think that he'd garner some of the attention she wants on her day? I mean, he's a cutie, I'm sure he will

[dojo]

Jan 4, 2013 16:53:57 GMT -5 mscatra said:

Jan 4, 2013 16:29:49 GMT -5 dojo said:

Yeah and I'm pretty sure Hank isn't going to steal her spotlight.

Well, why make the point that she's an AW and potentially will be an AW at her shower, but you're bringing Hank anyway, if you didn't think that he'd garner some of the attention she wants on her day? I mean, he's a cutie, I'm sure he will

I said that because I think it's really weird when people feel their attention will be threatened by someone else. To me it's akin to putting your bridesmaids in ugly dresses so they don't show you up. I don't think he's going to take some of her attention away from her, but I do think she's the type of person to feel that her attention could be threatened by someone or something else. She was pissed that another cousin announced her pregnancy shortly before this cousin's wedding. She thought the pregnancy announcement would take attention away from her.