s/o ML cottage post

[Deleted]

What questionable things have you done in the past in regards to men that you look back now and think ehhh not such a good idea.

[Muddled]

You mean other than going home with people I met at the bar? Kidding.

Mostly.

I can't think of too much that ever would have put me in physical danger, but I have done dumb things. Like leaving my job and moving to NY for a guy that I'd been LD with for a year.

[katietornado]

Yeah, I've gone home with guys from bars. Well, maybe just once, now that I think about it.

I spent a lot of my early 20s quite drunk, living alone in a house in the city. One day I woke up hungover on my front porch. I probably should've been murdered or had my face eaten or something.

[broc]

One Halloween my friend and I went with a dude and hisfriend we'd just met at a bar, and broke into a cemetary to see Vanderbilt's tomb. I pretty much set myself up to get murdered while being dressed as The Little Mermaid.

Nothing bad happened, but it'll.probably always be the stupidest thing I've ever done.

[Deleted]

I was in a similar situation as the ML poster - when I was 18. Had been talking online w/ a guy for about a year (this was 13 years ago??) and thought it was so great that he was finally going to come see me at college. He flew in and stayed with me in my dorm for 4-5 days and became my boyfirend for the next 5+ years. He wasn't a psycho, but he wasn't really great either. We had a terrible relationship. It was long distance for 5 years and then when he moved to NC, we couldn't make it last 5 months.

I look back now and think WTF old self?

[penelope]

I went home after the bar with a guy once. And the thought of it makes my skin crawl today.

Other than that, I was a stubborn, headstrong brat fresh out of high school, and against friend's and family's advice moved in with a guy because "we're in love!". Biggest mistake I ever made. When every one says he's a loser, he usually is a loser.

[Muddled]

Jun 1, 2012 8:44:41 GMT -5 broc said:

One Halloween my friend and I went with a dude and hisfriend we'd just met at a bar, and broke into a cemetary to see Vanderbilt's tomb. I pretty much set myself up to get murdered while being dressed as The Little Mermaid.

Nothing bad happened, but it'll.probably always be the stupidest thing I've ever done.

OMG, Broc. You totally set yourself up to star in a slasher.

[Deleted]

I lived with a guy I met online in college. He was my roommate, not my boyfriend. We ended up at the same college through a series of strange events. His sophomore year (so when we'd actually hung out for a year already) his housing plans fell through and one of my roommates moved out. So, he ended up living with me and my 2 other roommates.

I have a lot of people I met online who I eventually hung out with IRL.

[margarita]

Jun 1, 2012 8:44:41 GMT -5 broc said:

One Halloween my friend and I went with a dude and hisfriend we'd just met at a bar, and broke into a cemetary to see Vanderbilt's tomb. I pretty much set myself up to get murdered while being dressed as The Little Mermaid.

And you lived to tell the tale! That's crazy.

[beebeeeater]

I hate to say it because it sounds way less fun and way more depressing than some of these, but I had a bit of a drinking problem in my late teens so I ended up putting myself in lots of shitty situations. Some worked out okay, but as some of you know, others did not. I never ended up dead, pregnant, or with an STD, so I feel pretty thankful about how it all ended up.

Yikes a roo though! At least I had young stupidity on my side. ML girl does not.

[partiallysunny]

I really can't think of anything. There were a few situations when I was a tween that my parents or my brother got me into that I now think "that probably wasn't the best place for me to be at the time", but I can't really think of anything I did as a young adult that was dangerous.

[Muddled]

Does the time when my roommate invited the entire band to sleep at our place count?

[zitiqueen]

Broc, I'm glad you weren't murdered and all, but that would have been kind of an awesome way to go.

[Chirp]

I haven't read the ML post (someone linky please, I'm feeling lazy today). However...

I never went home with a guy from a bar. Thank gawd. One tried but my skeeve-o-meter was dinging like crazy. It probably helped that he was all "oh, I'll just be there for a couple minutes. It won't take long." Um. No thanks. Ew.

