Post by shostakovich on Jan 22, 2013 12:08:37 GMT -5
I typically prefer women for everything - my GP, OB, dentist and allergist are all female. I would like for my dermatologist and cardiologist to be female, but there are none in my network currently.
I've had a male and a female therapist, and majorly preferred the female.
When I'm at a store and need to ask a question, I usually try to approach a female employee versus a male, when I have a choice.
The only place I'd care is at the mammogram center. Come to think of it, are there ever any male technicians working with mammograms? The place I went to is 100% staffed with women and I can't imagine/feel comfortable otherwise.
I never said ANYTHING about presuming a woman would be less competent. That's not remotely where I was coming from. I have also never had a female manager who I consider a "softie emotional collaborator" OR a "demanding bitch."
I actually wouldn't mind reading the articles you have in mind, but don't paint me as anti-woman. That's ridiculous. I AM a woman in a professional environment, after all. I would LOVE to be rid of professional gender biases but I don't know how to do it and that doesn't change my experiences thus far.
it's not just you, it's many/most/all women and men in the workplace. and it's subconscious in large part (you--general you--expect that women are going to be competative with one another, for example). and it IS anti-woman, which is why we all (myself included) need to work so hard not to fall into those traps. because they're there, and you're (general you) thinking it and it effects how you perceive "i'm going to need you to stay late and revise those TPS reports" depending on who is delivering the message.
I don't think I've ever cared, with ONE exception. I prefer male pets. We just get along better. I have a female bulldog right now and she's a doll but I still get along better with my male terrier.
Mishap, of course I understand why someone would prefer a female ob/gyn. That's not what I'm asking though.
Some posted they prefer male doctors and I'd like to know why.
I posted that I love my male gyn, I wouldn't say I prefer a male though. I was apprehensive when I made the first appt and figured out it would be with a male but I'm glad I just went to see him anyway because he is a great doctor.
Rex, what has been your experience with female bosses?
MY EXPERIENCE ONLY: I have had a much harder time knowing where I stand with female superiors. I like to know what I'm doing well and what I need to work on, and I've found my male bosses to be more simplistic and forthcoming in their expectations, terms and critiques.
I'm not trying to be a dick. I'm sure my experiences have been colored the specific people who have managed me, rather than their sex.
Intersting. In my workplace, I make a very conscious effort to set clear expectations and let my subordinates know whether or not they are meeting them. Most of the guys I work with are worried about being "one of the bros" so they hate to give negative feedback...until it's time for evaluations, when they have no choice, then their subordinates are blind-sided with it.
I've never requested anyone of a specific gender for anything. As long as they can do the job, I don't care. But then again, my sister and I are both in male-dominated fields, so I think I'm more sensitive to unexpected gender roles (male nurses, female firefighters, etc).
Mishap, of course I understand why someone would prefer a female ob/gyn. That's not what I'm asking though.
Some posted they prefer male doctors and I'd like to know why.
I think it's weird that you are demanding to know why people want a male doctor. Why aren't you asking the same about a female doctor? We all have preferences based on our own experiences perceptions. I don't think that is crazy or requires explanation.
Post by LeggsBenedict on Jan 22, 2013 12:37:19 GMT -5
I don't have a preference for anything, I think.
I got told last week to "find a man" (at my RETAIL JOB) and I mentioned in the other thread that in my old job it was constant, so I think I'm hyper sensitive.
Mishap, of course I understand why someone would prefer a female ob/gyn. That's not what I'm asking though.
Some posted they prefer male doctors and I'd like to know why.
I think it's weird that you are demanding to know why people want a male doctor. Why aren't you asking the same about a female doctor? We all have preferences based on our own experiences perceptions. I don't think that is crazy or requires explanation.
Really? A female doctor makes sense if you are old-fashioned/prudish/uncomfortable with men, don't feel like letting a man touch you, etc. Preferring a male means you think he is more competent, which is sexist and kinda gross coming from a woman.
I never said ANYTHING about presuming a woman would be less competent. That's not remotely where I was coming from. I have also never had a female manager who I consider a "softie emotional collaborator" OR a "demanding bitch."
