THIS is why I don't do weight loss with my H

[bcv513]

It's just a man thing I think. FI can outeat me constantly, and he struggles to keep weight on. Men suck

[aliciar6]

I don't know that you can pass him, but are you actually eating enough for the amount of working out you are doing? Second the scale isn't just the deciding factor. I rarely go by what the scale says vs what my body looks like and how my close fit. I'd also be looking at inches lost and your muscle tone. Then what kind of work outs are you doing compared to what he is doing?

the H&F ladies will have a lot of great input.

[melodramatic26]

Dh was complaining about starting running again because he's gained so much weight over the holidays.

A week or two ago, he finally got on the scale. He's lost weight. He insists that it's muscle mass he's lost.

I don't give a shit. I've struggled to lose 10 lbs since having my baby. I'm not at all sympathetic to his loss of "muscle mass". Men suck.

[julesf84]

Ugh! I hate that!

[Deleted]

I'm with you. H and I have both been working out and eating better. He's down almost 50 pounds...I'm down about 18 Men suck!

[Dusky]

I have no advice but I sympathize. I have to fight for every pound when I try to lose weight and I swear H can just think about losing weight and *poof* it falls off.

[cheeseandcrackers]

Put high calorie ingredients in his food.. muhaha

[Deleted]

Don't compare. It isn't fair.

Jake literally just started walking 20m 4 days a week (to the train, same shit I do) and he is already almost at his lowest weight again.

MF'ers and their hormones!

[partiallysunny]

You can't. Just ignore him.

[fuckyourcouch]

give him special "weight loss" bars like on mean girls.

this is just a guy thing. you are going to lose weight slower. it sucks.

[eb777888]

H is the exact same way. I know I've complained about this before but I workout 60-90 minutes, 5 days a week and I'm struggling to lose weight. He decided he's going to hit the gym twice a week for twenty minutes and he drops weight and I can physically see changes in him. It's so not fair! And our diet is very similar.

I guess it's because they have more muscle mass and burn more calories?

IDK, I'm struggling myself but the only advice I have is to watch your calories (sign up for MFP) and try to burn more than your taking in. And lots of fruits and veggies. Oh, and weight training! Even if you need to start off small, definitely add some weights.

[eb777888]

You're doing great! That's awesome, especially since diet is most of it. Having a baby and a job leave little time to exercise, I'm sure.

[aliciar6]

I typically workout with guys and would do a combo of cardio and weights and then transitioned to crossfit & boxing. At first Crossfit looked intimidating, but the guys talked me into it, and you can modify the exercises and the weight. Now I just do a lot of running. I will say the crossfit and boxing were the best workouts I have ever done and I was in my best shape ever when doing them. They also didn't take more than 1 hour and most crossfit workouts were about 30 minutes. My male workout buddies for the most part always had more defined muscles & lower body fat than I did, but I wasn't about to drink all those protein shakes or take any supplements. So I just tried to ignore that fact and focus on the things I could do better than them to boost my morale.

Your workout does sound way better than his and it sucks that guys seem to drop weight faster. But typically they have a higher % of muscle mass and burn more calories to sustain that.

Depending on what/how much you are eating, you may not be getting enough calories and your body will lower your metabolism resulting in less weight loss. I reached that stage at one point when I was doing very intense work outs and really limiting my calories. I didn't start losing again until I upped my calorie intake. Try to figure out how many calories you need to maintain and then to lose. Just don't go too low.

Also you could be gaining muscle while reducing your body fat % which can make it look like you aren't losing weight, but in fact it's better. I will say that there was a time when I was 111 lbs and did not look anywhere near as good as when I weighed 120 (I'm barely 5'2"). If you can, start taking body measurements to use as your baseline in addition to weight, but don't let the numbers on the scale for you or him get to you.

Try to vary your workouts and continually challenge your body. I know time is always in short supply and even more so when you have kids, but you can get in some really great/effective workouts in 30 minutes. One go to for my friends and I was "25 minutes of Hell" it's 5 sets of 30 Box Jumps, 30 Push Ups, 30 Wall Ball Throws, and 30 Sit Ups...and time yourself while doing this. The goal is to do it as fast as you can. Once it gets easy up the #'s.

Try to make it a game, maybe challenge your DH to a 5K and then try to beat him at his push up game

I can only say what's worked for me, I'm no expert by any means. But I know how frustrating weight loss can be.

[nomad100]

I am in the same boat.  DH is down over 20 and I am only down 12 (which I am thrilled about) but he is losing so much more quickly than I am.  Mostly I just want to throat punch him when he gloats after getting on the scale.

I just figure I will never lose weight as fast as he does so making it a competition won't work.

No tips on what you can do...just commiseration.