Sometimes I just want to be alone

[redshockz]

My husband and i have been TTC since July.  A quick (very quick) background.  I'm 28 never have had a child he's 31 has two both VERY young pregnancies....he got a vasectomy and our  honeymoon was the reversal.  It WORKED but the thing is he knows i want a baby... i was thinking all week that this was the night, i POAS before i had a drink tonight to be safe and it was like no phase.... i mean i know he has 2 kids but I know that the procedure we went through to get things "working" again was a huge ordeal... but here i am saddened over  a BFN (Af was yesterday- idk all the acronyms) and when he saw the neg he just was like okay lets have a drink... and the last time i thoguht it  was a time to test he just bounces back.  I'm not trying to say he is insensitive bc he can be on so many things... but sometimes it's like he is astounded why i'm sad... when we were dating the reversal was on the table before we were seriously dating.... (sorry if I'm rambling... I know that so many have so many things that are so more important and I don't want to be a martyr) but I guess I am wishing I had someone to talk to that hasn't just gotten prego so quick...  it's not every month but the 2 months that i thought it was for real... and when I POAS it's not positive......  I feel like.... poo...

[redshockz]

and sorry for the grammar and spelling... i am just feeling alone and was quickly typing and apparently decided that posting my first post here was more important than making things legible.

[awick14]

((Hugs))

Welcome.

The last few times AF came DH was kinda the same. He thinks that things will happen when they are meant to. It can be frustrating at times, that's for sure.

[simpsongal]

I'm sorry. From your description, it sounds like you think your DH is supportive, but maybe he's not as jazzed about another baby because he already has two (2). You're understandably disappointed about his reaction, but it also sounds like he's gone to some amazing lengths to start a family with you. Try to keep that in mind. I think the men can be a little more mellow about TTC b/c their role so easy. We're the ones monitoring the signs, temps, testing, etc. It's an emotional journey.

July is a bit of time - has your DH had an SA (sperm analysis) to confirm the reversal worked?

[redshockz]

Thanks Ladies... It's nice to hear your kind words. Yes the reversal worked! And he's continuing to make sure that his care of the jewels. We started TTC in July; however, it wasn't super serious more like, if it happens it happens. But now with learning how to track and all of that I really got my hopes up. I know that he wants to have children with me, and I know I sound nonsensical saying he doesn't care when he's went thru the reversal, and he goes to accupuncture, eats well, etc... but He didn't even offer me a hug last night when I was bummed... so clearly my AF emotions are now taking over LOL.

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It sounds like he is really commited so far even though he's not very emotional about it. My H is not either. He wants kids even more than I do but he's not the one testing, charting, etc. and analyzing everything about his body so there is less emotional investment, I think. Also, if you are 28 and he's 31 and you have been trying since June, I would say you guys still have some time. His chill attitude is probably to counter your sadness/frustration/disappointment.

[annabear07]

I'm so confused with your post title and your post conflicting eachother.

Regardless, my husband doesn't react very emotionaly to a non-knocked up cycle.(I haven't even had the chance to test yet as AF keeps coming early)He easily shrugs it off and assures me that it will happen when the time is right. It is frustrating to hear him say that at times but as pp said it's different for them. All they have to do is deliver the sperm, the rest is up to our bodies which is very stressful and emotional.

Tell him how you feel and that you need his support. He doesn't feel the same way you do, so he doesn't know automatically how you are feeling.

Plus you have us to vent to, as long as you stop using all those ellipses I'm kidding!

[pooh8402]

Feb 15, 2013 13:36:03 GMT -5 annabear07 said:

Tell him how you feel and that you need his support. He doesn't feel the same way you do, so he doesn't know automatically how you are feeling.

THIS! Communicate with your husband and tell him how you feel. He probably doesn't realize that you need a bit more support from him.

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