My baby sis got a tattoo

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It wouldn't be that bad except she LIVES with me (rent free) and my dad trusted me with her stupid ass.

Yes she's an adult, but with the mentality of a 16 year old. I'm going to have to tell my dad that she got a tattoo and I didn't know about it.

And, my SS knew the entire time she had a tattoo. She got it 2 months ago. So yes, we are pissed at him for keeping it from us. My SS is 15.

Fuck me. I'm pissed.

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Does she work? Just wondering why she's not paying for rent, but could afford a tattoo.

How did you find out?

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Jun 1, 2012 8:31:46 GMT -5 @bettyhomewrecker33 said:

Does she work? Just wondering why she's not paying for rent, but could afford a tattoo.

How did you find out?

She works part time. I found out becuase we were putting up groceries yesterday and part of it peeked out. I ripped her shirt down and saw the entire thing.

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I'd be pissed too.

[lust2hart]

I'm confused. Does she ACTUALLY have the mentality of a 16-year-old? Like, she's mentally challenged in some way?

If so, okay, I see why you're freaking out. But if not, I don't understand your reaction and I don't understand why you'd have to be the one to tell your dad. ?

[gozf]

But she's not a minor, right? Does she have cognitive delays, or is she just immature? I'm not sure what you mean by "the mentality of a 16 year old."

I think I need more information.

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Jun 1, 2012 8:36:52 GMT -5 lust2hart said:

I'm confused. Does she ACTUALLY have the mentality of a 16-year-old? Like, she's mentally challenged in some way?

If so, okay, I see why you're freaking out. But if not, I don't understand your reaction and I don't understand why you'd have to be the one to tell your dad. ?

She's not mentally challenged; just REALLY immature (I cannot stress the really part enought). I say she has the mentality of a 16 year old because her and my SS act the same.

I'm going to have to tell dad, because she won't do it. And I am the adult that is responsible for her stupid ass. Not just that, I'm not keeping it from my father.

[speckledfrog]

Why do you have to tell your dad? Why isn't she paying you rent? How old is she?

[gozf]

Um.

It's her prerogative to get a tattoo if she wants a tattoo. She doesn't need your permission, or your fathers.

Am I missing something??

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is it the money? if she's not mentally challenged and not legally a minor, i'm wondering why her tattoo is bugging you so much. unless it's like a picture of your face with a no smoking sign through it.

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She's a very irresponsible and immature 19 year old.

[juris11]

I would be mad that she got a tattoo if she is crying poor to get out of paying you rent, but I don't think you should tell your dad. She is an adult, so I don't see how he has anything to do with it.

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Jun 1, 2012 8:42:01 GMT -5 gozf said:

Um.

It's her prerogative to get a tattoo if she wants a tattoo. She doesn't need your permission, or your fathers.

Am I missing something??

I totally agree that it's her right and that she doesn't need permission. I'd be super pissed though if I'd taken in someone who was living rent free and not contributing, and they'd spend their money on that instead of finding a way out of my house.

Does she have to stay with you? She isn't a minor, and maybe by providing things for her (a roof over her head), in a way your enabling her ability to not grow up.

[gozf]

Jun 1, 2012 8:45:01 GMT -5 @dovey1122 said:

She's a very irresponsible and immature 19 year old.

Ok. This still doesn't make any sense.

Was ripping her shirt down to see it the most mature thing to do? Is running to tattle to your dad?

[alleycat]

I can't believe you ripped her shirt down! And that an adult is so scared of her sister that she hid a tattoo for two months! And why the fuck am I using so many exclamation points!!!

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To be honest, the tattoo doesn't bother me. I have one. The fact that she hid it from me and is hiding it from my dad bothers me. If she wants to be a big girl, that's fine, just act like one.

My dad and I pay for all her expenses - housing, car, schooling. She is in college. She lives with me rent free since I live in a college town. She works part time and that's her fun money.

I guess I'm just disappointed that she kept it from me. And she's expecting me to keep it from my dad.

[speckledfrog]

Gee, I can't imagine why she hid it from you.

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and I didn't rip her shirt hulk style people. I just pulled it down so I could see the entire thing.

[speckledfrog]

I think that if you stop trying to control your sister's behavior you'll be much happier.

