s/o timing - Christmas babies?

[simpsongal]

Is anyone dodging the next cycle in hopes of avoiding a Christmas baby?  I know you can't time everything, but I think I would be really bummed about having a Christmas baby. (e.g., born any time in the month of December).

I hate to throw out a whole cycle over something like this (it would be next cycle for me).

Any Christmas GBCNers want to tell me I'm being silly?

[awick14]

Lol, no I'm not.

I think that as long as the baby isn't born on Christmas Day then IMO its not a Christmas baby. If that makes sense.

If we do have a Christmas baby then I will be okay with that though. It won't change much for us at all.

[ilikedonuts]

I was just talking about this with my friend. She said she would skip that cycle.

I told her she is crazy. I would never skip a cycle. Hell, this cycle puts my EDD as my daughter's 2nd birthday.

[HoneySpider]

I will fully admit that we sort of prevented on a cycle last year that would have resulted in a baby near Christmas. We were only a few months into trying and were still just "having fun with it" (ie: not charting/temping/using OPKs yet). Between us we know a lot of people with birthdays that time of year who hate it. Yes, it is ridiculous, especially knowing that a baby can come at any time and not near the due date, but I am just letting you know that you are not alone.

I did say at that point in time though that if we were still TTC at that same time a year later, there was no way I was skipping any cycle for anything. I think in the beginning we just were a little more lax with things. 

[annabear07]

DH hinted at it, but I'm not going to give in. If it is a Christmas baby that's great because it is a baby! i have a friend born on New Year's Eve and she doesn't really like it. But over the years she has realized that if her parents hadn't concieveed her to be born right then, then she wouldn't be here at all. She is a very awesome person and the world would be a worse place without her. Just to give some perspective.

Also DH said we will just celebrate half birthdays if needed! My cousin did this with her 26 Dec, birthday growing up and loved it!

[belovedbride07]

We considered skipping the next couple cycles, not because of Christmas per se, but because a volunteer group we're in does their big annual event that time of year. My role this year will require a lot of standing and being away from the house for a significant amount of time, and I'd rather not try to do that while super pregnant or just a couple weeks postpartum. It also requires H to be super busy for a couple of days.

I can be excused from my duties if need be, but short-term it will hurt my advancement in the organization, and that's almost more important to me than advancement at my "real" job.

In the end, we decided not to stop trying, though. It seems our chances of it happening at this point are pretty low, and if I do get pregnant we'll be ecstatic and deal with the logistics as best we can.

[simpsongal]

For context, I should add that I'm a bit Christmas-crazy (we go all out w/outdoor lights and indoor decor). I'm also sort of Martha-Stewart-like and would hate to short my child's birthday b/c I'm too busy w/Christmas stuff.

DH and I are just trying really hard so we have a Thanksgiving baby (or Veteran's day, more accurately).

ETA: We won our neighborhood lights contest this year.  If I do get KU this cycle, I might not be able to put up lights.

[coribelle26]

Everyone in my and H's family was born between October and March. If we avoided holidays, there would be none of us, lol!

[bazinga]

We have just started TTC so I'm not ready to give up a cycle so early in the process. That being said I also don't know what it feels like to have a December birthday so I wouldn't judge you for skipping a cycle.

[FastHands]

I freaking love Christmas and would freaking love a Christmas baby. I'll take any baby. Hell, I'd take a baby off the street. (Ok, maybe not there...yet.)

My bday is within 2 weeks of Christmas, and I never cared. Well, that's not entirely true. I hated that I could never get a free ice cream cone from the ice cream man on my bday.

I considered skipping a cycle that would make it impossible for me to do a job at work for which I had already signed a contract. I would have to find an independent contractor in an area where I have no business contacts to fill my role. Ultimately I decided having a kid was worth the hassle.

[annabear07]

Feb 13, 2013 10:27:41 GMT -5 simpsongal said:

For context, I should add that I'm a bit Christmas-crazy (we go all out w/outdoor lights and indoor decor). I'm also sort of Martha-Stewart-like and would hate to short my child's birthday b/c I'm too busy w/Christmas stuff.

DH and I are just trying really hard so we have a Thanksgiving baby (or Veteran's day, more accurately).

ETA: We won our neighborhood lights contest this year.  If I do get KU this cycle, I might not be able to put up lights.

We are Christmas crazy as well, so I get it!  We have a big Christmas party every year.  I decorate the entire house top to bottom and make no less than 7 different types of cookies.  It would be hard to throw a birthday party in there but I know we could make it work!

[simpsongal]

Now that I'm thinking about it, I don't think we'll actually skip. Maybe just have Christmas themed b/day parties or something. Early December wouldn't be too bad...

I'm a twin, so I'm used to splitting my birthday.

Annabear -- what are you favorite cookies to make? I make a lot every year too and always demo a couple new ones. I made some lemon ginger cookies this year that were a real hit. I also did a recipe from King Arthur flour for PB filled chocolate crinkles - so good! My dad was so amazed --"how did you get the PB in there?"

[vmars]

No, DH said he would want to skip bc his bday is December 11th and he doesn't want to share his bday lol. He was kidding though - he's more baby crazy than I am!

[Deleted]

simpsongal..just hire someone to put up your lights! lol I used to think like that..oh we need to wait for this and that.. but not anymore. We ended up having to wait a few months so now it's like a year from when we had originally planned to start ttc. Time flies..

