Relationship advice from my mom and my dad.

[awick14]

Lol, my dad had the same advise as your mom.

I think it's great advise.

My dad also thinks you shouldn't live together before married. I think he is a hypocrite. Lol!

[Coopertown]

My mom gave me the same advice. My mind was blown that day.

[meggers5]

My mom said I should live with my BF before getting married, which would be neat trick, since we live on different continents.

She never lived with my dad before marriage, so I'm not sure why she wants it for me.

[karmasabiotch]

My Mom had told me that the first time you marry for love and the second time you marry for money.

She was married twice.

[underwaterrhymes]

LOL. My dad told my husband when we got married, "You can be right, or you can be happy. I suggest you choose the latter."

I can dig it.

[Deleted]

Two days before my wedding my dad said "It's really neat that you're marrying for love and not money, I thought you'd be the kid that would marry well. I guess that means I thought you were the smart one."

[circa1978]

My mom always said the first one. Her second husband's name is Rich. We like to joke she misunderstood him when he introduced himself.

[sonrisa]

My mom always said: "be the man you want to marry." It's a bit dated, but I think there is wisdom to it.

ETA: For her, this was relationship advice as well as life advice. Being someone interesting and worth marrying is central to finding someone worth marrying. There was a window where she was horrified to think I was following it only as career advice and not also using it to date mr. right. lol.

[Deleted]

My mom is horrible at advice and once told me that if she would have slept with my dad before they got married, she would not have married him. Err.. THANKS MOM.

[Deleted]

"Don't date anyone you wouldn't take home."

"Don't get married too young."

Both of these I blatantly ignored. I was 23 when I got married.

My mom (married to an artist) always told me not to marry an artist b/c I was too artistic. "You will be too poor!" This I listened to, lol.

[alexis]

Jan 8, 2013 18:10:55 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

My mom always said: "be the man you want to marry." It's a bit dated, but I think there is wisdom to it.

I never got this from my parents, but I did hear it once and think it is great advice. This idea forced me to get my finances and spending under control. I knew I would never want to marry someone who perpetually spent beyond his means and figured I should stop being that person.

[Deleted]

Jan 8, 2013 18:03:45 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

this is great!

My dad told me, before I headed off to college, that I did not have to marry every man I slept with. I was horrified, but later on it came in handy.

That's hilarious!

[gault]

Grow to be the person you want to be/were meant to be before settling down, in a nutshell.

[jayded]

My mom says the same thing your dad does, she's been married 2x, neither of her husbands were wealthy lol.

[omangie]

Mom - "You're never going to find a husband if you keep burping like that"
Dad - "burp... Betcha can't beat that one"

[WOT?*]

Jan 8, 2013 17:36:00 GMT -5 karmasabiotch said:

My Mom had told me that the first time you marry for love and the second time you marry for money.

She was married twice.

Great advice. Turns out the second time for me was for both. The first time was merely a miserable failure that at least begat children and the grands. lol.

I got "why by the cow if you can get the milk for free."

[Deleted]

Before our wedding, my dad told me: "It's not too late to back out. It's okay to live in sin."

He was very set on me not getting married. Not because he doesn't like H, but because he doesn't seem to like marriage. He is married, but he offered me an unlimited amount of money if I would call off my wedding. To this day I'm not sure if he was joking about that or not.

[Waffles]

I got told not to settle and to decide what I wanted to do/be before adding someone else to the mix.

Also that I had plenty time to get serious/married/have kids though not as long as they took please (my mum was 40 & my dad 55 when I was born).

[Deleted]

My mom's advice: Wait until you are married before having sex. Don't move in with someone until you are married because that's what I did and that's what God would want. (gag)

My dad's advice: Try it before you buy it.

I never asked for advice concerning relationships but it was pretty obvious that my mom was NOT happy when I moved in with H a year before we actually got married. Dad thought it was a good idea because he wanted me to be sure it's what I wanted.