The silence in this house is deafening

[jamesonontherocks]

So Monday SO and I get in an argument. Not even an argument - we were looking at a quote and I said it didn't have taxes, then I said "maybe it does" so he said "well does it or doesn't?" I said "it does" he said "well you just said it didn't". So I got pissed off and said in a bitchy, snotty voice "then lets just email so and so and find out". He fliped and gave me a whole " You can't even have a fucking conversation with out getting pissed off" stormed out and has barely said a full sentense to me since. He's suddenly "not liked" all the dinners I've made the last few days (though I didn't like one either) but essentially ignores my presence. Now tonight he's traveling for work (which is common) but annoying. However, some times he's just this quiet when he's tired.

::sigh:: worst part is he works nights, so I'm not up for this conversation at 2am when he gets home.

I usually ride out the wave (this doesn't happen often), but he doesn't normally get annoyed for this long. I know I was bitchy and stuff...and I guess I should just admit it but I think at this point its been too long.

This turned more into a vent I guess. Bah.

[ilovelamp]

Ugh I'm sorry, I hate when stupid things like that happen. I can't stand the silent txt and usually do something funny to start the "let's makeup" process. However, it sounds like he's the one being a baby, so I'd wait for him to apologize.

[SpicedApplePie]

Honestly, I would say something like "Look, I am sorry we argued Monday. Can we just let it go now?" Is this a spat you really want to "win"? I hate unresolved conflict though, and cant imagine going 2 days without having an actual conversation.

[ilovelamp]

May 30, 2012 15:15:05 GMT -5 @ojo said:

I wouldn't wait for an apology. This really doesn't sound like a spat that should be lasting this long, so squashing it sooner rather than later sounds like it'll relieve a lot of tension. You could have said you don't know, he could have asked if he could call So-and-So to confirm...this isn't battle-worthy.

I recant my PP. Ojo is right, this isn't battle worthy. Plus you should enjoy time together before he goes OOT.

[basilosaurus]

You admit you were somewhat at fault. Apologize for it and ask to move on. He's not right to be freezing you out, either, but an apology goes a long way toward melting coolness.

And then, when you have time and aren't arguing, have a conversation about both of your communication styles. Neither is right nor healthy.

I have the opposite issue. H apologizes quickly, and we have so much fun around each other we are quickly laughing again, but sometimes that means we don't actually get to the bottom of the issue. So every few months we have the same debate. I'd like to avoid that cycle, too.

[jamesonontherocks]

I know its stupid, I feel like a teenager. Maybe if we do a baby hand off when he gets home I'll say something. We frequently go days without talking much (if at all) because of our work schedules or sometimes just are passing in the breeze.

No more passive aggressiveness from me.