kathybela, I have a question

[Willis Jackson]

You posted in the lurker thread that we're welcome to ask questions about being old, lol. I wanted to ask about the MIL/DIL relationship from the MIL's perspective.

How are things with your DIL? Do you two have any issues? Did you have any issues with your son's previous girlfriends? What do DILs do that bugs MILs? Do you make an effort to not do things that bug DILs?

[kathybela]

My DIL is awesome and I love her very much - we get along great and I think we have a good relationship. After reading horror stories on here about the way some ladies feel about their MIL I work really hard to not be interfering but am available to help out when needed and my DIL doesn't hesitate to ask for help, she doesn't leave it to my son to ask. We also "talk" alot on MSN chat.

My son did have a couple of girlfriends that I wasn't overly fond of but I kept my mouth shut - he wised up pretty quickly without any interference

Sometimes when I read posts about inlaws on these boards my back goes up - especially in relation to holidays and spending time with his family when "her family is so much better". Put yourself in the position of that MIL - how would you feel if your child put the other family first all the time?

I don't know if this answered your questions or not but don't hesitate to ask more!!

[Willis Jackson]

Thanks for the insight!

Do you ever worry that your DIL is a gbcn-er? The AmeliaPond situation is my worst nightmare, lol.

[kathybela]

I don't worry about that at all, she spends most of her time on Facebook and other chat boards but even if she did come here I don't think anything I say would bother her. I don't think she knows about my GBCN habit anyway - if I say anything at all about online chatting it's just a vague reference to a "money board" I visit.