We basically were spending just about every night together from about a month in, but maintained seperate addresses/residences. We "officially" moved in together....damn, it's hard to really remember now....maybe 1.5-2 years in? Crap, it was a long time again.
Six months - but he basically lived with me every weekend once we started dating since he lived with his parents and would come to the town where I went to college every Friday - Monday am. I decided not to go back to college and we both got jobs in the same town. We never actually talked about moving in together, just did. It was a bigger city (but I grew up in a town of 1200 so any town is big...) and I remember my parents saying they were okay with it because it was safer. It's just funny to me now since I'm in Austin and live alone. Justification!!!
We got engaged in Dec and then in Feb he was offered a job tranfer in another state, so I moved with him. Prior to that I was still living with my parents.
"Everything happens for a reason, people change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so you can appreciate them when they're right, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can come together." ~Marilyn Monroe
We dated for about 6 years before we got engaged. Then i also wanted to wait 2 more years before we got married. He moved in about 6 months after engagement.
Post by lyssbobiss, Command, B613 on Feb 15, 2013 21:45:40 GMT -5
3 months. Too soon, but my roommate at the time was moving in with his boyfriend and left me kind of high and dry still in a lease for a 2 BR apartment I couldn't get out of yet. XH's lease was up, so he did me a favor.
I'm going to suggest that was a bad idea. But I like to consider myself a walking manual of what not to do in a relationship.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
Post by snatchparade on Feb 16, 2013 10:00:54 GMT -5
In my current relationship, will be a little more than 2.5 years together when we move in.
With my X it was after about 10 months. I didn't want to but he told me we would have to end things if I didn't. Sigh. Wonder why that one went wrong...
STBX and I moved in together officially about 5 months after we started dating, but he stayed with me for a few days at a time several times while he was in the process of moving out of one place to live with his dad temporarily.
Honestly, that was WAY too soon. I'm a little gun shy about moving in with anyone else until we're engaged/seriously talking marriage. I feel like it put a lot of pressure on our relationship to succeed and made it really hard to break up when we probably should have. Of course I say that now while I'm in the process of a divorce...who knows how I will feel when the time actually comes again.
It will be exactly a year when I'm officially moved in with bf, but I spend a lot of my time at his place now. (9 months). I still stay at my place during my workweek now and the occasional weekend night if I'm going out with friends.
Post by chikastuff on Feb 18, 2013 15:02:38 GMT -5
BF and I don't live together, but in my life I've had a chronic problem with moving in with guys too soon. Ok, I've only lived with two guys, and one of them was my exH, but with both of those guys it was within a few months. This time around I'm not moving in unless we get married, and that's not happening any time soon. I'm enjoying having my own space and living for just my son and I right now. It's going to be hard to give that up when/if we get there.
XH and I didn't move in together until after we were married, so 4 years into the relationship. In the future though, I will live with someone as a precursor to marriage.