I don't totally disagree with SomebodyElse but the delivery is way off. I think in general we live in a society where we turn to divorce far too easily/quickly, and it's weird how quickly people here will jump to "leave his ass" when someone posts marital issues.
Are you sure it's not just that people get *married* far too quickly?
In the same vein as His, I hate that it's cool to be disgusted by your own body on here. Whether its your weight, or body hair, or vaginal secretions, etc.
It's one thing to chose to control something about your body, but it's another to be "OMFG I can't believe you don't shower twice a day and get your asshole bleached biweekly, and handle your own boogers with antimicrobial tweezers!"
I exaggerate, obviously, but yeah.
i hate on my body a lot, but it has nothing to do with it being cool. it's a mental health issue and trust me, i wish it was different.
Yeah, same here. I wish I could be more confident. I really do.
Post by donnamartingraduat on Jan 22, 2013 13:48:59 GMT -5
Here goes my first UO. I shouldn't be quite this nervous. Right? RIGHT?
It amazes me that so many women think it is sweet or repectful when a man asks a woman's parents for permission / blessing to marry. Especially if the woman doesn't know that the proposal is coming.
It amazes me that such a clearly paternalistic tradition is still so popular. Plus, it seems so counter to the prevailing attitude on here that you & your H are the most important family unit. Not ILs.
Also, for those who do like the tradition, what would do if your parents said no? Not marry the guy?If you still would, what purpose does the asking serve?
Here goes my first UO. I shouldn't be quite this nervous. Right? RIGHT?
It amazes me that so many women think it is sweet or repectful when a man asks a woman's parents for permission / blessing to marry. Especially if the woman doesn't know that the proposal is coming.
It amazes me that such a clearly paternalistic tradition is still so popular. Plus, it seems so counter to the prevailing attitude on here that you & your H are the most important family unit. Not ILs.
Also, for those who do like the tradition, what would do if your parents said no? Not marry the guy?If you still would, what purpose does the asking serve?
This is about as old and tired as the WM/SAHM debate.
I hate to agree with somebodyelse, who is generally being a PITA, but I kind of do, just from what I do for a living. The statistics, damn them, show that one half of all first marriages end in divorce, three quarters of all second marriages also end in divorce, and about 85-90 percent of all third marriages end in divorce. Add in second marriages on both sides, third marriages on one or both sides, it gets worse. The odds really are pretty piss poor that you'll have a successful second or third marriage, and if you were betting on someone's marriage with no other knowledge other than general statistics, you'd be a fool to bet too much.
I'm not a gambling woman, myself.
I do get a lot of the 'he doesn't make me happy' stuff from clients, and what it often boils down to is "he is lousy in bed and does not make nearly enough money", for many of them. Which is fine, because you ought to be with someone who rocks you in bed and makes enough money, with you, to support a happy life together. But, odds are, Mr.2d Husband won't. Not impossible, just pretty bad odds of it happening.
I'm glad someone who is respected here said this first. I was about to post that my UO is that I kind of understand somebodyelse's underlying message even though the presentation of it isn't that great. "My husband verbally abused me, but he does the laundry" is not what I'm talking about. But there does seem to be a quick leap to divorce when communication problems or general differences present themselves. It's not up to one person to do all of the changing to suit the others needs if their general behavior is acceptable (i.e. not abusive). If something isn't working, both people work on it, possibly making changes, compromising so they find happiness in the middle.
Post by pantsparty on Jan 22, 2013 14:00:24 GMT -5
This is not an UO, but I CANNOT STAND IT when people post about not being liked, responded to, mentioned in favorite posters threads, etc. I post plenty of threads that go nowhere, but I don't take it personally. Mentioning it just makes you seems whiny.
This is not an UO, but I CANNOT STAND IT when people post about not being liked, responded to, mentioned in favorite posters threads, etc. I post plenty of threads that go nowhere, but I don't take it personally. Mentioning it just makes you seems whiny.
I dunno, maybe I just don't *get* it. Which is probably the case because I think I'm the only one that feels that way lol.
I *get* it, and I still don't think it's that funny. I mean, sure maybe funny the first day or so. But months later? I'm over it. Sorry fuckstick!
Ok this is how lame I am. My initial reaction was to freeze like a possum and think "Omg. People don't like me. I'm offensive." And then I saw the gifs posted in response and laughed and had to affirm to myself that not everyone will find me funny or even like me and its ok because I can't please everyone.
PS: Its ok, even I am kind of burnt out on the dicks. Sometimes.
i saw a pro-life bumper sticker today that said, "abortion? how about if we discuss it over some warm milk?" i have no idea wtf that means, but holy condescending! the driver was an old woman with a crocheted headrest cover and i decided that there should be a rule that you have to be a woman of child-bearing age if you want to publicize your opinion either way. wouldn't that be awesome? lol.
I equally hate it when I see people with their young kids at a pro-life rally or protest and the kids are holding up signs.
It annoys me when people use gender instead of sex in a sentence because they mean different things. It was in a post here but people do it when they speak all.the.time.
I think in time your & you're will be one and the same as your in written speech across America. People don't care enough to correct others. It makes me angry.
YEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSS.
If one more person tells me that they're having an ultrasound and they'll learn the gender of their baby, I'll scream. NO, the baby will tell you his/her gender. You will find out the baby's SEX. Sex, sex, sex!
Post by pantsparty on Jan 22, 2013 16:43:51 GMT -5
I don't think stats lie, but JFC, does that mean people shouldn't try? As my hero Eminem says, you only get one shot. (One shot at life, not at marriage, to be clear. Which is probably not what he was saying, but whatever.) I guess chances are my H and I will get divorced because I'm his second wife. But those are odds I'm willing to roll with.
I don't think stats lie, but JFC, does that mean people shouldn't try? As my hero Eminem says, you only get one shot. (One shot at life, not at marriage, to be clear. Which is probably not what he was saying, but whatever.) I guess chances are my H and I will get divorced because I'm his second wife. But those are odds I'm willing to roll with.