Post by MixedBerryJam on Jan 13, 2013 21:04:59 GMT -5
Hi Spearmint - I just wanted to say that I am so, so sorry for your loss. There are a few widows scattered around the boards, including me. I'm really glad you have a support system in place and that you know the places where the "t"s need to be crossed. The specifics might be different, but if you have any questions or need to vent, pm me.
Post by cricketwife on Jan 13, 2013 21:08:45 GMT -5
Hello. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sorry that I don't have any advice but it sounds like you are doing an amazing job of taking care of things and seeking professional advice.
OMG, nonono. I am devastated for you. I am so, so sorry. I can't stop sobbing reading this.
I immediately felt compelled to write to you.
I was widowed by suicide this past April, we were late 20's, no kids either. A very similar story.
It is so terrible---that's all I can say to you and that I'm heartbroken for you.
I'm PMing you my email address now.
I know everyone claims "Let me know if there's something I can do for you" but I literally mean it. Please let me help you in some way. I unfortunately have been through it and I know some of what you are going through.
Huge hugs to you and I am so so sorry. I hope we'll be in touch--PM me, FB, call, text, anytime.
I have no advice but just wanted to say that I'm sorry. I'm glad you have a lot in order. I am sure it will make this just a little bit easier to deal with so you can take the time to grieve instead of worrying about everything.
It might be worth your time to talk to a financial advisor about the investments. You should be able to roll them over into your accounts without a gift/estate tax issue. As for capital gains, etc, the financial person would be able to help. With the life insurance proceeds as well.
I am so very sorry for your loss. You have been through quite a trauma. Please make sure you reach out for help when you need it--to a counselor, to us, to family, etc. Big hugs.