When I was a senior in HS I decided it was a fantastic idea to kinda sorta date this guy that was in town "doing construction work". I was 17 and the guy was like 25. I hung out with him here and there for like 2 weeks. He. His job wrapped up and he had to go back to FL. He kept trying to convince me to come with. I passed. Something was telling me that he was going to eat my face or something if I went down there. Man, he was hot though. There was no internet back then, so I couldn't google him or his company to see if it was legit. I wonder what I'd find... police record probably.

[daringmiss]

Biggest one ever: First Boyfriend
I got really swept up with my first relationship and ended up not focusing on my senior year in high school. I could have had a four year free ride to any of the Ivies if I had really known what was being offered. I was a National Merit Scholar and could have written my own ticket. I am literally still paying (through student loans) for that mistake.

[motzie]

Yup. I don't know what I ever put myself in physical danger, but I did a few really dumb things.

[bowies]

I've done a lot of questionable things, but I don't think guys have been the impetus. When AOL was in its heyday, I met a dude in a chat room who was going to the local college on a baseball scholarship. He invited me to a game and it was so awkward when we met that I'm pretty sure both of us were cured of chat room dating from that point on. I was in high school at the time.

I never really went home with a dude from a bar. I mean, it happened a couple of times but it was always a group of us that went home with a group of guys. The Girl Scouts taught me the benefits of the buddy system.

I wrestled a drag queen once, but I was being egged on by my girlfriends. I lost.

[exploding people]

I can't think of any dangerous situations, but there are certainly a couple guys who I probably should have not gotten naked with.

[broc]

Yeah. The reason people go there is because it's supposed to be haunted as fuck, so it was apropos for Halloween, but that pretty much means there were a few dozen different ways the slasher flick could've played out. I mean, look at this place:



I was 18 at the time, so I blame youth. lol.

[Deleted]

When I was 19 I told my parents I was spending the weekend with a friend for the 4th of July.

In reality, I spent a few hours with said friend , got my first tattoo, and then drove 200 miles in my barely working car out to the middle of the fucking dessert to the Marine base where I hooked up with a guy I'd been talking to online for a while.

There was shit cell service out there and my parents tried to call me a few times, freaked when they couldn't get ahold of me, called all my friends who didn't know where I was either, then had my brother hack my email and found everything out. They got ahold of me the next morning and tore me a new asshole, ordered me home, interrogated me for 2 hours and practically murdered me when I showed them the tattoo.

I was a moron.

[Deleted]

SCC, you're my hero. And I'm really happy you survived.

[Deleted]

Other than that I was a pretty good, non-rebellious kid and my parents were pretty strict until they realized I was an adult and loosened up a lot.

[malibu]

How much time do you have?

I was quite stupid in my pre-21 days.

[Chirp]

Jun 1, 2012 13:23:25 GMT -5 malibu said:

I was quite stupid in my pre-21 days.

Ditto this.

I have a trashtastic doozy. There was no chance of physical harm, but I need to slap the shit out of my 19 year old self.

[Muddled]

Now you have to tell, srs.

[partiallysunny]

I have lots of time. Start making a list.

[malibu]

Well...

14-dated 18 year old idiot who hit me with a beer bottle (the one and only time a guy hit me-I kicked him in the nuts with the Rollerblades I was wearing).

16-started dating 25 year old. Got engaged to said 25 year old (then 27) two years later for about a month before I realized 'what the fuck am I doing?'

Also did a lot of drugs during this time and was a huge pothead.

19: dated no less than 10 different guys at the same time and dumped all of them when I decided they were all lazy tools (and no, I did not sleep with them, at least I was that smart)

21-drank myself stupid almost every weekend and racked up credit card debt that took me eight years to pay off

Dated 42 year old sometime in my early 20s-realized that was kind of fucked up since his daughter was only a few years younger than me.

Yeah. I was kind of a mess for about five or six years.

[mortomo]

I did lots of stupid stuff in my early 20's. I was easily swayed by hot guys that bought me shots.

[maucat]

I was in a relationship with DH.before I turned 21, so there were no club hookups. I think the dumbest guy-related thing I did was spend the night at a frat house. The guy whose room I stayed in let me have the bed while he slept on the couch in his room. In hindsight, I'm probably pretty lucky I was left alone.