I actually regret not being more promiscuous. I had opportunities and never took them. H was my first and we waited until we were married, I would change that as well.
Due to a chronic pain condition I have only had actually intercourse with two people. However, I have had some amazing random sexual encounters that I regret in no way. I also have one or two that were slightly odd that I could do without, like the guy I met at a bar and went home with during a snowstorm, who wanted to watch me masterbate.
It's not a small number. I didn't meet H until I was 28, and I wasn't exactly a nun up until that point. I regret nothing, I had a great time in my late teens and 20s.
I've slept with over 10 and don't regret it. It very much taught me what I did and did not want in a relationship and sexual partner. I don't regret it at all.
FI has slept with about the same # of people.
FI was very close to being my first back in college, but I chickened out. Fast forward 10 years later when we got back together and he's now one of the best I've ever had an makes me totally happy. We joke that if we had sex back in college it would have been terrible we needed those 10 yrs to figure it out.
Oral has always grossed me out. I was with DH for quite a while before he got any, and he's the first guy that ever got it from me. The thought of doing it with anyone besides DH makes me queasy.
Come to think of it, I was quite a taker with all partners, but not much of a giver in those regards.
I've had actual intercourse with 10, I think. It may be 11, but I think it's 10. If we count people I've done other stuff with, it doesn't go much higher but I'm not sure of that exact number. Do girls count?
No regrets except wishing I'd experimented a little bit more before marriage.
ETA: I know H's number and it's way lower than mine. I wouldn't care either way.
I guess for me, I can really think back on the passion/compatibility with each person I've had sex with and can really tell whether I was fooling myself into thinking it was good at the time, or whether it really was good. Does that make sense?
That makes complete sense to me. Looking back on my sexual experiences before I was with H, two guys stand out as being truly great. Most of the rest seemed pretty good at the time, but now I know better.
I regret nothing. One in particular I'd brag about if it was socially acceptable.
SO's number is less than half of mine, but all I cared about was that he wasn't a virgin. He was weird about my number at first, but he's long over it now.
Just DH. We met when I was 16 and he 18 and we never separated ever since. I have a somewhat embarrasing confession also: DH is also the only guy I've kissed.
I have a dumb question for the people who only slept with one person. How do you know how good your sex life is, or could be? I guess if you are satisfied and you don't really think about it, that makes sense.
I guess for me, I can really think back on the passion/compatibility with each person I've had sex with and can really tell whether I was fooling myself into thinking it was good at the time, or whether it really was good. Does that make sense?
I hope that didn't come out the wrong way...
Multiple orgasms are multiple orgasms, yo. It is what it is.
Post by countthestars on Jan 11, 2013 9:55:59 GMT -5
Just 2. I lost my virginity to my HS boyfriend and I was very fragile about sex. I wasn't emotionally ready to be doing it but did because I felt like I "should". We stayed together for 4 years and I met and slept with H not long after that. Then I married him. I actually wish my number was a little higher.
H's number is similar to mine which was important to me when we met. Now, I wouldn't care if it had been higher.
I have a dumb question for the people who only slept with one person. How do you know how good your sex life is, or could be? I guess if you are satisfied and you don't really think about it, that makes sense.
I guess for me, I can really think back on the passion/compatibility with each person I've had sex with and can really tell whether I was fooling myself into thinking it was good at the time, or whether it really was good. Does that make sense?
I hope that didn't come out the wrong way...
It's not something I think about. I don't know what i'm missing, or if i'm missing anything at all.
I have a dumb question for the people who only slept with one person. How do you know how good your sex life is, or could be? I guess if you are satisfied and you don't really think about it, that makes sense.
I guess for me, I can really think back on the passion/compatibility with each person I've had sex with and can really tell whether I was fooling myself into thinking it was good at the time, or whether it really was good. Does that make sense?
I hope that didn't come out the wrong way...
H and I started dating when I was 18. What was I supposed to do, say "hang on a minute while I go figure out what's good sex for me?" It is what it is.
There's a couple of guys I wish I had actually had sex with, and wish I had lost my virginity differently/earlier, but I was so freaking scared about getting pregnant, lol. But overall, I did enough to know I have a good thing going with DH.
H was my first, and my first kiss/boyfriend as well. I kind of wish I had had more "fun" in college, but I was extremely awkward and shy, so it is what it is. H's number is like 2 I think.
Just DH. We met when I was 16 and he 18 and we never separated ever since. I have a somewhat embarrasing confession also: DH is also the only guy I've kissed.
I was kind of a whore in college and right out of college...
I don't really regret it though. It was always safe, I never got any STDs or anything, and honestly, it was fun.
This is me pretty much except I met DH in college. He was supposed to be a one night stand.
I know his number and mine is triple that. He jokes that he screwed up by having one girlfriend for most of high school into his sophomore year of college.
Post by yellowbrkrd on Jan 11, 2013 10:34:03 GMT -5
Only DH, we started dating when I was 15. At times I think back and wish I had experienced a little bit more before we met but our sex life is great so it's really not something I think about often.