Child's birthday party - how do I say this?

[julez]

DD's birthday party is on Sunday. At the last minute, my parents have decided to fly in for the weekend and attend the party. My stepmom has a compromised immune system and has to take extra precautions for travel, etc, so that she doesn't get sick.

I'm wondering if I could send an email to the folks who are planning to attend the party, letting them know that we welcome healthy and well children and adults, but please stay home if you are ill. This should go without saying, but it's extra important because DD's grandma will be there.

How do I/can I say this delicately, and without being rude?

[Deleted]

Jan 22, 2013 14:29:06 GMT -5 jjwritergirl said:

If I received an email last minute about an elderly grandmother with a weak immune system, I wouldn't be offended at all. I would be happy to be extra cautious. Since it is your family, it doesn't seem rude.

Same here, I would not mind at all.

[kellykapowski]

Be honest and tell them exactly what you wrote up there. If I received an email with that information, I would totally understand and follow your request.

[hisno1girl]

Due to special circumstances regarding the health of one our family members, we kindly ask that you refrain from attending if you are ill. We appreciate your consideration and thank you in advance for your cooperation.

[SKP82]

I don't think it's rude to send the email, but can your step-mom wear one of those masks just in case?

[julez]

Jan 22, 2013 14:32:33 GMT -5 SKP82 said:

I don't think it's rude to send the email, but can your step-mom wear one of those masks just in case?

She will anyway. In general, kids with minor colds are NBD, but this time it is a big deal. I wanted to be sure to convey that in a polite way.

I like what His suggested and I think I'll go with that.

Thanks, all!

[ECB]

Jan 22, 2013 14:31:53 GMT -5 hisno1girl said:

Due to special circumstances regarding the health of one our family members, we kindly ask that you refrain from attending if you are ill. We appreciate your consideration and thank you in advance for your cooperation.

I like this, but I think it needs to be more clear that she has a compromised immune system.  The above might make people think "Um... is it safe for MY child to be around this person?". 

[julez]

Jan 22, 2013 14:36:05 GMT -5 ECB said:

Jan 22, 2013 14:31:53 GMT -5 hisno1girl said:

Due to special circumstances regarding the health of one our family members, we kindly ask that you refrain from attending if you are ill. We appreciate your consideration and thank you in advance for your cooperation.

I like this, but I think it needs to be more clear that she has a compromised immune system.  The above might make people think "Um... is it safe for MY child to be around this person?". 

GOOD POINT. Thank you. I will work that in.