not a new feeling - latest pregnancy announcement

[thatgirl2478]

I know you guys will 'get it' ... So at Christmas we find out that my cousins wife is expecting #3, yay.  I don't see them frequently and we're not really close, so NBD.  Then we find out a month later that my cousin is expecting #1, yay.  I'm happy for them b/c it's #1, but this one was a little harder.   Then yesterday my best 'work friend' tells me she's expecting #2.  Cue green eyed monster.  They are really nice people, but their financial situation sucks (as in they are living with his parents & younger brother with their 18 mo old in a 3 bdrm 1700 sqft house because they couldn't afford an apartment) and they always said they wanted their first to be older before the 2nd...(I know accidents happen, but we've been actively TRYING for over a year now...).

I'm happy for her, but man it feels like I got punched in the guts.  I'm really really trying not to be overly critical or jealous or petty but this sucks.

[discogranny]

I totally get this. I try very hard to not get into this place emotionally, but sometimes it is just impossible. I am finding lately that with my miscarriage, people want to tell me how bad their miscarriages were and I am having a really hard time being sympathetic when they've gone on to have one or two children in the time I have been TTC. This makes me feel so petty and I hate that.

I am sorry this is so rough on you right now. Hopefully you will be be pregnancy announcement free for awhile since you seem to have met your quota for this quarter.

[G22]

We have all felt this many times on the TTC journey. Your not alone. It's ok to have a day to have a pity party, feel angry, etc. Just don't let it continue to ruin your days.

I'm sorry your having a rough time, treat yourself to something special today. Chocolate usually does the trick for me!

[Cheesecake]

You're definitely not alone in that.(((hugs)))

[thatgirl2478]

disco - I like the idea that I've reached my quota! I can understand people wanting to say how bad their miscarriages were - but really in that moment it's probably best for others to say how sorry they are and let you know that they are there for you.

I'm trying not to let it ruin my outlook. All of them are very nice people and deserve happiness.

[trufflefries]

Totally not alone. ((hugs)) In January I found out my sister, one of my closest girlfriends, and a handful of acquaintances were pregnant. But it's the ones closest to us that hurt the most because we feel happy for them, but sad for us, then guilty that we feel sad. It's a crazy cycle. One day it WILL happen for you!

[jewel]

Get this shit....

I have an acquaintance who has had 6 children. She only has custody of one, and had her tubes tied after the last birth a few years ago. She just found out that she's pregnant again.

Hold the damn phone. WHAT?

[thatgirl2478]

oh jewel - that's just messed up!

[KaraOrNot]

Ugh, that sucks. It is such a tough place to be - happy and jealous (and bitter, angry, annoyed, etc) at the same time.

jewel - What? That is messed up.

[anonymess]

Feb 13, 2013 13:55:49 GMT -5 trufflefries said:

But it's the ones closest to us that hurt the most because we feel happy for them, but sad for us, then guilty that we feel sad. It's a crazy cycle.

This is SO true!