Monday Confession

[Deleted]

I haven't had a shower since Tuesday. I hate my doctor. I can't get my knee wet so I have to make do with shitty sponge baths that don't really help me feel clean. If he tells me Thursday I can shower I'm going right home and taking an hour long shower.

[OrangePixyStix]

I was wondering what that smell was...


I have an interview this morning for a different company and didn't tell anyone here about it. It's scheduled for 11 am, so I am just going to pretend to have a long lunch meeting and hopefully they aren't suspicious. I'm not actively seeking a new job but have been sought out and figure it's worth at least a look to see what this place offers.

[Deleted]

Is it something better than where you are at now?

Lol. H told me im not a smelly person naturally (even when i sweat) so the small amount I've been doing has kept me clean. Thank god for tolerant lol

[lizo11]

Skipping--I hope you get the greenlight to shower!
Good luck OPS!

For me--I have no urge to do any actual work today. Either for my job or for the theatre...I think I just need a day off from the world.

[OrangePixyStix]

Jun 4, 2012 8:27:49 GMT -5 skippingstones said:

Is it something better than where you are at now?

Lol. H told me im not a smelly person naturally (even when i sweat) so the small amount I've been doing has kept me clean. Thank god for tolerant lol

It's doing pretty much the same thing as I do now, just a different type of company (not an Engineering firm) and it better be more pay! I haven't confirmed any info about the compensation or benefits yet but it should be more than I'm making now (according to the recruiter who set this up for me). I'm guessing if I make it past the initial interview then I will hear more of what they plan to offer, but so far the company is a leader in their industry based on what I am reading about them.

[winofairy]

Oh Skips I do hope you get to shower soon! I would be having a major melt down if I couldn't shower. I normally take 2 a day (shower am and relaxing bubble bath pm).

OPS- Good luck at the interview today. Fx that it's more money and awesome benefits.

I have been spending far too much time on GBCN and not getting my work done. I'm feeling very anxious and guilty about it.

And I'm already dreading Wednesday when MIL comes down and we have to start the Daniel bible study again. I've tried talking to DH about telling his mom that we (really I) would rather do it this winter (even DH can't stand the lady on the dvd) but he's so afraid of hurting his mom's feelings. UGH! Just shoot me now!

[darkling_glory]

Jun 4, 2012 8:41:50 GMT -5 winofairy said:

And I'm already dreading Wednesday when MIL comes down and we have to start the Daniel bible study again. I've tried talking to DH about telling his mom that we (really I) would rather do it this winter (even DH can't stand the lady on the dvd) but he's so afraid of hurting his mom's feelings. UGH! Just shoot me now!

Okay, this is probably going to come out way bitchier then I intend it too, so just keep in mind that I'm not attacking you.... but WHY are you letting you MIL dictate this shit to you?

If you don't like it, don't do it! It's that simple. If you want to visit with her, great, but it doesn't all have to be about bible study.

I fucking HATE preachy people and I would have told off my MIL if she was like this years ago! I feel so bad for you that you are subjected to this preachy bullshit, but I also want you to sack up and tell her you don't need a bible study! Especially if you're not interested in it!

Okay... so there's my thoughts on that. I hope I didn't offend you, but I would just be miserable in your position and I want for you to escape! Escape!

[winofairy]

Jun 4, 2012 8:54:45 GMT -5 darkling_glory said:

Jun 4, 2012 8:41:50 GMT -5 winofairy said:

And I'm already dreading Wednesday when MIL comes down and we have to start the Daniel bible study again. I've tried talking to DH about telling his mom that we (really I) would rather do it this winter (even DH can't stand the lady on the dvd) but he's so afraid of hurting his mom's feelings. UGH! Just shoot me now!

Okay, this is probably going to come out way bitchier then I intend it too, so just keep in mind that I'm not attacking you.... but WHY are you letting you MIL dictate this shit to you?

If you don't like it, don't do it! It's that simple. If you want to visit with her, great, but it doesn't all have to be about bible study.

I fucking HATE preachy people and I would have told off my MIL if she was like this years ago! I feel so bad for you that you are subjected to this preachy bullshit, but I also want you to sack up and tell her you don't need a bible study! Especially if you're not interested in it!

Okay... so there's my thoughts on that. I hope I didn't offend you, but I would just be miserable in your position and I want for you to escape! Escape!

Not bitchy at all and no offense taken. I see it as a very honest opinion and I like that!

MIL is usually not very preachy and the other stuff she has brought for us to watch has been interesting to me. I am just not digging this Daniel study at all. I tried it the first week and that was enough for me. Even DH made snide comments to MIL about the annoying lady presenting the lecture that night. And so the next week she brought the Harbinger DVD for us to watch. DH fell asleep on the couch while watching the 1st DVD. So I was stuck to watch it alone with MIL. Luckily it held my interest but I let DH have it after MIL left for falling asleep. She comes to visit with him not watch him sleep.