I actually wouldn't mind reading the articles you have in mind, but don't paint me as anti-woman. That's ridiculous. I AM a woman in a professional environment, after all. I would LOVE to be rid of professional gender biases but I don't know how to do it and that doesn't change my experiences thus far.
I don't want to put words in cville's mouth, but women have a hard time bustin' through the glass ceiling and have to claw their way to the top, more often than not, because a strong woman who is having a hard day is a b*tch, vs. a male boss being strong-minded = a-okay.
It's one of those quietly-support-your-own things, because we have a hard enough time. I'm not saying that you think they're less competent, btw.
this is certainly part of it.
another part of it is to say in unqualified fashion "i prefer male bosses." really? do you prefer MALE bosses? or do you happen to have gotten along better with your bosses who were male? and why was it that you think you got along better with them? is it because it was easier for them to meet your subconscious expectations than it was for your female bosses?
that stuff gets my hackles up because we're past thinking that it's okay to pinch asses in the workplace and call me "girl," but everyone--male and female--i come into contact with may think i'm more/less awesome/friendly/bitchy/capable/confident/mean/nice than i actual am without knowing anything more than the fact that i have two X chromosomes. and this could be a huge part of why women still command like 2% of fortune 500 companies (note: invented statistic that is probably shockingly accurate).
and it gets my hackles up because i know i've done it in the past too. and may do so in the future.
Good grief I'm not demanding to know. I'm just ASKING. But I do think it's different from wanting a female doctor.
I'm curious as well. I guess it's because if a woman prefers a female doctor, I assume it's because they feel more comfortable in intimate physical situations (like a gyno exam) with a female doctor, and I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing, and I totally understand. But when a female says they prefer a male doctor I assume* that it's because they think males are more competent doctors (which, if it were the case, I WOULD consider a bad thing).
*just because I assume this doesn't mean I think it's always true, which is why I, too, am curious about why some women prefer male doctors.
I am a complete prude. If someone is seeing me naked, I want a woman. That's doctors, massages, obgyn, etc. I've had good and bad men and women in everything, but I'm still generally more comfortable with a woman.
Papie gets me. I'm not even making the assumption that someone thinks male doctors are more competent at this point. That's why I'm asking someone to explain.
Maybe they don't want to chance getting a lesbian? (note: this is not my reasoning. I have a female gyn)
Post by pantsparty on Jan 22, 2013 12:51:54 GMT -5
I've typically only seen female GYNs. I was recently looking for a new one, and I thought of how a few posters have said they preferred male GYNs because they ended up being more empathetic. Anyway, I ended up choosing a female GYN, it just makes me feel more comfortable.
Post by amberlyrose on Jan 22, 2013 13:08:18 GMT -5
I've only had two GYNs and I much preferred the male, but I have nothing else to compare to. I would actually fly home on my spring break every year to do my annual with him until I got a new insurance company. The female I went to was.. okay, I guess.
Post by cheeseandcrackers on Jan 22, 2013 13:27:21 GMT -5
I would prefer a woman for waxing purposes. Also, car sales people. Maybe it's from my one bad experience, but the woman would not leave us alone and kept calling us till we finally told her we found a different car. I'm not sure how she got our number, considering we told her we prefer not to share our number, lol.
Hoo boy. I see where this is going so I'm going to clarify what I said earlier.
In my experience, I have enjoyed the titties of the female variety pressed against the glass in the peepshow booth. Man boobs, while I'm sure are of no less valuable to society in general, are not as enjoyable to me personally. Just wanted to clarify in case what I said earlier came off as sexist or that I don't value women and men the same.
Post by messykitchen on Jan 22, 2013 14:09:01 GMT -5
I don't think it is fair to say women who prefer male doctors think they are more competent than female doctors. I don't find women easy to talk to, usually, and it is easier to talk to a man (for me) that is why I prefer a male shrink.
People prefer M vs F for tons of different reason, one being better than the other doesn't have to be the only reason. I am ok with my female gyn, but my last one was a male and since he was easier for me to talk to, I got better care. Has nothing at all to do with my doctor, just me.