Would you wait?

[awick14]

Feb 12, 2013 22:24:49 GMT -5 marie3246 said:

I know we still have plenty of time to get pregnant and a few more months won't matter, but it seems like we keep saying that and keep having reasons not to start trying. We finally got to a place where we are both ready (well DH is way more ready than me, I"m just nervous/scared) and we really don't want wait any longer. DH wants to just go for it, but he's not the one who would have to miss out

The bolded will always happen. I can think of at least 3-4 reasons right now that we should not TTC. (All related to upcoming weddings and other events that I may not be able to go to if I am pregnant.) If you let other peoples lives dictate yours you may never have kids.

It really is up to you if you decide to wait or not this is just my opinion.

At 6 months a long most doctors are usually okay with you flying provided that the place you are going to has good medical care. (hospitals and such) The thing you can not predict though is how high risk of a pregnancy you are going to have.

Would you feel more comfortable with this situation if you were 5 months along? 4? etc.

I'm sorry that I am not much help.

[awick14]

Its a hard choice to make.

If you really want to go them maybe hold off for 1-2 months just in case you are one of those woman that get a BFP the moment you start trying.

But this is something that you should discuss with YH. When you voice your concerns of traveling at 6 months pregnant he should understand that it would be you missing out if your pregnant not him.

This is a hard decision. GL

[awick14]

Just don't go ahead with TTC in April/May if you think that you will be upset at YH if you become pregnant and can't go on the trip, that would not be good.

I also just wanted to add that we will also be going on vacation April/May. (April 20-May 5)

[awick14]

We live in BC Canada and are going down to California for a week and doing the Oregon Coast for 1 week.

I have relatives, an uncle, aunt and their 3 kids, down there so its kinda a family thing. DH and I have never taken a holiday since we have been together. (Other then a weekend here or there to Vancouver.)

We are both very excited.

[Cheesecake]

At 6 months you can still fly unless there are issues that yiu'll surely care about way way way more than about the trip/wedding. No time is ever perfect, if we all postponed for things like that, the human race would be extinct in 2 generations.

Sent from my phone, please disregard typos!

[coribelle26]

I'm about to project my issues on your decision. We started TTC in August so that I wouldn't be pregnant for two trips we took over the summer. Well, 6 months and counting later, I'm still not pregnant. In retrospect, I wish I would have started sooner. Maybe my perspective would have been different if it happened quickly and I would have been bitter about not being able to drink, or being nauseous, on vacation, but right now it seems like it was a dumb reason to wait. I also am still TTC knowing that my best friend is planning a late April 2014 wedding and I will be her MOH. She knows that there is a chance I may be super pregnant or have a newborn and is very supportive anyway.

I regret how much I've tried to control this process but I know not everyone would feel like I do. Good luck with whatever decision you make!

[annabear07]

I wouldn't wait. As awick said there will always be another reason and you might regret not starting sooner. Good luck with your decision!

[kdubs923]

There are so many different factors going into TTC, please make the decision based on YOU and YH, not everyone around you. I understand wanting everything to work out perfectly, but there's so much unknown that you can't control.

If you truly think you'd be more comfortable traveling at 5 months vs. 6 months, I guess I'd wait the month. But more than a month? No, thanks.

[VillainV]

I, personally, wouldn't wait. But you need to do what's right for the two of you.