If you REALLY mean it and not just saying it because you want to come across as nice, or you think as a woman you need and should say that so people will think you are nice and not jealous, then it's okay. It seems like, a lot of times, that people are really struggling to find something good about some people when they see a picture. If you have to do that, just don't say anything.
But, how are you to police whether someone means it or not? Beauty is in the eye, etc, etc.
Post by ilovesawyer on Jan 13, 2013 20:27:25 GMT -5
Miso. That was directed to jal. I don't think I've ever met a person that has ever said to someone, "omg, you look like crap without makeup." That's something they say behind someone's back. Do you still get all the attention from strangers that women who wear makeup get?
So, basically you just admitted you say it to be nice and not because it's the truth, right? How many of you that have been told you are gorgeous on here, can go out with sweats, their hair looking a mess and no makeup and have person after person come up to you to tell you you are stunning and gorgeous? Please tell the truth. I 'm not saying that all you women aren't attractive. Most women in this world are, but that's different than pretty, gorgeous, beautiful and stunning.
I said no such thing.
I merely stated that I personally do not call everyone pretty.
If people want to tell others that they are pretty, I don't see how this is not nice.
I don't wear makeup, and people have told me that I still look fine. I choose to believe it.
If I tell someone that I think they're pretty, or I like their outfit, or I think their kid is cute, I mean it. I do not ever and have not ever posted that kind of stuff just to blow smoke up someone's ass.
My vision of beauty doesn't automatically match up to what the next persons does, everyone is going to find different things attractive in a person.
I feel fairly confident that when I go out in public people think I'm attractive. Not stunning, not knock your socks off, but I think that people notice me in a positive way. I'm sure there are other people who think I'm a hurting unit too, which is why I try to be nice to everyone so they can at least find one thing pleasant about me.
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Don't forget to add that you have a banging ass! TRUTH!
I'm not going to tell someone they look like crap on here or in real life because I don't want to be an ass. If they ask for constructive criticism I might say something.
The people on this board are all beautiful in their own ways.
Miso. That was directed to jal. I don't think I've ever met a person that has ever said to someone, "omg, you look like crap without makeup." That's something they say behind someone's back. Do you still get all the attention from strangers that women who wear makeup get?
Post by ilovesawyer on Jan 13, 2013 20:30:21 GMT -5
I read something last year that said, "everyone thinks they are better looking, smarter, funnier, etc., than they really are." I think that's true. Most people think they are better than average. I've never met a person that will admit that they are average. For some resaon, people think there is something wrong with being average. It just means you are at the same level as everyone else. What's wrong with that?
So now I'm curious, how many women here have been approached by random strangers for the sole purpose of being told how beautiful they are? Or randomly approached a complete stranger to tell her how beautiful she is?
I read something last year that said, "everyone thinks they are better looking, smarter, funnier, etc., than they really are." I think that's true. Most people think they are better than average. I've never met a person that will admit that they are average. For some resaon, people think there is something wrong with being average. It just means you are at the same level as everyone else. What's wrong with that?
What's wrong with the alternative? Honestly, if you think there's something wrong with someone who is confident in themselves, that just sounds like sour grapes.
Post by ilovesawyer on Jan 13, 2013 20:33:46 GMT -5
Miso,
People going out of their way to be nice to you, both men and women? Both sexes coming up to tell you that you are pretty, or tripping over themselves staring at you? I've never seen this with women that don't wear makeup, even if they are prettier than a woman with it. It seems like makeup and hair have a weird effect on people. I don't know if it's because of the colors, or because people think women that spend time on that care more about themselves.
Miso. That was directed to jal. I don't think I've ever met a person that has ever said to someone, "omg, you look like crap without makeup." That's something they say behind someone's back. Do you still get all the attention from strangers that women who wear makeup get?
I read something last year that said, "everyone thinks they are better looking, smarter, funnier, etc., than they really are." I think that's true. Most people think they are better than average. I've never met a person that will admit that they are average. For some resaon, people think there is something wrong with being average. It just means you are at the same level as everyone else. What's wrong with that?
There's nothing wrong with that.
I am fairly average-looking.
But I do think I am smarter than the average person, and I would think even you could agree with that, even with your limited interaction with me.
People going out of their way to be nice to you, both men and women? Both sexes coming up to tell you that you are pretty, or tripping over themselves staring at you? I've never seen this with women that don't wear makeup, even if they are prettier than a woman with it. It seems like makeup and hair have a weird effect on people. I don't know if it's because of the colors, or because people think women that spend time on that care more about themselves.
People going out of their way to be nice to you, both men and women? Both sexes coming up to tell you that you are pretty, or tripping over themselves staring at you? I've never seen this with women that don't wear makeup, even if they are prettier than a woman with it. It seems like makeup and hair have a weird effect on people. I don't know if it's because of the colors, or because people think women that spend time on that care more about themselves.
My best girlfriend gets complimented all.the.time by men and women, and she doesn't wear make up. And the only thing she does to her hair is brush it.
So now I'm curious, how many women here have been approached by random strangers for the sole purpose of being told how beautiful they are? Or randomly approached a complete stranger to tell her how beautiful she is?
Me! Of course this was a few years ago during my bar hopping stage...wait do you think they were LYING?
I got picked up in college all the time too, and I don't wear makeup. I sometimes wore sweats, and I brush my hair occasionally. Even with my wedding ring on. I don't think I'm anything special but it does happen.
People going out of their way to be nice to you, both men and women? Both sexes coming up to tell you that you are pretty, or tripping over themselves staring at you? I've never seen this with women that don't wear makeup, even if they are prettier than a woman with it. It seems like makeup and hair have a weird effect on people. I don't know if it's because of the colors, or because people think women that spend time on that care more about themselves.
Soo....do you think that this is what's happening all the time out in the real world and you're upset that it isn't happening to you?
People going out of their way to be nice to you, both men and women? Both sexes coming up to tell you that you are pretty, or tripping over themselves staring at you? I've never seen this with women that don't wear makeup, even if they are prettier than a woman with it. It seems like makeup and hair have a weird effect on people. I don't know if it's because of the colors, or because people think women that spend time on that care more about themselves.
People are pretty nice to me. I have a happy smile. Strangers find me very approachable.
But, even if I had makeup on, nobody would be tripping over themselves to stare at me. I'm not that attractive.
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