What are your differences?

[Deleted]

With your DH/SO? Not necessarily things that are problematic, but just in general. This is not brought to you by an argument, just curiosity. 

[fussbucket]

It recently came to my attention that H is an extrovert (I am an introvert). Turns out I had been mistaking his mild social awkwardness with introversion all this time.

I'd say too that he's much more confrontational than I am, whereas I'm much more conflict-avoidant.

Neither of these is problematic, just things for us both to be aware of in terms of how our day-to-day approaches to things do and don't match up.

[smock]

We are very similar, and getting more similar as we age. Case in point, our Miers Briggs results used to be different, and now they're the same!

We're also in a really similar place in our lives right now: in the early stages of new jobs, with lots of work and associated stress and pressure. We're figuring out how to balance work with relaxation and chores.

I might say our biggest difference is that I'm very close with my family and he doesn't get along very well with his.

[motzie]

H has zero patience, and I am probably patient to a fault.

[cuddlyevil]

I am more extroverted and comfortable in formal social settings than he is. He is extremely uncomfortable at things like my office Christmas party, but that is partially due to my working with surgeons and his blue collar job.

We have some differences in our taste in movies and books.

I like to send cards for things like birthdays, et al but he doesn't understand why I do that (his family was never big on cards).

[wrathofkuus]

We are very, very different. If you're a BG fan, he's Eight to my Six.

Everything about him is conciliatory, loving, accepting, and soft. And me... well, you know me, all fight and edges and busting apart the status quo on principle no matter what it unsettles.

Sometimes we're like oil and water, but most of the time we're like receptor and ligand.

[margarita]

H is definitely an extrovert, while I'm an introvert. He's also a morning person, and I'm...well, not. lol
I think he's also a lot kinder than I am, and more thoughtful and patient.

[exploding people]

I am an introvert, H is more extroverted. He loves video games, I am indifferent. He also has a very hard time waking up in the morning and it takes him a good hour to get into the swing of things, while I'm not a morning person per se, but I deal with them a lot better. And he requires a lot more food than I do.

[Muddled]

He's much more patient than I am. He is more passive and lets issues build before addressing them. He likes things to be neat, but could not care less about cleanliness. I am the opposite.

[imoan]

H is a more conservative republican. I'm a super liberal democrat.

H is awesome with money. I'd be homeless and starving if it were up to me.

H is very organized. I... am not.

H is a little high strung.  I... am not.

I'm a night owl... he's a morning person.

[bowies]

He has a penis, I do not.

For real though, he's a big ol' tech geek who loves video games and gets frustrated with stupidity and stubbornness easily. He couldn't care less about politics. He's also into superhero movies. I'm a slowly transforming Luddite that is patient to a fault, loves politics, and would rather watch Bravo.

We're similar in cleanliness and money habits and sleep habits. We're also both introverts but I'm the more social of the two of us. That is a first for me, and I'm still getting used to it.

[maucat]

He's much nerdier than me in a stereotypical way (video games, technology, fantasy novels, magic the gathering, etc.), but I'm nerdy in a different way (psychology). I'm not into a lot of the things he's liked to do, especially video games.

I love to dance, he's not that into it anymore.

I play piano, he plays guitar.

I'm a blonde with green eyes, he has brown hair and hazel eyes.

I'm more organized than he is.

I handle emotions better, but also am more of an externalizer, and I'm not one to back down from confrontation. He doesn't like to deal with emotions, internalizes, and shuts down. He's also more likely to avoid confrontation.

His mom is cray cray. Mine is eccentric. He was not raised with a healthy perspective on discipline or parent-child differentiation. The time he asked about how my parents disciplined me almost broke my heart.

[partiallysunny]

I am neat and organized. Everything in it's place. H doesn't care as long as he can walk.

I like to have a plan, H likes to wing it.

I don't like yelling, H thinks yelling is a way of life.

I like to hoard money. H thinks as long as the bills are paid we can go crazy.

We are both night people, but he gets the luxury of induldging his nature and I have to go to bed early so I get up for work ::pout::

[dixienormous]

He likes to argue around an issue rather than get to it. It's more fun to confuse the opponent, apparently.

I don't like asking someone to do something over and over again. If I ask once and you don't do it, I won't ask again. I'll do it myself or it will stay where it is. He prefers the nag (interestingly).

He's more intellectually driven, I'm more emotionally driven

I am super affectionate, he's more stand offish

He likes watching all those pawn shop, auction, antiques shows where I like fluff. And the food network.

[imoan]

Feb 7, 2013 8:35:25 GMT -5 dixienormous said:

He likes watching all those pawn shop, auction, antiques shows where I like fluff. And the food network.

Because those pawn and auction reality shows are brain food.

[dixienormous]

Feb 7, 2013 8:56:52 GMT -5 imoan said:

Feb 7, 2013 8:35:25 GMT -5 dixienormous said:

He likes watching all those pawn shop, auction, antiques shows where I like fluff. And the food network.

Because those pawn and auction reality shows are brain food.

More like he can mentally paw through other people's crap. It's the same reason he likes going to the flea markets. Fucking magpie.

[starrieskies]

H and I are very different. On many levels. I think it can be summed up by saying that I am a person who always thinks about others and he is a person who always puts himself first.

[Deleted]

We are also very similar in a lot of ways, both introverts and both have a lot of patience and are good listeners. We both feel the same about finances and taking care of the house/dogs. I do stress out about making plans/being prepared for things and always am considering the worst case scenerio. He is the opposite, tries not to sweat the small stuff.

[gault]

He's a science and fantasy/scifi geek. I'm a musical theater, book and gamer kind of geek. Hopefully I am using geek correctly. I might be a nerd.
He's more introverted than me, although we're both introverted. He's a slob and I like to have things picked up.
He is super patient and methodical, I'm more impatient and multi-task a lot.
He's more a dog person, I'm more a cat person. But we're both pet people, which is awesome either way.

[dixienormous]

Feb 7, 2013 12:19:29 GMT -5 gault said:

He's a science and fantasy/scifi geek. I'm a musical theater, book and gamer kind of geek. Hopefully I am using geek correctly. I might be a nerd.

We might be the same person, Gault. And H is totally a sci-fi geek.

[Muddled]

Feb 7, 2013 12:08:29 GMT -5 starrieskies said:

H and I are very different. On many levels. I think it can be summed up by saying that I am a person who always thinks about others and he is a person who always puts himself first.

This makes me feel so sad for you.

Hugs, Starrie.

[gault]

:-( Starrie.

[starrieskies]

Feb 7, 2013 12:42:21 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Feb 7, 2013 12:08:29 GMT -5 starrieskies said:

H and I are very different. On many levels. I think it can be summed up by saying that I am a person who always thinks about others and he is a person who always puts himself first.

This makes me feel so sad for you.

Hugs, Starrie.

What's really sad is the amount of time that it took me to realize that this was the truth.  But now I know and believe that this is true, and armed with that knowledge I can move forward.

[Muddled]

Good for you, Starrie. Onward and upward!