In-law annoyance. I don't usually do these, but

[underwaterrhymes]

Feb 13, 2013 20:43:21 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

I have found something other than their empty milk carton tea "pitcher" that annoys me. lol

They've been keeping Joanna a lot lately. Every time I tell them about something new Joanna has done, they are like "oh yeah, she's been doing that here, too." LIke, they have to have been the first one to see her do everything. She's my baby!!

Also, I feel like I am in danger of becoming one of those scary moms who are too attached/dependent on their kids. I want comfort from her since I've been dealing with all this with my dad, and she's a baby. A non-snuggly one at that.

So I turn to Bails.

Also, H just told me I was always on my period. This was in response to me telling him I was on my period after he'd said that it WOULD be nice to have Valentine's Day sex tomorrow night if he weren't practicing to play in the church band on Sunday. I mean, he kind of has a point. I do have my period 1/3 of the month. Whatever. Try being me, dude.

Have it it, TOTS.

I read this as "So I turn to balls." I was like, well, I guess that's one way of handling it.

((hugs)) Tamb. Totally normal and understandable.

[speckledfrog]

It's funny that you posted this, because just today I had a similar thought about the comfort thing. I had a super long dentist appointment (4 fillings I have weak enamel, DCM,B) and I was looking forward to getting home and nursing W so I could have that nice snuggly time with him. And then I wondered if I was weird. I'm glad I'm not. Or at least we're both weird.

Also, W is not a snuggly baby either. Even when he gets hurt, he crawls over to me but doesn't want a hug, he just wants to be near me and cry into my face. Lol

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FIL looooves to tell me all about my kid, and how to handle all situations regarding parenting him/her. He would know, obviously, after spending 24 hours with them once every two months.

I get you.

[PeonyParty]

"after he'd said that it WOULD be nice to have Valentine's Day sex tomorrow night if he weren't practicing to play in the church band on Sunday"

Wait, whut? You can't have sex because he has church band practice?

[speckledfrog]

Feb 13, 2013 20:49:57 GMT -5 PeonyParty said:

"after he'd said that it WOULD be nice to have Valentine's Day sex tomorrow night if he weren't practicing to play in the church band on Sunday"

Wait, whut? You can't have sex because he has church band practice?

God is such a cockblocker.

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my ILs do the same damn thing. once, i came home from work and fil and mil told me AGAIN all about this "new" thing L did for the FIRST TIME with them (aside: how the hell would they know) and i was all "yeah, she's been doing that awhile, isn't it so cute?" because i was annoyed, but realized my annoyance was somewhat outsized. and my fil was like "are you SUUUURE she's done it before?"

yes. I AM SURE.

[nursewife]

My parents do the baby thing. I also want to yell at them. It's my baby! You didn't hear her first word, I did!! Grrr

[flipflopsandwine]

My in laws do that all the time. They tell me something he said, did, or ate and loved. My response is always, ''oh yeah! He's been saying/doing/eating that for awhile now. It's awesome, right?!''

[lucky513]

Ill still have sex with you Tamb

[revolution]

A baby's first everything doesn't count until the mom sees it. Ignore the inlaws!

Sorry about the sex thing

Cuddle with j whenever you can.... it is just fine.

[Deleted]

I don't understand the sex part Tamb. Are you upset at the lack of romance? Upset that you won't be together on v day? Upset that he wanted to have sex on v day? Overwhelmed with everything else and just not wanting sex ever ever?

I don't think he meant to hurt you.

[Deleted]

Feb 13, 2013 21:23:50 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Thanks. I basically fake it all day. I'm living a fake life. I say the shit I'm suppose to say, even with H. I just need stuff to turn around, soon.

Ohhhhh I get this. You will look back on this one day from a much better place.

(hugs)

[daisyheadmaizie]

I'm sorry, Tamb. I think it is pretty normal to use your baby/child to help you deal with sad and stressful times. I know snuggling and playing with DD helped me a lot when my dad was dying. It was nice to just be with her and focus on something good.

[PeonyParty]

Feb 13, 2013 21:30:15 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Feb 13, 2013 21:25:05 GMT -5 @stellasmom said:

Ohhhhh I get this. You will look back on this one day from a much better place.

(hugs)

Thanks, stellas. Like now, we're watching TV, and I'm laughing at stuff. But I'm thinking "why the fuck am I laughing?I don't FEEL like laughing."  I just know it's something I would normally be laughing at, so I'm automatically laughing.

Yeah, I don't know this back story but I'm sorry That sucks.
I feel you on the unsnuggly baby thing. My daughter was NOT a cuddler and all I wanted to do was cuddle, hug and kiss her all day long. It would really hurt my feelings when she would deny me that. Like she was rejecting me. Thankfully it was a phase and she's better with it now. She doesn't super love it but she does indulge me a lot when I just want a hug and kiss.

[cleo29]

I think this limbo you are in with your dad is incredibly draining and you shouldn't be so hard on yourself. I keep thinking about you and how hard this must be.

C was not always supper cuddly, but this changed about a year ago. There's hope!

Oh and my mom calls every day to see how the kids slept and then will offer advice about how to get them to sleep better and it's something we are already doing.

[sewpinkgal]

Big hugs Tamb. You cuddle with that baby of yours as much as she'll allow.

[PeonyParty]

Ima need back story on the empty milk carton tea pitcher thing.

[BunnyMacDougal]

Feb 13, 2013 21:23:50 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Thanks. I basically fake it all day. I'm living a fake life. I say the shit I'm suppose to say, even with H. I just need stuff to turn around, soon.

Hugs to you.  I hope you do get it turned around.  Been there and it feels bottomless.  And lonely.