Omg, I am getting annoyed with h.

[sake]

I have been telling h for weeks that the dogs need a bath. Usually I do it, but I can't really bend for an extended period of time right now, so he needed to be the one to do it. I have asked him every day to do it, and finally, I got kind of snippy with him tonight and was like "either give the dogs a fucking bath, or taking them somewhere tomorrow, and spending however much it costs to get it done."
So now it's 10 pm, and he's in there, fucking around, not doing it quickly at all, and he's being loud, and I can hear doby jumping out of the bath tub multiple times, which means there is going to be water EVERYWHERE, and h is LAUGHING at him, and obviously not making him stay in the bath tub, which I have NEVER had an issue with...

It's just really grating on my nerves that I have to ask him a million times to do this, and I'm sure that it's going to result in clean dogs, but also a bathroom that I have to clean either tonight before bed, or in the morning, bc he isn't doing it to the best of his ability....

[julesf84]

Ugh. That's not fair. He should be doing anything you ask with no guff or needing to be asked multiple times. Is he like this with other chores/requests/responsibilities? If so, I'll come drop kick his ass to the 'flo.

[2boys2danes]

Do you live in my house? Cause that totally sounds like something that would go down here....

[mamasaurus]

He better shape up fast! You can't be that laissez-faire about baths with a both baby and a dog in the house.

[sake]

Jan 8, 2013 21:57:39 GMT -5 julesf84 said:

Ugh. That's not fair. He should be doing anything you ask with no guff or needing to be asked multiple times. Is he like this with other chores/requests/responsibilities? If so, I'll come drop kick his ass to the 'flo.

Yeah, I generally have to ask/ remind him to do things multiple times. I used to just end up doing it myself, but then I would get bitter, so now I just "nag" at him about it, which surprisingly, he doesn't really seem to mind. He will end up doing what I want, but it's usually a day or 2 or 3 after I have originally asked. He was NOT like this when we were dating, at all. He was actually the opposite, and like, obsessively clean.
He blames the fact that he "forgets" to do stuff on having a bad memory, which he does really have a terrible memory, but I don't think that he actually forgets as much as he claims.

[julesf84]

Write that shit down as put it somewhere he will always see, no matter what. He needs to get his ass together!!

[julesf84]

Jan 8, 2013 22:06:02 GMT -5 julesf84 said:

Write that shit down and put it somewhere he will always see, no matter what. He needs to get his ass together!!

[sake]

And I just heard one of the dogs SHAKE water all over, bc their tail was whipping against the bathroom door, so I know that wasn't inside the shower in closure. I'm doing deep breaths and counting to 10...

[julesf84]

He needs to experience some pregnant rage...lol

[hoobsboobs]

Someone is not ready to be a parent

[housegeek]

My H "doesn't know how" to wash the dog either. Take deep breaths, let him know you expect that bathroom sparkling with the amount of water getting everywhere, and laugh that it's not you?

[sake]

I am not going to get worked up into a rage. I have already been having some contractions off and on tonight, and I know that getting all upset will just make them worse. I don't know if they're the real deal, or just BH, so I'm laying down now, seeing if anything changes.

[ThirdandLong]

Sake, tell him he's cleaning the bathroom. Please. Then let it roll off you, blame the hormones. Deep breath. Believe he will clean it up & have a peaceful night's sleep.

[sake]

Jan 8, 2013 22:11:31 GMT -5 hoobsboobs said:

Someone is not ready to be a parent

Yeah, neither one of us were "ready" to be parents, which is why we weren't trying to get pregnant!!
But hey, I'm sure it could be MUCH MUCH worse. He's a good husband, and if the biggest argument we have is over chores, we're doing a lot better than a lot of people.

[sake]

Jan 8, 2013 22:13:25 GMT -5 ThirdandLong said:

Sake, tell him he's cleaning the bathroom. Please. Then let it roll off you, blame the hormones. Deep breath. Believe he will clean it up & have a peaceful night's sleep.

He just poked his head out, and I said "have fun cleaning up all that water!" And he laughed and said "yeah, I suck at this, but I'll clean it up."
So that's good at least

LHC, I'm not raging, I just said I was annoyed. I don't think those are the same emotion.

[speckledfrog]

Lucy, he's not washing the dogs "right." If that's not rage inducing, I don't know what is.

Really, though sake, this is not something worth getting worked up about. And this is something that will happen a LOT once your baby is here. You and H will have different ways of doing things ad that doesn't make it wrong.

[julesf84]

Jan 8, 2013 22:16:22 GMT -5 sake said:

Jan 8, 2013 22:13:25 GMT -5 ThirdandLong said:

Sake, tell him he's cleaning the bathroom. Please. Then let it roll off you, blame the hormones. Deep breath. Believe he will clean it up & have a peaceful night's sleep.

He just poked his head out, and I said "have fun cleaning up all that water!" And he laughed and said "yeah, I suck at this, but I'll clean it up."
So that's good at least

Good!

Don't get ragey. That was my knee-jerk reaction. Rest!

[sake]

I'm really not ragey... I was just annoyed that it took so long to do it in the first place.
I swear that I'm not like, super bitch wife of the century.
At least I'm not trying to be...