appt followup/vent/whine

[FastHands]

Ugh my appointment was awful. The Dr was open to doing some testing based on what we had talked about earlier, starting with a CD12 u/s, which would be Tuesday. But between over an hour wait (and the first time I saw her was a 45min wait, and she was then so rushed that she practically ran out of the room when my feet were literally still in the stirrups), something she said that I thought was just a weird/shitty thing to say, and then she said "hang on, let me see when the u/s room is available on Tuesday" and then WENT HOME (nurse came in abt 10mins later and I think it was by coincidence or because she saw me sitting there alone with the door open), I am just over her. I already feel like I wasted my whole afternoon and a copay, and I don't think I want her to be my doctor. My annual is due in August and I think I will just make an appt with someone new then, and discuss fertility then too. I so had my hopes up for this appointment, just to learn SOMETHING, and I am just so frustrated. I want a fucking baby and if I'm going to have to start the adoption process I want to fucking know so we can get started. And I probably sound like a whiny brat but I just needed to vent.

[pooh8402]

No you're not a whiny brat. That is awful. I would change doctors too. But why wait until August?

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[ilikedonuts]

Call a new doctor now. Don't wait.

If you aren't getting a good vibe, I wouldn't stay. My doctor is always going 100 miles an hour, but he remembers everything about every patient and will talk to you night and day. There is a way to move fast and still be a good doctor. Obviously your doctor hasn't figured out how to do that.

[FastHands]

I just got an email saying they could fit me in on Monday morning for the u/s... Now I'm wondering if I should go get the u/s just to get something out of this mess.. or stick to the principle of not giving them any of my (or my insurance) $.

My thought for waiting was that I know some doctors won't test before a year of trying, so I don't want to waste my/their time.

[awick14]

((Fasthands))

I'm not sure what I would do in your shoes, but we are always "here" for you!

[Deleted]

That sounds awful and totally unacceptable. I would find a new dr asap but go for the us anyways. What is it supposed to detect? Did she order any bloodwork?

[ilikedonuts]

What is the u/s supposed to look for?

It just seems like your doctor has no real game plan. At least if you go see another doctor, you can sit down with them. Show them whatever charts you have talk to them about what's going on. They may tell you to wait. They may not. But at least you'll have an actual game plan. Plus you'll (hopefully) find a doctor you want to stick with. As someone who has gone through 2 losses, a full pregnancy and now some testing for LPD over the course of almost 3 years, I know from experience that it really is crucial that you feel comfortable and happy with your doctor.

[FastHands]

She didn't order blood work. She said the u/s would see if I am gearing up to ovulate (which now that I think about it, cd12 would only tell that if I O at cd14, but I usually O at cd19... The other thing that it would check is that my tubes are open.

I think you guys are right.. I'm going to skip the u/s and find someone else.

Also, she told me that I might not always be ovulating because I had one 33d cycle. Um, what?

[awick14]

I would defiantly find another doc asap.

If her advice about the 33 day cycle would be true then I would never ovulate! She is defiantly not up to speed with how the female body works. Yikes!

I feel bad for all her patients.

[FastHands]

That's what's so odd. I have heard such great things about her from past and present ob and gyn patients. That's the only reason I went back after the first not so great experience. And maybe I just have bad timing, but I can't shake the bad feeling.

And I know. My cycles are usually 30-31 days. Idk how you look at one that's 33 like it's a giant red flag.

[HoneySpider]

Ugh, sorry fasthands, that sounds awful I would definitely look for a new doctor and I wouldn't feel bad about going in before the year of trying, my OBs office scheduled me for an infertility consult at about 10 months IIRC.

[Deleted]

An ultrasound will check if your tubes are open? I thought an hsg did that??

[ilikedonuts]

I just had an u/s and they definitely did not check my tubes. That's what an hsg is for. The u/s tech checked for cysts and any abnormalities.

[Bumblebee]

How frustrating!  I'm sorry you were treated like that.

[vmars]

I would find a doctor you are comfortable with. I use the same practice as my mom & sister even though it's further away. It's only 2 women and they are both great. I've been seeing the older female dr but last yr I couldn't get in w/her so I saw the younger dr and felt like I could talk to her more, she was very nice. My sister tried using a diff doctor closer to home but after a really bad experience with them she decided to go back with this practice.

[FastHands]

It's possible I misunderstood her. I had planned to ask a couple more questions when she came back in the room, but since she never did, I'm not 100% certain. She said we would check to see if I was getting ready to ovulate (I assume by checking for a maturing egg/follicle. She said "and we can also look around to be sure everything is open." I assumed she meant fallopian tubes, but it's possible she meant that they would check my uterus for fibroids etc. Either way, I'm calling a new doc. I found out that my OLD doc from way before ttc days is now covered by my insurance. I had only ever seen a prn there, but I feel less like a PITA to call someone with whom I have at least some history to say, "I had a crap experience at another doc. It's been 7 mos. Should I come in and talk, or would you rather I waited till a year?"

[VillainV]

Sounds like the right decision FastHands. If you stayed with that doc, who knows what you would have to put up with when you do get pregnant! If it's not a good fit, then it's not a good fit, and there's nothing wrong with finding someone else who is a good fit.

[FastHands]

Because I'm not pregnant? lol. One year is an out-dated guideline based on people who aren't informed about their cycles.

[FastHands]

lol I didn't mean that with an attitude. I just didn't really know how to answer. Sorry if it came off that way.