You are entirely too good for him if he won't put any effort into this. You are strong. You are stunning. You are smart. And most of all, you are NOT alone.
You might not *know* us but you do know that there is always someone online that will lend an ear or hypothetical shoulder to cry on.
Tell shit for brains that if he wants a divorce to get his shit out, you shouldn't have to walk away when he's walking away from you.
Just because he's all you know, doesn't mean he's all there is.
There are men out there who don't abandon you when you get sick or who just stop loving you because things get hard. You deserve better and even though it might be a rough road to getting there, you deserve it.
Okay, we have to go to the IL's house for dinner, but I am going to PM you my number and if you need me to come have pie and coffee with you tonight, you let me know. I'm sure I'm not that far away from you, and I'm only slightly crazy, but in a really good way.
Just because he's all you know, doesn't mean he's all there is.
There are men out there who don't abandon you when you get sick or who just stop loving you because things get hard. You deserve better and even though it might be a rough road to getting there, you deserve it.
Also, he's dumb, because you're going to be super skinny soon and you COULD have been his hot trophy wife, but now you're going to get snapped up by someone who deserves a hot trophy wife and he'll be sorry. Jerk ass.
Just because he's all you know, doesn't mean he's all there is.
There are men out there who don't abandon you when you get sick or who just stop loving you because things get hard. You deserve better and even though it might be a rough road to getting there, you deserve it.
Beautifully said.
I think a lot of you know ex was disabled. I stayed with him (actually, we reunited after we'd already split) after his diagnosis because that's what people do when they care about each other and they make vows to each other. We had kids and he didn't have anyone else to care for him. He met someone else shortly after I met DH and he's been with his wife now for almost 18 years, through thick and thin and all sorts of health scares. That's what decent people do that care about each other. (I can't believe I just said that about my ex's wife! lol.)
He may be scared but he's a POS if he doesn't realize you're scared too and he's pulling the rug out from under you.
You deserve so much better than this. Take the other posters up on their support. Accept your family's support. There are a lot of people here who care about you.
Post by 2boys2danes on Jan 6, 2013 15:59:47 GMT -5
BQQ....I'm so sorry to read this. You have always struck me as a stand out gal so I'm sure when the dust settles, you will come out very fine and with a great new life. Hang in there....
I'm sure you'll look back on this and be soooo happy it happened. I know I'm new and you don't know me but from my lurker days I always thought of you as funny as heck.
I'm so sorry you will get through this, even though it's hard now. This is the start of a new (wonderful) beginning for you, you just haven't realized it yet. It will take time, but just know that you deserve to be loved unconditionally and wholeheartedly, and 15 years or not, he isn't worthy enough to be the lucky guy that gets to give you that love you deserve. Completely his loss, bqq. (((Hugs)))