This feels like a dumb question

[iheartvino]

I think it is up to whoever is hosting and whether your MIL wants her extended family to be invited.

I think it is good to include your H's extended family, though.

ETA: I think it also depends on whether you are having two showers or just one. I have been invited to my cousin's wife's baby shower that their ILs threw, because they were only having one shower. After a disaster of a wedding shower that my ILs threw, I am only having 1 baby shower. My mom will invite anybody from H's side that MIL wants to have invited.

My sister is having two baby showers, so we are inviting her MIL to our shower, but the extended family is going to her MIL's shower. So really, it is up to you, the host and your MIL. But mostly the host.

[jssymom14]

It depends on location. Are they all fairly close? My in-laws are 8 hours away (where DH grew up) so we had a shower there that is separate from my shower my sisters will throw in my hometown with aunts/cousins (which we are still very close too). MIL did not invite any Nebraska family to the shower in Indiana, but my sisters will at least send invitations to GMIL, MIL & SIL with knowledge they won't come.

[baconlettucetomato]

Snazzy - I'm in PA too!

My family is in Iowa and Dh's is in OH. My mom already said if she's coming out for the birth she can't do a baby shower. I plan to skype with her the weekend my bffs visit and I have some friends over for a get together. Unofficial shower so to speak.

MIL is throwing me one with DH's family, she will invite my mom and sister even though they won't come.

[imoan]

It really depends on the family and the locations.

My bridal shower was both families. I know my baby shower will be both families. Our families are COMPLETE opposites but have a lot of respect and love for each other (we're very lucky). But if that's not the case (or if the families don't live close by), I don't think there's anything wrong with only inviting the extended ILs to the IL-side shower.

[iheartvino]

Just wanted to say I'm in PA, too!

And most if the in laws are local. I do think out of town changed things. I'd still see what your ILs prefer.

[winecheery]

See...my relatives are weird, man. Even if they are out of state and unlikely to attend an event like this, they want the invite so they can show it off to people, and know they were included on the guest list anyways. Don't ask. I said they were weird.

That being said, I'd def include your MIL, (she's the other grandma after all) and anyone else you feel close to family-wise. I think inviting the neighbors and casual acquaintances might seem more gift grabby then extending the invite to DH's side of the family, who are technically your family too.

But then, I said my family circumstances were weird. So maybe just listen to other people's superior advise here! lol