Am I being an asshole?

[TrickyBob]

My Husband forgot his house key and work access card for work tonight; I'm dead tired and was all ready for bed when he texted me to tell me he doesn't have anything for work.

Last year I drove my butt down to his work MANY times to bring him his stuff because he forgot it.

I'm just sick of having to take a grown ass man his stuff for work.

I feel like I've put in my time by making numerous 9/10/11pm drives out to his work. And tonight I just don't want to, I want to go to bed.

He also invited people over to our house for Saturday and didn't bother to tell me until yesterday. Knowing I have mass amounts of school work to do and that our house is 100% wrecked, when exactly am I going to clean this mess?!

I have half a mind to make him lasagna with LOTS of ricotta cheese for dinner tomorrow. Jerk.

[ElizabethBennet]

If he's done this before I wouldn't go. You're not an asshole.

[Muddled]

Is he lactose intolerant?

[TrickyBob]

Jan 9, 2013 21:03:47 GMT -5 ElizabethBennet said:

If he's done this before I wouldn't go. You're not an asshole.

This would be time number 6 or 7 or so.

Normally I wouldn't mind, truly. Usually I just stuff the dog in the car and she loves the ride and he gets his stuff. But I'm just not feeling it tonight. I feel like he needs to come to a conclusion for this on his own because what if I can't other times? Then what?

[Deleted]

I wouldn't go, but keep in mind I'm fine with being an asshole.

[ralphlauren]

No I don't think so

[TrickyBob]

Jan 9, 2013 21:04:36 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Is he lactose intolerant?

Lol, no. I made lasagna a few weeks ago and he wouldn't eat it because it had ricotta in it. He never let me know he didn't like ricotta.

[Jalapeñomel]

Jan 9, 2013 21:05:34 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

Jan 9, 2013 21:04:36 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Is he lactose intolerant?

Lol, no. I made lasagna a few weeks ago and he wouldn't eat it because it had ricotta in it. He never let me know he didn't like ricotta.

I hate ricotta cheese too.

[Deleted]

Nope let him learn his lesson. As for inviting people over I would go hide somewhere and do my schoolwork.

[Muddled]

Jan 9, 2013 21:09:24 GMT -5 nicbreeful said:

I would let him clean the house and cook the food for Saturday.. Don't run yourself crazy cleaning for people you didn't invite over when you have a ton of schoolwork to do. He's a grown man, let him do it.

This, absolutely.

He cleans for his friends.

[milosh]

He sounds like a bit of a brat. I would have a serious problem with him inviting people over without asking first.

[emsumm]

So he wants you to drive to his work and back, instead of him driving home and back?

[muffin0]

I would probably take it tonight and then tell him that I'm done he needs to remember his crap.

I would also wait to bring up the weekend incident because if your H is anything like mine he'll think you're mad about the one thing and just over reacting about the other (vs being mad about two separate things)

[tacokick]

I wouldn't bring a kid stuff he forgot much less my husband.

His friends, he should clean.

[eddy]

Doesn't he need his work access card? That sounds sort of important.

[bab]

Doesn't he know how to drive? Tell him to come home and get his access card.

[BlackCanary]

Jan 9, 2013 21:26:11 GMT -5 eddy said:

Doesn't he need his work access card? That sounds sort of important.

This. DH will occasionally forget his, but he thankfully he is still able to get into the building.

I would still bring it to him, but definitely make him clean the house. And make another lasagna with plenty of ricotta cheese.

[Kit]

He needs to learn not to leave his shit places. Don't bring it this time.

And he can clean and prepare for guests this weekend! That's douchy that he did that knowing you have schoolwork.

Sent from my Nexus 10 using proboards

[aprilludgate]

I would take it, because work stuff is important. I would totally hold it over his head for at least a couple weeks.

[midnightmare81]

I would take it tonight, but not again. Why doesn't he just LEAVE it in his car so he never forgets?

As for the "party", I would tell him HIS ass needs to clean and cook, not your job!

[sonrisa]

Jan 9, 2013 21:28:01 GMT -5 bab said:

Doesn't he know how to drive? Tell him to come home and get his access card.

This.

[ECB]

Jan 10, 2013 0:52:48 GMT -5 midnightmare81 said:

Why doesn't he just LEAVE it in his car so he never forgets?

This is what I'm wondering. that's where mine goes at the end of the day! you've now done it "6 or 7" times. He'll keep forgeting if you keep taking it. Stop taking it.

And i really do wonder why he can't come home and get it himself. Either he's still able to get in, therefore he doesn't "need" it OR he's sitting outside waiting for you - which really means he could get in his car and drive home and get it.

The cleaning - ABSOLUTELY do not clean your house. HE invited people over, HE can clean.

If you don't actually start putting your foot down, he'll just keep doing all of this.

[TrickyBob]

He can get into his part of work without the access card. He works on maintenance, for all the machinery. It is him and another dude. He said last night was pretty busy and since it required the both of them, that he didn't have any issues with not having his card.

Which I knew someone would let him in to the other areas of the shop anyway if his co-worker wasn't there for some reason.

He wasn't mad or irritated or anything when he came home. We laughed about it, he told me about his night, said it was fine that he didn't have it. It was no big deal apparently.

And he said that he is going to set his alarm for earlier in the day to help me clean.

They're not just his friends, they're ours. I just didn't know he was going to invite them over so soon. But he did say he would help me. I don't mind the cleaning but I was like "you HAVE to help out dude, you invited them!" He agreed.

Freaking men.

[fuckyourcouch]

Jan 9, 2013 21:09:24 GMT -5 nicbreeful said:

I would let him clean the house and cook the food for Saturday.. Don't run yourself crazy cleaning for people you didn't invite over when you have a ton of schoolwork to do. He's a grown man, let him do it.

:Y: (I)