I know I should "sack up" and tell MIL how I feel but I feel like since it's DH's mother so he should be the one to tell her especially since he's not thrilled about this study either.

I really don't like to hurt people's feelings and I don't want DH to be upset with me either. His mom is really the only family he has. His only sister is a cunt-bitch from hell and his father passed away several years ago. He's not close to any aunts, uncles, or cousins since they all live in WI.

I know he goes out of his way to try and make his mom happy by doing all this biblical stuff and attending church weekly. His only sister has nothing to do with his MIL (or us) anymore because MIL continues to have a relationship with DH and I. His sister/BIL sent MIL a letter saying they just can't be part of the "toxic life" that we live and are being the bigger people by taking the high road. And they only do so because they "love" her. I haven't liked SIL/BIL since the day I met them. I am always wary of the over zealous Christian.

SIL/BIL are by far two of the most selfish and self-righteous hypocrites that I have encountered over the years. It astounds me that those who claim to be holier-than-though, or have that direct hotline to Jesus are the ones who are the furthest away from what they claim to be. We all have our times of weakness, no one is perfect, DH & I are not angels, but we aren't demons either. For them to be such devout Christians it is appalling the way they have treated DH/MIL. I swear if I ever see that bitch again I will knock her teeth out for all the horrible lies she has spread about me.

She is vindictive, nasty, not to mention delusional. But it is us who are blamed for her ugly behaviors. She has humiliated me and then goes off to teach God songs to the children in her Sunday school class. But hey, she goes to church on Sundays, so that makes everything alright.

I have no issue with people being devout in their religion. It’s the hypocrisy that stuns me. Plus the fact that they persecute others for not believing EXACTLY what they believe. I have always said that if Jesus himself came back to earth, these two bit holier-than-though types would be the ones Jesus would least likely want in his close circle. They are just so delusional, that they believe they would be the ones who would elbow everyone else out in order to get a private audience. Sad, really.

Unfortunately they forgive their own little group of church goers far too easily. It’s such a pity they don’t have that compassion for their mother and brother.

With all that being said I know DH feels badly that his mom is alone all the time. And that she never gets to see her grand-children. If she didn't have her bible study groups she wouldn't have any social life at all.

I just feel stuck

[panda812]

My mom has fibromyalgia (nevermind that some doctors don't even acknowledge that it's an actual illness), and that is all she ever talks about. In person, on facebook, through texts, on the phone. It is driving me crazy. She complains she can't do anything and it has ruined her life. My dad fought lung cancer for two years, and he didn't let it keep him from living his life. I feel like a crappy daughter, but I don't really care anymore. I don't want her to be in pain, but I don't really want to hear that "fibro fog" (apparently what people with fibromyalgia call what normal people call forgetting things) keeps her from working. I just feel like she just wants attention, and I don't want to give it to her anymore.

[alabasterangel]

Jun 4, 2012 10:02:36 GMT -5 @panda812 said:

My mom has fibromyalgia (nevermind that some doctors don't even acknowledge that it's an actual illness), and that is all she ever talks about. In person, on facebook, through texts, on the phone. It is driving me crazy. She complains she can't do anything and it has ruined her life. My dad fought lung cancer for two years, and he didn't let it keep him from living his life. I feel like a crappy daughter, but I don't really care anymore. I don't want her to be in pain, but I don't really want to hear that "fibro fog" (apparently what people with fibromyalgia call what normal people call forgetting things) keeps her from working. I just feel like she just wants attention, and I don't want to give it to her anymore.

I'd say this is the first actual confession I've seen in a while. Congratulations.

[Deleted]

I've been pissy and sad for the past couple of weeks, and I have no idea why. I may have taken it out on S too, which is not cool.

[darkling_glory]

Wino - can you suggest doing other things with your MIL on Wednesday nights? Shopping? Manicures? Picnics or grilling out?

It seems like she just wants to spend time with you, so suggesting different things might be good. Explain that you go to church on Sunday and that you'd rather not do any more bible study than that.

Good luck with this all... I'm spoiled because I have an awesome MIL, so I know if I had to tell her something was bothering me she'd completely understand.

I just feel bad that you're stuck doing something you really don't want to do!

[knavy]

I'm so tired of having poor friends. I get tired of having to do everything alone or pay for my friends to come hang out with me. I feel pathetic.

[winofairy]

Jun 4, 2012 10:09:13 GMT -5 darkling_glory said:

Wino - can you suggest doing other things with your MIL on Wednesday nights? Shopping? Manicures? Picnics or grilling out?

It seems like she just wants to spend time with you, so suggesting different things might be good. Explain that you go to church on Sunday and that you'd rather not do any more bible study than that.

Good luck with this all... I'm spoiled because I have an awesome MIL, so I know if I had to tell her something was bothering me she'd completely understand.

I just feel bad that you're stuck doing something you really don't want to do!

Thanks Darkling

I will see what else we can come up with for this week. Maybe dinner out... our treat.