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WHY are you disappointed that she kept it from you? if you don't want to support her freeloading ass, then don't. but she's an adult. you are not her legal guardian. she is free to get tattoos at will and tell NO ONE AT ALL EVER, if she so chooses. is she also supposed to share with you her favorite sexual positions and the provenance of every article of clothing she purchases? what she ate for lunch?

i hate freeloaders. i'd be ticked that she used money that could pay me for rent for a tattoo (are tattoos expensive? i have no idea). but i hate big brother in the guise of "i care about you" even more.

[gozf]

You sound mean and scary. And controlling.

[lust2hart]

I understand being upset that she's been hiding it from you. I guess the whole, "Fuck me, I have to tell my dad" is what's confusing me. It seems like you're really freaking out about it and that is what I, anyway, don't understand.

Is your dad really anti-tattoo? Is he going to be pissed at you that you "let" her get one?

[janiejones]

she spent her own fun money on a tattoo? The horror!!!

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I see a majority of replys are not in your favor.
I am on your side.

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Jun 1, 2012 8:59:39 GMT -5 lust2hart said:

I understand being upset that she's been hiding it from you. I guess the whole, "Fuck me, I have to tell my dad" is what's confusing me. It seems like you're really freaking out about it and that is what I, anyway, don't understand.

Is your dad really anti-tattoo? Is he going to be pissed at you that you "let" her get one?

Yes, my parents are REALLY conservative. He's going to be very dissapointed that she got a tattoo.

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Jun 1, 2012 9:03:23 GMT -5 @dovey1122 said:

Jun 1, 2012 8:59:39 GMT -5 lust2hart said:

I understand being upset that she's been hiding it from you. I guess the whole, "Fuck me, I have to tell my dad" is what's confusing me. It seems like you're really freaking out about it and that is what I, anyway, don't understand.

Is your dad really anti-tattoo? Is he going to be pissed at you that you "let" her get one?

Yes, my parents are REALLY conservative. He's going to be very dissapointed that she got a tattoo.

then let him be disappointed in HER. you seem to be taking this on as your responsibility. it's not. just like it's not your "right" to go around being annoyed that she didn't share it with you. if your annoyance stems from the fact that your parents will try to make YOU answer for it, well, there are plenty of arguments in this post that you can use to defend yourself. and if you're not comfortable being seen as carrying that responsibility on behalf of your parents while she lives there, then she shouldn't live with you. for everyone's sake.

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And you wonder why she is immature when she lives at your place rent free and daddy is paying for everything? She doesn't have to tell you if she gets a tattoo or not. She is an adult and she does what she wants . You're treating her like a child. And you are a child too. Why would you have to tell your dad? That's none of his business or yours. Sounds like you and your dad are controlling. No wonder she acts the way she does.

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Jun 1, 2012 9:05:03 GMT -5 cville said:

Jun 1, 2012 9:03:23 GMT -5 @dovey1122 said:

Yes, my parents are REALLY conservative. He's going to be very dissapointed that she got a tattoo.

then let him be disappointed in HER. you seem to be taking this on as your responsibility. it's not. just like it's not your "right" to go around being annoyed that she didn't share it with you. if your annoyance stems from the fact that your parents will try to make YOU answer for it, well, there are plenty of arguments in this post that you can use to defend yourself. and if you're not comfortable being seen as carrying that responsibility on behalf of your parents while she lives there, then she shouldn't live with you. for everyone's sake.

You are right...I'm afraid that my parents are going to make me answer for it. I didn't take care of their "little girl"

I've always been raised to take care of my younger sibling. She's my responsibilty.

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i'm a hardass, but i'm not made of granite. i get that family gets away with shit we'd shut down in 2 seconds from "outsiders" (see, e.g., me letting jerky family member stay with me when she visits from OOT). but this is a long cycle here. she's immature AND everyone in the family babies her, to the point where you are held responsible for her poor decisionmaking. i'm not going to chicken or egg this, but those things have to be related. time to bow out.

[blondemoment123]

Jun 1, 2012 8:42:01 GMT -5 gozf said:

Um.

It's her prerogative to get a tattoo if she wants a tattoo. She doesn't need your permission, or your fathers.

Am I missing something??

The dreaded this.