@ post baby sexxytime

[InBetweenDays]

This may be TMI, but while nursing I was rather, uh, dry. So it was often painful unless we used some lubricant. Have you tried that?

[InBetweenDays]

I really think that is common. I didn't have a serious tear, but I had 2nd degree tearing and actually had a puncture would (which I think was a result of DD having to be suctioned out since her heart rate was dropping). I had minimal tearing with DS.

The fresher scar tissue doesn't flex as well which can make it feel tighter. I don't remember when it started feeling better to me, but I promise you it does get better.

[InBetweenDays]

Oh my gosh, my sex drive went through the roof when I was pregnant. I wish I could have maintained that post baby

[dana86]

Lb I had the same problem after having M. I had a 3rd degree tear and once we tried sex it was not so fun, I definitely had the feeling of being stitched up to much. I think it was a few months before the feeling finally went away, I think it was a matter of having sex as often as we could to get thing re familiar with the actions lol H said it didn't feel different to him so it made me a little at ease but I honestly thought it was never going to be back to normal but it does!

[Deleted]

I haven't had a baby, but what you describe is actually what I went through physical therapy for. So since mine wasn't baby-related it might now help you at all but for what it's worth:

At some point, sex randomly was "uncomfortable," and it gradually got worse until just in normal mode (ie, sitting at work or whatever) it felt like shards of glass. For me, it's that I was unconsciously tightening the muscles so they were in a constant state of spasm and overstimulated. I had to go through PT where she gently massaged and stretched all those muscles (there are a ton that go through that area) and also do home exercises with dialators (kind of like graduated vibrators without the vibrating) that started from the size of my pinkie up until large penis sized. I've finally graduated out of PT end of last fall and sex is starting to be enjoyable again.

[jennlin]

lb. you and me. twinsies.

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I had a c-section but had dilated completely. Sex was quite uncomfortable for the first I'd say 5-6 times after... we didn't have sex until I was probably about 3 months Post Partum.. and then it was very sporadic.. and still is. I think right now if H gets it 1 time a month we are doing good. it has finally gotten to the point it isn't painful I just don't have the drive like I used to before I got pregnant.

Here's my theory based on something my Dr. told me when you dilated the opening of your cervix changes shape. Before you've dilated it is a small tight round opening, after dilation it becomes a more oblong shape. Maybe this plays a role in the uncomfortable-ness of sexxy time?! (no idea if it's true but hey I said it's a theory)

[omangie]

I also feel like my opening shrunk. It still requires the slowest entry known to man, but once the peen is finally in, it's all good (two and a half years later). I do have a friend whose scar tissue will not allow entry at all...she needs surgery, but the kicker is the surgery could make it worse. I hope it gets better for ya soon!

[jennlin]

you guys! before this post i didn't even realize that it could be the scar tissue not stretching, but this totally makes sense.

Jan 8, 2013 1:47:24 GMT -5 omangie said:

I do have a friend whose scar tissue will not allow entry at all...she needs surgery, but the kicker is the surgery could make it worse.

and this terrifies me! how am i ever going to get my 27 kids at this rate? :@

[picksthemusic]

I will say this about c/s... once your scar/belly is healed, you are free to enjoy sex again much sooner than a natural delivery mama.

That being said, it will take time. Your body is still healing, your nerve endings are still trying to rewire themselves. You may want to see your ob/gyn to see if there's anything that can help.

Also, is your DH making sure you're good and warmed up before he enters you? Because that can be a huge help...

[picksthemusic]

Jan 7, 2013 13:52:19 GMT -5 InBetweenDays said:

Oh my gosh, my sex drive went through the roof when I was pregnant. I wish I could have maintained that post baby

This was me. I was a horny pregnant lady. J had NO problem with this, haha.