The sellers agent called ours again and DH and our agent are doing whatever they are asking because it sounds like they really want to let us have it, and we really want it.
DH sounds super stressed, and was maybe a little crabby with me (but he wouldn't be with other people), so I am glad to not have to be in the middle of all of the stress. It isn't fair to make him go through all of it alone, but maybe it evens things out a little for all of the years he was away on travel while I dealt with two daughters.
I (heart) all of you! I fully believe that all of the t+p, crossed everything and good luck wishes are working for us!