[annabear07]

Simpsongal- Most of mine are family recipies. There are twisties (light and airy sugar cookie with vanilla sugar baked inbetween layers of cookie), great grandma's sugar cookies (like little sweet pie crusts), pizzelles, Martha Stewart's mint chocolate wafers and gingerbread people (men and women, I don't discriminate), and my personal favorite almond press cookies Oh and peppermint bark and buckeyes too!

ETA: Those KA crinkles sound delish! Is the recipe in the cookbook?
ETAA: And this isn't helping with my fasting today!!

[simpsongal]

www.kingarthurflour.com/recipes/magic-in-the-middles-recipe - kids love them, but there's enough cocoa flavor and restrained sweetness for adults.

Your cookies sound awesome! We should exchange recipes. I love Ina Garten's jam thumbprints, Martha's jam heart sandwich cookies (made w/sugar cookies), and a few other ones.

Sorry to tempt you - off to grab chocolate from my secretary.

[Cricket0619]

If I am not pregnant this cycle and get pregnant the next I could have a Christmas baby. I really wouldn't care when the birth date fell on. My nephews Birthday is on Christmas and we still make it really special for him the day of and a different day.

[Jalapeñomel]

I used to feel this way, because I have a December birthday, and December birthdays suck. But since we have been TTC for a while, I say fuck it.

[Deleted]

Definitely not avoiding TTC, any baby would be welcome, regardless of birth date. Since I can't go past 8 months, I still have time to get pregnant and deliver in October!

[Monica Geller]

YES, but don't judge me! I am a December birthday and I hate it. We have 5 different birthday/anniversaries in addition to the holidays in December. I have always said (like since I was 16 and could do period math) that I am not adding to the madness that is December. So we are trying this cycle for a mid-November and we will hold off next cycle, even though I'm anxious to get pregnant and have a baby, mentally I just CAN'T choose a Dec. baby.

Obviously if it happens, it won't be the end of the world and we'll be excited for the baby.

[statlerwaldorf]

I wouldn't prefer a December birthday over other months, but I've never prevented because of it. I'm not sure if I didn't have IF issues if I'd feel differently.

[Bumblebee]

We will keep trying.  I'm not willing to give up a cycle.

[VillainV]

My H's birthday is the first week of January, so Christmas birthday's don't phase us:-) If we were successful this cycle my EDD will be within a week of my birthday, which would be pretty cool!

[tarheels]

As a Dec 22 baby, I can tell you it bites. My mother was the only person in the world who didn't lump my bday in with Christmas. She always tried so hard to make sure I had a girly bday that looked nothing like Christmas - pink packages, cake with pastel flowers, etc. I was never able to have a bday party growing up because no one was around. I had exactly 3 bday parties as a child and I remember them all bc they were so rare - the combination of the busy holiday season for adults meaning they can't spare the time to take their kids to a party, tight funds for everyone not being able to afford another present at that time of year, and people not being in town meant parties just never happened. My bday was always just me and my mom. Seriously, I get a little misty-eyed thinking about how lonesome it was.

So yes, DH and I avoided this cycle and will always in the future. Early Dec wouldn't be bad, but within a few days of Christmas is a deal breaker for us.

[Deleted]

Feb 18, 2013 14:26:05 GMT -5 tarheels said:

As a Dec 22 baby, I can tell you it bites. My mother was the only person in the world who didn't lump my bday in with Christmas. She always tried so hard to make sure I had a girly bday that looked nothing like Christmas - pink packages, cake with pastel flowers, etc. I was never able to have a bday party growing up because no one was around. I had exactly 3 bday parties as a child and I remember them all bc they were so rare - the combination of the busy holiday season for adults meaning they can't spare the time to take their kids to a party, tight funds for everyone not being able to afford another present at that time of year, and people not being in town meant parties just never happened. My bday was always just me and my mom. Seriously, I get a little misty-eyed thinking about how lonesome it was.

So yes, DH and I avoided this cycle and will always in the future. Early Dec wouldn't be bad, but within a few days of Christmas is a deal breaker for us.

That does sound pretty sucky. I'm sorry you missed out so much. 

[purplecow0206]

DH and I are holding on this cycle and the next one and it has nothing to do with having a Christmas baby. My birthday is the 27th and I have no problem with it at all. We're holding because of a planned family vacation the week of Thanksgiving. If we got pregnant this cycle, I'd be <at most> 2 weeks pp, and if we had a December baby, I wouldn't be able to fly. Yes, it's probably a bit silly, but we both really want one more Thanksgiving vacation with DH's family before kiddos.

[chickadee77]

Both H and I are Christmas babies, and we both love it! Granted, our parents were cool about it growing up - we had separate birthday parties and presents, etc. As adults, we celebrate a ton, because, hell, the whole world is decorated for our birthdays!

The only sucky part, as an adult, is that everything comes due in December - car taxes, property taxes, added to birthday and holiday celebrations... We take a pretty hard financial hit that month, so we have to budget for it.

So, nope, I wouldn't put off TTC just because of that. Plus, you can always go early or late, so if you plan a January baby, you could easily wind up giving birth in December!

[zarapipe]

I don't know what to do! I have always hated the idea of having a Christmas Baby, but I don't know if I want to miss a cycle. If I were to get pregnant my due date would be December 28th- I think too close to Christmas for me, but my husband thinks it is no big deal.