[louietunes]

My bff quit her aweful job and I'm completely jealous. She'll obviously get another job, but her H makes enough to support them both in the meantime. I get annoyed with D sometimes because he makes half as much as I do and doesn't really care to find a job where he makes more money. Being the breadwinner makes me feel stuck.

[sitnspin]

I feel bad for my bestie because her family really sucks monkey balls.

[MyName]

Skipping - try doing that shit for 6 weeks! I know it sucks, but you'll survive. I sat on a bench next to the tub and leaned back under the shower with my leg/cast covered with towels and/or one of those plastic cast covers. I wasn't ideal, but it was a lot better than just a sponge bath. Maybe you could try something like that?

My confession: I'm anxiously waiting for my other boss to get here so I can give them an ultimatum - either I get my raise now or I'm leaving. I am done being passive and polite about this, and I want what I deserve. And if they can't give it to me, then I'll find a new job here or I'll go take over my Dad's business in CT. I have my MBA, other employment options, and nothing to lose! Look out!

[pilife]

Jun 4, 2012 10:59:40 GMT -5 MyName said:

My confession: I'm anxiously waiting for my other boss to get here so I can give them an ultimatum - either I get my raise now or I'm leaving. I am done being passive and polite about this, and I want what I deserve. And if they can't give it to me, then I'll find a new job here or I'll go take over my Dad's business in CT. I have my MBA, other employment options, and nothing to lose! Look out!

Good for you! Woot! ::Cheers for MN::

[pilife]

My confession:
1. I want to go the FUCK home, even though, I can't do anything there.
2. I don't read posts that are long.. I might skim through them, but I rarely read them all the way through.

[louietunes]

Jun 4, 2012 10:59:40 GMT -5 MyName said:

My confession: I'm anxiously waiting for my other boss to get here so I can give them an ultimatum - either I get my raise now or I'm leaving. I am done being passive and polite about this, and I want what I deserve. And if they can't give it to me, then I'll find a new job here or I'll go take over my Dad's business in CT. I have my MBA, other employment options, and nothing to lose! Look out!

Go get 'em! And let us know what happens. ;D

[duff]

Good luck getting shower privileges, Skipping! My confession goes hand in hand...

I haven't had a real shower in almost 8 weeks. I do this thing where I can sit on the floor of the shower (thank god we have opted for a walk-in shower) and kinda scoot around, but I still need M to come and help me rinse off. It sure beats the sponge bath days, but FFS, I just want to STAND under the hot water for a loooong time!

[MyName]

Duff - can you get a shower chair? I freaking loved mine and used it until maybe a month or two ago even though I was cleared to put weight on my ankle in February. The shower is scary when all you have to do is have one tiny slip to be reinjured!

[pilife]

Based on the showering trend in this post.. I think we are a stinky group

[duff]

MN - I almost got one a few weeks ago, but I was convinced I'd be able to stand safely by now, so I didn't think it was worth it. I may just get one...I mean, I'm sure it'll come in hand for those mornings you're massively hungover anyway.

[Deleted]

I wish I could use a shower chair

[Deleted]

Someone on FB posted about how selfish suicide is and I went in to a rant about how it's not about killing yourself to hurt people, it's about escaping your own pain. I seriously get where they were coming from, but really? You do not understand their thought process at all.

[OrangePixyStix]

I was gone for close to 2 hours, I really hope the bossman didn't notice. I have good odds since it was during my normal lunch hour, but I don't want to have to lie if someone asks where I was, yet I don't want to tell then I was out marketing myself around. The interview itself went pretty well but I can tell it is a lot busier than what I have going on now, so my downtime would be cut dramatically. I would have to work every Friday, like most of the rest of the corporate world, so that would kind of suck. I am too spoiled right now, those days off are sacred.

[ILikeSloths]

I have sympathy for everyone in this post who can't/couldn't shower for a while. Sometimes a nice hot shower can change my mood and make me feel better if I'm down, and I can't imagine not being able to take one. I definitely take it for granted.

OPS, good luck on your job interview!

My confession is that I'm aggravated with my two best friends and seriously questioning if our friendships will last. I've lived here 2 years now... TWO FREAKING YEARS... and neither one of them has come to visit me. I only live 3 hours away, and they are always asking me when I'm going back to my hometown to visit them. I go back once every few months to visit friends and family and a few other friends have come here, but my 2 BFF's haven't made an effort to come see me, where and how I'm living, or anything. Maybe my expectations are too high and I realize I'm the one who moved, but I feel like our friendships are one-sided now.

[winofairy]

Jun 4, 2012 12:36:19 GMT -5 @otterama said:

Someone on FB posted about how selfish suicide is and I went in to a rant about how it's not about killing yourself to hurt people, it's about escaping your own pain. I seriously get where they were coming from, but really? You do not understand their thought process at all.

:Y: No one will understand unless they have lived through it. NO ONE!

[mayflowers22]

Aw, I hope he gives you the ok to take a shower!
I confess that I've been putting off studying.