Does this seem gift grabby?

[LaceyV]

I just got an email at work about a baby shower for my old boss' daughter. She works for the same very large company, but we have never met. This is her second baby in two years. Invite came from someone else I don't know. I haven't worked for old boss in over a year. Is this weird or am I weird for thinking so?

[joy2611]

It became gift-grabby at "second child." In my world, showers are for first time mothers. I know that's hotly debated in some circles, however.

[psychmom]

Was it like a general email sent to the whole company/department that you're apart of?

[LaceyV]

Feb 6, 2013 9:04:37 GMT -5 psychmom said:

Was it like a general email sent to the whole company/department that you're apart of?

Nope, not the whole company or department. I don't recognize most of the names on there except for one other girl I used to work with who also switched departments.

[hisno1girl]

For me, it became gift-grabby at "we have never met".

I don't mind 2nd, 3rd, etc., child baby showers. All babies need stuff.

[ECB]

I would be "busy" at that time of the day and not go. VERY gift grabby.

[ECB]

Feb 6, 2013 9:08:10 GMT -5 hisno1girl said:

For me, it became gift-grabby at "we have never met".

I don't mind 2nd, 3rd, etc., child baby showers. All babies need stuff.

The "never met" part is what got me too.  As for 2nd/3rd showers - for CLOSE friends, I don't mind.  But I do find them gift grabby when you invite a ton of people, much less when you've never met them. 

[speckledfrog]

Of course it's gift grabby, all showers are. The invite came from someone you don't know because your former boss isn't hosting the shower. I think this really depends on your relationship with your former boss. I've been to showers and wedding open houses for my former boss's children whom I've never met (even after i stopped working) but I had a good relationship with her. Showers for a second child, on the other hand...

[LaceyV]

Feb 6, 2013 9:12:06 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

Of course it's gift grabby, all showers are. The invite came from someone you don't know because your former boss isn't hosting the shower. I think this really depends on your relationship with your former boss. I've been to showers and wedding open houses for my former boss's children whom I've never met (even after i stopped working) but I had a good relationship with her. Showers for a second child, on the other hand...

I haven't really talked to my old boss in like 6 months. We were never very close.

[cheeseandcrackers]

I don't see anything wrong with baby showers for a 2nd child, however the fact that you don't know her and you got an invite is weird.

[muffin0]

I think some people think ALL people LOVE babies and love baby showers. So they probably went nuts on the invite list.

The poor girl is probably embarrassed so many people are invited that she has never met.

I'd probably skip it, but I wouldn't be offended at the invite.

[Deleted]

I would assume the host is just working off the guest list from the first shower and ignore unless, for the sake of your job, you need to attend. In which case spend $30, give up your morning, and done.

[chickadee77]

Feb 6, 2013 9:25:18 GMT -5 muffin0 said:

I think some people think ALL people LOVE babies and love baby showers. So they probably went nuts on the invite list.

The poor girl is probably embarrassed so many people are invited that she has never met.

I'd probably skip it, but I wouldn't be offended at the invite.

I agree. I would assume the mother-to-be isn't in charge and whoever is just sent a kind of blanket invite, or went off the guest list for the first one.

I agree with pp that said 2nd showers are fine for close friends - hell, I went to what I guess would be called a sprinkle because the mom's second kid was a girl (first was a boy) so I kind of side-eye a total stranger, but I'd just send regrets and not think twice.

[Deleted]

The fact that it's a 2nd shower doesn't bother me so much as the fact that you don't even know the mother-to-be.

[julez]

Feb 6, 2013 12:01:27 GMT -5 @beachgal said:

The fact that it's a 2nd shower doesn't bother me so much as the fact that you don't even know the mother-to-be.

Yup.

[Deleted]

Any invite when you've never met the guest of honor, aren't close with their parents but are expected to bring a gift is gift grabby.

2nd child showers are fine with me, assuming your first shower wasn't a torture of stupid games

[CloudBee]

It sounds more like whoever sent the invite wasn't aware that you two are not closer.