I finally (tried) to break up with my hairdresser. I called her and cancelled my appointment. She wasn't there, so I just left a message without my number. A few months ago she didn't have my number, even after seeing her for almost 6 years (she never called me to do a trial run of my wedding hair because she wrote my number down wrong and then messed it up on the wedding day). I assumed she didn't have it.
She sent me a text this morning asking about another day/time and if it worked for me. So yeah, do I respond? Ignore it?
I have been REcutting my own hair for 6 months now because she doesn't cut it like I have asked her to and screwing up my hair on the wedding day just threw me over the ledge. I think I've posted about her before, she's always distracted, tells me to come back and get it cut shorter if I'm unhappy. She ALWAYS schedules someone else in between my appointment so a cut and color that takes an hour usually takes me almost 2.
Another crummy thing was that she told me I couldn't bring anyone to my hair appointment on my wedding day, that she wanted it to be as stress-free for me as possible.I show up and her mother is there and she was distracted the whole time talking to her.
Post by cuddlyevil on Jan 29, 2013 10:45:14 GMT -5
I would just ignore it and find someone new. I dropped a hairdresser after she talked to everyone else about her pink hairdryer the entire time I was in her chair. She was going to layer my hair a bit, she gave me one layer. ONE. It look horrible as soon as I washed it but I would be damned if I went back to that salon. I visited my sister in Nashville and she took me to her salon, I blew $72 on the cut but the owner fixed my hair and was so pissed for me (I think she gave me the basket of products out of pity)--she was horrified when I told her it was an Aveda salon that did it.
I have since found someone super awesome, DD and I both see her.
When I broke up with my hairdresser after 10 years, I left her a message telling her I was cancelling my appointment and that I had a friend who was just starting out and wanted to give her a try. This was a partial lie. I did go to school with the person who now does my hair, BUT if I hated it, I didn't want to burn that bridge if I didn't have to. And my mom was seeing this same person. I never had to recut my hair, but I got to a point where I REFUSED to let her style it. And we also went head to head on cut and color on several occasions. Since it was HER reputation on my head, she would argue with me about what to do with my hair!
Post by jennynumbers on Jan 29, 2013 13:59:30 GMT -5
I actually broke up with one a few years ago after several last minute cancellations on her end. I sent her a text telling her why. I didn't owe it to her, but I wanted her to know she was losing customers over it. She said she understood and I moved on. Sometimes I miss her as my hair dresser - she was inexpensive and cut really well, but she screwed up my highlights and I slowly turned into a blond. (I have dark brown hair naturally.)
I actually broke up with one a few years ago after several last minute cancellations on her end. I sent her a text telling her why. I didn't owe it to her, but I wanted her to know she was losing customers over it. She said she understood and I moved on. Sometimes I miss her as my hair dresser - she was inexpensive and cut really well, but she screwed up my highlights and I slowly turned into a blond. (I have dark brown hair naturally.)
But, you really don't know her an explanation.
This lady isn't completely inexpensive. I cut my hair every 6 weeks (it's short) so she gets a lot of my money. I am won't explain, because she is so sensitive and already takes everything so personally, but dude - cut my hair like I want it and we wouldn't have this problem.
It really just boils down to her being afraid to cut too much off. I'd rather have too much cut off than not enough. She was afraid to cut my hair before the wedding and I was like - please just cut it. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD CUT IT.
I actually broke up with one a few years ago after several last minute cancellations on her end. I sent her a text telling her why. I didn't owe it to her, but I wanted her to know she was losing customers over it. She said she understood and I moved on. Sometimes I miss her as my hair dresser - she was inexpensive and cut really well, but she screwed up my highlights and I slowly turned into a blond. (I have dark brown hair naturally.)
But, you really don't know her an explanation.
This lady isn't completely inexpensive. I cut my hair every 6 weeks (it's short) so she gets a lot of my money. I am won't explain, because she is so sensitive and already takes everything so personally, but dude - cut my hair like I want it and we wouldn't have this problem.
It really just boils down to her being afraid to cut too much off. I'd rather have too much cut off than not enough. She was afraid to cut my hair before the wedding and I was like - please just cut it. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD CUT IT.
I say you just bail. She hasn't been a good hair dresser and you've outgrown (haha - no pun intended) her abilities/comfort level.
Also this thread makes me happy that I cut my own hair, just so I never have to break up with a hairdresser!
You do? Do you find it difficult? I know you have longer hair, so is it easy for you to reach the back?
I have been recutting my hair after my hairdresser for so long now that I think I might just give it a go on my own until it seems like I can't make it work. I think I have a handle on what I like in a style and how my hair needs to be cut. My mom was a hairdresser so I used to cut/dye it myself all the time prior to meeting this woman.
Currently though, because it's short, I have a hard time with the back. DH always has to check it after I'm done and clean it up a little bit.
I started cutting my hair in high school, and I'd use my mom's folding bathroom mirror to look at the back. Now I don't have those mirrors, so I just say screw it. No one has commented on weird chunks missing, so hopefully I'm doing a good job! It's long enough that I literally pull half over each shoulder, trim the ends, and add some layers. Easy peasy.
Short hair is definitely harder (I cut Mr. Smock's hair too), but maybe you should try cutting it yourself for a while DL and see how it goes?
That's my plan. I can get some of those chunky scissors to cut the layers better and some razor scissors to rip the back and add volume. I actually get compliments on it, so I don't think I'm doing a horrible job.
Ugh now she is calling me and leaving me messages because I am not at my scheduled appointment. I know she checks her answering machine messages and I left the message almost a week ago.
She called to ask why you were not at the appt that you canceled? Or the one that she tried to reschedule for you?
This could go on for a while, no? Ball up and tell her thank you, but you've found someone else-- hopefully on on VM.
She sent me a text yesterday asking to change the time - if it would work better. Today, she called (my cell and work) to wonder why I wasn't at my normally scheduled appointment. As if she had no knowledge that I had cancelled the original appointment. Like - oh hi J, I had you down for an appt today and just wondering if I had wrote something down wrong. Give me a call.
"She sent me a text yesterday asking to change the time - if it would work better. Today, she called (my cell and work) to wonder why I wasn't at my normally scheduled appointment. As if she had no knowledge that I had cancelled the original appointment. Like - oh hi J, I had you down for an appt today and just wondering if I had wrote something down wrong. Give me a call."
Oy. In this case, I'd call her back and go with what Sparks said. Tell her you have a friend/SIL/whatever just starting out and you want to help them build their experience or something.
Call to clarify the appointment change/cancellation and be all "oh, while I have you on the phone... I just found out that so and so relation just finished up cosmetology school so I'm going to start going to her for the time being."