For Fuss- Love of the gay men

[Muddled]

Well?

Have you ever had sex with a man who later came out of the closet?

yes
no
ss

[Muddled]

I had to choose SS. He identified as bi when we played, but now I think he calls himself gay.

[exploding people]

My friend/ex (we've been friends for 8 or 9 years and dated for a summer 6 years ago) came out 2 1/2 years ago and it changed his life for the better. He is so much happier and healthier. I like to think I helped him along.

[fussbucket]

Well obviously I asked for a reason.

For me, only one that I know of. We attempted to date briefly after developing a friendship In college. I think I was his last "try" at being straight before he found and accepted his true self as it were. He's still my BFF and he was Man of Honor at my wedding.

[daringmiss]

No. My gaydar is pretty accurate.

[malibu]

Not that I'm aware of. I haven't had contact with most of them since splitting up though, so who knows.

[bowies]

Does it count if I knew he was bi beforehand?

[sparksfly]

I made out with/semi dated a guy who is Bi. But no sex.

[Deleted]

I didn't, but had a crush on my closest male friend in high school. He told me in college that he was gay. I was surprised because he always made comments about girls he was attracted to in high school.

[wrathofkuus]

Weirdly (or maybe not so weirdly), this is almost always the update I get when I hear about anyone I've dated.

[Deleted]

I dont count bi as gay

[fussbucket]

I find it interesting that there are all these bi guys in this post, while IME I know a shitton of gay men but none I know identifies as bi.

Maybe that's just because it's so much easier for them to score with dudes and no shortage of opportunity here lol.

[MixedBerryJam]

I answered no, but really, "not yet" would be more accurate, I believe. I have never had an operational gaydar system.

[jojoandleo]

I said SS-XFI lead a double life. His pseudo-name only slept with men.

People have questions about my HS boyfriend.

[maucat]

Not slept with, but one friend from HS tried to make out with me in college. He identified as gay, straight, and bi at different times. I just couldn't kiss someone who'd given me BJ tips...I knew where his mouth had been. All the cute guys at my HS were gay.

[partiallysunny]

I said SS because I dated a guy who came out a couple months after we broke up, but I never slept with him.

I didn't surprise me when he came out. I was so proud of him.

[starrieskies]

Jan 23, 2013 13:29:49 GMT -5 malibu said:

Not that I'm aware of. I haven't had contact with most of them since splitting up though, so who knows.

I'll sit with you.  I don't know that I have, but I suppose the possiblity exists.

[PinkSquirrel]

I've dated two and slept with one who later came out