Today sucks.

[Deleted]

It's my 31st birthday today.

This has been the hardest year of my life.  I'm feeling sorry for myself and I feel like everything sucks:
H and I are not speaking.  Things are really not good.
I am not speaking to my toxic family.
My friendship with ex-BFF is officially over.
My close friend at work isn't here today.

I doubt anyone will even say Happy Birthday to me.

Fuck.it.all 
It's going to be a Xanax to make it through the day kind of day.

Hair pats? Smack upside the head for feeling sorry for myself?  Whatever, I just want to feel like someone cares.

[Saint Monica]

(hug) (hug2)

[Deleted]

I'm sorry Calamity.
If wallowing and feeling sorry for yourself will help you get through it, sometimes that's just what you gotta do. So no smacks from me, although I will say if you need a butt slap to get going, I'd be happy to oblige.

Can you treat yourself to a fun and fatty lunch today? Or maybe some retail therapy after work? You deserve a happy birthday present

[Kore]

Happy Birthday!!

I'm so sorry you're going through serious piles of shit.

[luckyval]

No smacks, but serious hugs from an internet stranger.

It's a bad day, but it will be a better year

[tulip]

Happy Birthday!!! Hope this year is a better one!!

[anastasiabeaverhause]

Happy Birthday Hun!!! I really hope that your day gets better. I agree w/ missusbee, treat yourself to whatever you like today and don't feel even a little guilty for it.

[alzi]

Happy birthday!!!!!
(((Hugs)))

[venice2007]

Happy birthday! Hugs!

[Waffles]

Hair pats. Definitely.

I'd recommend going for a comforting lunch and maybe some retail therapy?
Maybe go to the cinema after work?

Sorry you're having a crappy time.

ETA: doh! and happy birthday!

[Deleted]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! ((hugs))

[saraandmichael]

happy birthday, calamity!

want me to call you at work so it looks like daycare calling that something is wrong with your kids and they need to be picked up so you can leave and go do something nice for yourself?

[Bernadine]

Happy birthday! Do something special for yourself today! I'm sorry things aren't going so great for you right now.

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Feb 22, 2013 8:25:28 GMT -5 saraandmichael said:

happy birthday, calamity!

want me to call you at work so it looks like daycare calling that something is wrong with your kids and they need to be picked up so you can leave and go do something nice for yourself?

Ha, that would be perfect except the kids are at home with DH.

It is DD's 2nd birthday today too, so I want to put on a happy face for her.  At least I know my kids love me.

[DotAndBuzz]

I hope you have a happy birthday (retail therapy, delicious lunch), and that this is the start of a much better year.

(((hugs))

[keyslover]

I am with Sue on this one. It may have been a tough year, but a year of growth and healing for you. Toxic relationships are unhealthy. You just need some separation to start a healthy relationships and I promise those will be comfortable soon enough.

Happy Birthday! Your new year starts today

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Feb 22, 2013 8:34:10 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Feb 22, 2013 8:01:22 GMT -5 calamity said:

It's my 31st birthday today.

This has been the hardest year of my life.  I'm feeling sorry for myself and I feel like everything sucks:
H and I are not speaking.  Things are really not good.
I am not speaking to my toxic family.
My friendship with ex-BFF is officially over.
My close friend at work isn't here today.

I doubt anyone will even say Happy Birthday to me.

Fuck.it.all 
It's going to be a Xanax to make it through the day kind of day.

Hair pats? Smack upside the head for feeling sorry for myself?  Whatever, I just want to feel like someone cares.

    Wallow till you're blue in the face. But consider how you are making your life better: you've cut out a toxic family. This is SO good for you. Remember just because it hurts, doesn't mean it's bad. You ditched your ex BFF for really good reasons, and this opens a place for someone who will be a real friend, and won't be a drain on your strength .Be proud of yourself for doing what you need to do to clear a place for good to come to you in your life; and there's no time like your birthday to assess that. If things are not good between you and your H, maybe you're doing a little more clearing of space. That's good too. Sucks while it's happening but there's good coming to you.  

And HAPPY BIRTHDAY! 31! You're a baby. I remember 31, 22 years ago, lol. You're going to have an awesome year, just awesome. Keep working hard. 

Thank you Sue, that was right on.  I do feel so much better without the toxic people in my life.  I guess I am just comparing myself to everyone else who probably has lots of family who loves them and who is wishing them the best day possible.  I have been doing a lot of really hard work in therapy for the last 7 months and I am proud of how far I have come.

I just feel sad, but I guess that is to be expected.  But really, it is just another day...

I'm going to make it as special as I can for DD.  

[saraandmichael]

Feb 22, 2013 8:37:48 GMT -5 calamity said:

Feb 22, 2013 8:25:28 GMT -5 saraandmichael said:

happy birthday, calamity!

want me to call you at work so it looks like daycare calling that something is wrong with your kids and they need to be picked up so you can leave and go do something nice for yourself?

Ha, that would be perfect except the kids are at home with DH.

It is DD's 2nd birthday today too, so I want to put on a happy face for her.  At least I know my kids love me.

nobody at work has to know that they're at home!

let me know if you change your mind. you deserve something nice.

[sneetch]

Happy birthday! Spoil yourself a little today, and enjoy celebrating with your kids.

[stephlove]

Hugs. Happy birthday!

[Deleted]

Happy Birthday!! I say year 31 is going to be YOUR year!!

[hopecounts]

Happy Birthday!
Do something to enjoy the day, maybe even take the afternoon off if you have personal time you can use.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is take some time for yourself.

[Deleted]

Happy Birthday!

I echo SueSue here - think of all you've accomplished recently, most especially cutting out toxic family and friends, which is so very difficult to do and something some folks never accomplish, to their own detriment.

I'm so proud of you for having the courage to stand up for yourself and decide you only want healthy, happy relationships in your life (I've been there, I know).

That is truly the BEST birthday gift you could have given yourself.

And think of it this way, it's a brand new year in your life and it can only get better from here.

((hugs))

[Monica Geller]

Happy birthday and happy start of a new, better year!

[karmasabiotch]

Get yourself carry out Chinese for dinner and a bottle of wine. Rent a fun happy movie and celebrate the end of a bad year and the start of a fresh year full of new exciting positive changes.

Happy Birthday!!

[Deleted]

Happy Birthday!!! ((hugs)) Things will get better.

[Deleted]

I'm sorry.

[orangeblossom]

Do internet birthday wishes count, Happy Birthday Calamity, my fellow Pisces.

I hope despite how the day started, you on to have a great birthday. If nothing else, treat yourself to something fun.

[partiallysunny]

I'm sorry Happy Birthday!

::pets hair::

[pinkeggs]

(hug) (hug2)

Happy birthday, sweetie. <)

I hope you have a better weekend xoxo